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Thread: Rejected by my so called "oneitis" - blessing in disguise!

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    Default Rejected by my so called "oneitis" - blessing in disguise!

    So, that girl I've been getting oneitis feelings for rejected me. Whoopdeedoo! We ran into each other at a lounge on campus. I'm not surprised because she's a bit older and I probably screwed up the attraction somewhere. We went on two dates (which to her were us "hanging out") and on the most reason one, I said that we should call the next one a date to which she replied with why we should call it anything and all that. I went total AFC haha. We kinda agreed to see where things would lead, but she hasn't replied to my text for four days, so I texted her something unrelated two days ago, had a little convo, I stopped replying, and saw her today:

    Me - Gotta say, you're on point with your replies! (smile/smirk)

    Her - I'm sorry, don't take it personally!

    Me - No worries. Surprise you again next week?

    Her - Um...sure. I'll let you know!

    I HATE uncertainty with a passion - a couple of months ago, I would have been ok with that. Now, I won't stand for that sh1t.

    Me - Yeah, I don't like uncertainty. Did I freak you out last week or something? (Kinda beta, but I knew where this was going)

    She says we should talk outside and we go out and she starts telling me how she hopes I don't take it the wrong way, but she doesn't see me that way yet. Seriously? Nice try with a hook I played it cool, said I understood and all that. I don't like wasting time, so I doubt I'll be talking to her unless I bump into her.

    Downer, huh? Not really - I wanted an LTR with this girl Why? I had her on a pedestal. Looks are deceiving. I expected her to be that innocent girl, but when I got to know her more, I realized I was way off. She's LTR material for sure, just not for me. Better finding out sooner than later.

    Here's another up - HB that I F-closed in that same room happened to be there. We haven't spoken since NYE. I took her out of the room and we hooked up nearby She's inviting me over this weekend. I call this a win-win


    Of the relevant rejections in my life, I'd say this was my third. Not terrible, IMO. I've dealt with each one differently, but this one was, by far, my favorite. I used to be intimidated by this girl because of her accomplishments, age, etc, but I went past that, took her out, and made the attempt to get her into an LTR. I seriously doubt I'll ever meet anyone again that can throw me off my game as much, which is fantastic. Gotta say, learned a lot from this one!
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: Rejected by my so called "oneitis" - blessing in disguise!

    I actually like how you got over your "oneitis" so easily,i got it like 1 year ago,before i knew about the whole PUA community,so i was a total AFC,and now that i look back,i got mad ioi's from her,but because i was such a fool when she showed interest i tried running away from her attention.

    I'm not going to get into the whole strory,but at this point even though i kind of got over her,i actually presented so much more coinfidence after reading/watching pua stuff/NLP which actually led me to reading more psychology,and at this point I got so coinfident,people started calling me a dick so often,because i just stopped giving a damn and act relaxed/alpha all the time,was inspired by Cajun and studied the characters of Robert Dawney Jr,and the actor himself,because if you watch his interviews he's the same as Tony Stark in the movies.

    Anyways,where was I?I don't give a damn anymore,although i still have some feelings for her somehow,but that's probably because we work together and i can't help it,which is why it's amazing to me how you got over it :/

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    Default Re: Rejected by my so called "oneitis" - blessing in disguise!

    Now I don't feel as bad for going AFC in my text considering an expert like you also messed up : P

    Good rebound though, man.

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    Default Re: Rejected by my so called "oneitis" - blessing in disguise!

    Quote Originally Posted by Ra1d View Post
    I don't give a damn anymore,although i still have some feelings for her somehow,but that's probably because we work together and i can't help it,which is why it's amazing to me how you got over it :/
    I got over it for several reasons. Mainly because I found out more about her. See, with her, I was looking for an LTR. I'm a serious guy when it comes to those and I refuse to settle for anything less than perfect in my eyes. Something like that, I don't think anyone should settle for less. I assumed she was that type of girl that you'd eventually want to settle down with, but she had things that were dealbreakers for me. Had I not taken the time to find out more about her, I would have been a wreck haha. Also, I can't stress this enough, but something I've learned is that unless a gives you a reason to have oneitis, you never should. What has she done to deserve all of your attention and feelings? If you can't answer that question in a heartbeat, kick yourself in the head, regain consciousness, and realize that she's done nothing to be placed that high up. Until she does, she's just another girl. Plain and simple.

    As for your situation, feel free to ask the forums for advice. That's what we're all here for - to help out and provide some perspective to your situation!

    Quote Originally Posted by NYkid90 View Post
    Now I don't feel as bad for going AFC in my text considering an expert like you also messed up : P

    Good rebound though, man.
    Expert? I've been doing this PUA stuff since mid November and in no way am I an expert. Far from it. But remember, even the experts mess up. You gotta start somewhere, buddy! Keep practicing, step out of your comfort zone, keep an open mind, and girls will come and go. Just remember to not turn into a player...big difference
    Always leave her better than you found her.


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