There's tons of info on the web about picking up girls and the initial conversations - but very little information about what to do after you've n-closed the girl. I have no problem getting numbers, but I'm really screwed when it comes to the date - hopefully you guys can give me some suggestions about where I went wrong.
So the date starts at 9pm in lower manhattan - at a bar I choose randomly. I was 5m late and the girl was standing in the middle of the pub and the first thing she said was "can we go somewhere else". Bad start. However we went to another bar, and then another bar, and then another bar... and then another bar. The girl was cute HB7. She explained that she's a night owl - so 9-4a is really her time - being somewhat nocturnal myself this suited me. The conversation was good and friendly, and I tried to make some Kino Escalation but found it very awkward to do once we were in deep interesting conversation. I'd touch her knee or hold her hand and ask about her rings - but it didn't go much beyond that. I was attempting to keep the topics sexual in nature, but we kept veering off into other directions. She was too interesting - and we were becoming increasingly drunk. I was aware I was very much in danger of being friend-zoned but I didn't know what to do.
By 4am, when the bars close, we still had barely touched and I wasn't getting any huge flirty vibe from her..... but she did continue to hang out with me for the past 7 hours... we were just enjoying ourselves... So when I dropped her off at her subway, she looked at me expectantly - and briefly thought i should kiss her - but it would have been awkward since we hadn't really escalated to that. Instead of kissing her I told her straight up that we didn't really connect physically - and so I'm going home - maybe a little too honest.
Obviously I just lost control and let her lead me around to a bunch of bars. I want to try again today with a different girl. How do I prevent this? I want to be able to take a girl out for 2 hours, have very little drink, and then back to my place. How do you Kino escalate when sitting next to each other? What are some good topics of conversation that keep her mind on sex?