March 3, 2013 @ Ala Moana Shopping Center
I park on the bottom floor and decide to do some approaches at the mall while I wait for 730pm to roll around. I was supposed to meet up with this girl from PoF, but she ended up working (flake most likely). I walked from the front of the mall to the center stage where there was a huge make-up event going on (lots of people gathering around and lots of transgendered females were apart of the hosting group), so I made my way toward the food court. Before I could make it past Lids one of the guys at the kiosk stands offered me a massage ~ I was already excited for wanting to approach people so I played along. He sat me in a chair, hooked up these sticky pads to my back, and the massage began. It was intense because my body was moving uncontrollably with each pulse. I destroyed his "seller-buyer" act by consistently changing the subject and getting to know him better. Eventually, we got onto the topic of girls and I told him he was a cool cat so I'd do what I can to help his business. He let me go and I was off!
I walked through the stores looking for mother's day gifts and women to approach to just have a short conversation. I went to the Apple store and ended up seeing one of my old classmates there who knew a girl that I met at a club a long, long time ago ~ nice little warm up and surprise. I left and made my way down the strip ~ the entire time that I was moving across the strip I was thinking of openers. One stuck with me and I ended up using it in every store I entered. I started at Bath & Body, where I bought four bottles of lotion while talking to one of the workers there. She was married but it was still a nice conversation. I left there and made my way to one end of the mall.
Every store I looked in that had a female worker, I immediately approached, all with the same opener: "Hey, I need to ask you a quick question. I'm looking for the free massage place; do you know where it is?" After each approach, I added more to it: "Yeah, the one where the guy sits you in a chair and puts sticky pads on your body and it pulses and contracts your muscles." Every store worker was completely open to helping me find this place and it felt easier and easier to approach and continue on after the opener. "Well, my friend said that it wasn't a 'store' but it was more like a 'kiosk' in the middle somewhere." Added later: "Oh okay, which floors have the kiosks?" which added later: "Oh cool, this is the ______ floor, right?" and ejected afterward. A few store workers actually told me to come back and let them know when I find this place.
I did about 15+ approaches in 2hours... But only one set stood out ~ HBBlackBelt. I walked in the store, took a deep breath and let it out. She greeted me and went back to her work, so I turned toward her and said "It was actually the smell that brought me in here. I need to ask you a quick question." By this time, I had my 'routine' in the bag and was able to portray strong body language and speak with so much confidence. There were so many IOIs it was rediculous (dropped what she was doing, slowly moved toward me, held strong eye contact while I talked and little eye contact when she talked, pupils dialated, leaned in when i spoke, and I saw her melt when I smiled at her before walking out the first time.) After walking around for about 20minutes I went back to her work place and did the exact same thing when I entered, but this time she was walking past the door and greeted me, asked me if I found it, I said "Yeah, thanks to you!" She smiled and laughed, but continued folding the clothes so I moved past her and to the back of the store. I opened another worker and struck up a little conversation about how I wanted to find a small jacket for my little cousin for his birthday that's a month out, but how the sweater might not be there because their clothes changes every season. I make my way back to the front slowly where HBBlackBelt is in the same spot I met her. As I walk out the door she says Bye! and I say bye, pause, and walk toward her.
Me: Hey, thanks again. You have a really cute smile. I'm [name], what's your name?
HBBlackBelt: [name] *big smile*
Me: *smile changes to a questioning face* You're in high school.. riiiight? (qualifier)
HBBlackBelt: Yeah, Senior year.
Me: at [guesses school]
HBBlackBelt: Noo [actual school]
Me: *turn back to her as if walking away, i hear her laugh, and i turn back around to her* just playing *smile* i had a friend blahblahblahblahblah blah
We rambled on for a good 5minutes until I felt uncomfortable and ejected with a handshake and a smile ~ I felt guilty because I really was attracted to her and she was attracted to me too, but I couldn't get myself to get her number or invite her out after.
- I approached mainly store workers (Hired Guns?) and one random (who was obviously underage and creeped out lol).
- Using the same opener each time helped to build a 'routine' that was flexible enough to adapt to every approach later.
- Body Language Confidence and Verbal confidence grew with each approach.
- If there was a female in the store at the time I passed, I entered and immediately approached.
- Approach not only store workers (hired guns?) but random shoppers as well.
- Notice IOIs and self-coach myself during each set.
- Move to the next step; build comfort and rapport.
- Using the same opener builds a flexible 'routine' and great competence, and competence is confidence.
- Don't reward female with all of your attention (ie. entire front of body, more than enough eye contact, occassional glances, etc).
- Continue to approach store workers (hired guns?) without hesitation.
Questions, Comments, Improves, and Sustains are greatly appreciated ~ as long as it's constructive criticism. We're all here to grow. Keep in mind that I've been awake for over 40hours.