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Thread: Alpha blocks Alpha

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    Default Alpha blocks Alpha

    Today was a learning day. While talking to a HB5 classmate before class started, and making progress w/o trying, another classmate joins us. He is an Alpha and married w/kids! His Alpha ego pushed him into competition w/me for the HB5's attention. He kept checking me w/everything I said. If I would have said that I walked on water, he would have replied that it was too bad that I didn't know how to swim!

    My error was to engage him in a battle of dhv and ignored the HB5 - testosterone can be a dangerous thing. The HB5, no longer being the center of our attention, got bored and left.

    What I should have done was shut the front door and diverted the convo to the HB5 and kept her the center of attention. What I don't understand is why a "Married" Alpha still finds it necessary to compete for AMOG status.

    I acted the way I did because, as an Alpha, I tend to fight for the leadership role of a group and that causes me to lose focus on my original goal - the target. The good thing is that I know the HB5 is interested and I'll have many more chances in the days ahead.
    Carpe diem!

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    Default Re: Alpha blocks Alpha

    I haven't really read up on AMOG stuff. My general attitude when dealing with another guy that is trying to be alpha, is that I just don't really care what he does. If it has no worth or value to me it has no effect on me and even if it did, I still could care less. Live your own life to your rules and not how someone else sees you.

    just my .02

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    Default Re: Alpha blocks Alpha

    Sometimes it's more alpha to brush off the comments of another "alpha" because you must always think you are more alpha then he is, so you have nothing to prove to him. And thus you become the alpha male by not acknowledging him as a threat. As an alpha you should never have to fight for leadership, because you should always have the lead. No matter what.
    Last edited by Thatoneguyonforums; 03-14-2013 at 12:22 AM. Reason: Edit
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: Alpha blocks Alpha

    Yep, should have just brushed him aside or better yet, brought him into the conversation and made him a part of it. One of the biggest DHVs a person can show is creating social value. It doesn't matter who you create it for. If you make other people feel included this raises your value with your target. If you do this and they are still hostile start making comments at their expense without being obvious about it. Never engage them directly since they aren't worth your time.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Alpha blocks Alpha

    Once you realize that most "gung-ho alphas" wind up old, broke, and stupid, it will help you feel far less threatened by them and the need to out-alpha them drops like lead balloon. The only ones that sometimes can be difficult are the natural alphas who are, by nature, dhv'd naturally and very social.

    In any case, the only thing I ever do in these situations, regardless of whether they are in-your-face or already social, is just to increase the social vibe with the group and also live in my own frame/world and pay a bit more attention to the girl that I might normally do. This should be something you practice on a daily basis anyway, because many of us have a tendency to lose this trait if we go weeks without practice... For some it's normal, but for many of us, it's a thing we practice daily.
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    Default Re: Alpha blocks Alpha

    To be fair I totally see where you are coming from. I end up competing with alpha guys like this without thinking, its like I can't walk away from the challenge. I get round it by reminding myself that making him look like a fool will make me look like a dick, so I act uninterested and let him say what he wants, the girl notices I don't really care about what he's saying and we keep talking and let the other guy overdo it and eventually walk off.

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