Re: FAILED REPORT still an AFC
There are some nights when you can't do anything but don't put yourself down. The first mistake you even made after the night was calling it a failure, I don't believe in failure. I only believe in feedback. You want you did wrong and it's pretty obvious... you didn't approach. When you don't approach you have already lost the game.
When it comes to practising game, you can know all the routine, lines, techniques, method, tools, whatever else you can think but if you don't approach and make the first step than you will never get better. It all comes down to Mindset, you need to adopt a mindset that allows you to be confident and bold enough. The easiest thing you can do adopt being more honest. When you're honest to everyone you can say and do whatever you please as long as it's in reason. Be honest about yourself and your abilities, you're a man, you have started reading on pick up and you're getting involved. You are already in the top 90% of men out there because you have already made a start, there's no point in stopping now!
Start being honest with the girls, that's the most important thing. If you see a girl in the club and you think she's cute as fuck, seriously... tell her. Contrary to popular belief, a girl actually likes her look being valid but you need to say it with conviction and there's no better conviction than honesty and genuinity. Just look in her eyes as you say it. Practise holding eye contact with everyone, your friends, your parents, strangers, teachers, anyone. If she doesn't like the fact you where honest than you don't have to bother with her, just walk away (girls like it when a man can walk away) and the best thing you will feel so good after you spoke to her. There have been a few occasions where I haven't done an approach in ages and I did a completely direct opener, didn't get too far but the fact I had the balls to say it made me feel like a new man.
You want to know how to not make this happen again? Start taking control of your progress, right now, yes you are a beginner but everyone started from some place, not everyone became a master overnight. Start off with making 5 very light approaches and work up from there. If you have trouble with any part of the interaction, write it down, start making a log of your nights and see where you went wrong and find ways to correct those sticking points.
An example of this: If you are not sure on how to close the girl, write that down and find out how to Number Close and practise it the next time you're out.
It just like the way they do it in sports. If the team has played a game regardless if they have a win or loss, the coach will look at the game again to check for flaws and things the team did not do well. They will take their notes and implement new tactics to rectify the problems when they prepare for the next game.
Practise 3 openers in the mirror until you feel confident that you know them off by heart and imagine you are talking to a really hot chick as you say it.
Try using a more positive vocabulary as well, that not to say you should sugar coat anything but it has been proven that using more positive words (such as good, awesome, great) will have an impact on your outlook on life rather than using negative words (such as failure, bad, worthless, horrible). If your night did not go to plan instead of saying "damn, what a horrible night, I completely failed" try saying "Eh, that wasn't the best night, I'll come back and do better next time".
One last tip. If girls are looking in your direction (especially if it's more than once) they want you to open her. Nothing fancy, just go up to and say "Hey, hows it going". Just try it. All you need to be good with girls all boils down to pure confidence. Anyone can be good at game if they eliminate or control their sexual and social anxieties.
But at the end of the day, this is all up to you, you have to make the effort and you have to instigate the change in your life. Good luck and most importantly, have fun!
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