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Thread: Dance Game: A God with Questions

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    Default Dance Game: A God with Questions

    Well, here it is: my first field report. I have been working hard on this stuff for three months now, and tonight there was a school dance. This dance was the biggest of the year, and I was determined to put my new-found skills to the test. As we used to say in swimming, when months of hard work encounters a moment of opportunity, you get victory, and I felt victorious before I even went to that dance.

    So I get there, I am alone, and I enter the place feeling like a God. I was a little intimidated though because there was no one there that I knew, and I didn't immediately feel like jumping into a circle. However, throughout that entire time, Tyler Durden's words kept echoing in my head, and I kept on my cool and just chilled, drawing upon all the energy from myself and not letting my environment faze me.

    Eventually, this one girl that I had failed with (my Facebook fail guide) came up to me and told me I looked really good. I chatted with her for a bit before these two guys came up and began chatting with her. All of a sudden, my mind clicked right into alpha male mode, and I began to game the guys. Turned out to be one of the funnest things of that night. Turns out both of the guys were from Scotland, and one of them was visiting for the weekend. It actually ended up that I stole the guys from that girl and we had fun talking about hitting up women, drinking beer, and cross-cultural trends.

    We did this for about an hour, and then they left, so I went to do random things. This ranged from wandering back and forth between the dance floor and the tables. I ended up just socializing the entire time. However, my game was almost never focused on the women. In fact, my game was focused on the men. Whenever I hit up one of the guys, some girls would come over and start chatting with me. One introduced herself to me and we had a light conversation, but she headed off and I had no interest in pursuing her. Same thing happened with these two other girls that came up to me. They were nice, but they weren't my type.

    And then, my work with the men paid off.

    I went onto the dance floor with this Senior I had met, and little did I know, he was friends with this girls I had my eye on for a while. She didn't introduce herself right away, but her friends were quick to. I played along with the friends, but my real target was the girl across the circle from me. When "Don't Stop Believing" came on, I finally managed to catch her attention with some funny air guitar stuff I was doing. Half of the group left, and eventually it got down to me and her. She finally introduced herself, and even though the music was still playing, we all of a sudden began ripping out stuff because we were figuring out so many interesting things about each other.

    Since the music was loud, I suggested that we move somewhere else to chat, and she agreed. We moved into the lobby, and we had a major rapport bomb right there. We both figured out we were really into music, we talked about the places we have been to, and we actually figured out that out of all the students there, we were three hours away and lived only 15 minutes apart from each other. What a small world . Eventually, we figured out that the dance was almost over, and we decided to head back out for one last go. I did hip bumps with her and amused her the entire time. She was copying my dance moves the entire time, and asked me to show her how to strobe (thanks Batman). Throughout the entire night, I had her thoroughly entertained, and it seemed like things were super successful.

    I am confused on my next course of action however. Here goes why:

    At the end of the night, we both parted ways, and I began to head to my car. As I'm going there, all of a sudden she blazes by me and I go "Run [girl] run!". That got another laugh out of her. Considering the night went fairly well and I built up a ton of rapport, I decided to ask her out for coffee the next morning. The conversation went like this:

    Me: "Hey, I'm thinking about grabbing some coffee at [coffee joint] tomorrow"
    Her: "Oh hey, that's cool!"
    Me: "We should join up and head there tomorrow"
    Her: "I don't know, my roommates said they made plans, but I never know if they're going to fall through on them or not"
    Me: "Well then, we should exchange numbers then, so we can figure this out"
    Her: "Well you can always just friend me on Facebook, you know who I am so"

    I have not friended her on Facebook yet, but I have checked out her page and I know she's single. My original plan was not to friend her until the weekend was over (considering I am busy with essays and such and I do not plan to be on Facebook that much). I sort of interpreted that as a blow off, but then again the night went so fantastic that I'm really not sure what call to make on this. Any input on this situation?
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Dance Game: A God with Questions

    How old are you man? Are you in high school? I would have been more aggressive like putting your phone in her hands and having her put it in. But thats the past I would add her on fb and drop your number to her. I hate fb so I odnt know about game on there. Your in another realm.

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    Default Re: Dance Game: A God with Questions

    Nah, I'm 20 years old and in college (good guess though). I'm willing to make some extreme moves, but there are some where I'm worried that it'll just come off as creeperish. You always got to be able to put yourself in her shoes.

    I guess it would be a good idea to friend request her then, since our interaction is still high, and then maybe I'll send her a message tomorrow going "Hey, thanks for the awesome time last night Ms. President " The president part is because she's the SGA President at my college.
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    Default Re: Dance Game: A God with Questions

    facebook game feels creepy in general.

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    Default Re: Dance Game: A God with Questions

    Dude... if you did everything right, then it will not be creepy. And it sounds like you did good. Did you ever hear Suave Kino's Number Close? Just take out your phone, go to add contact and say,"how do you spell your name? (Or say OK your name is Jennifer what?)." Then ask her to give you the number. But start it like you already know she is going to give it to you. Shows alphaness.

    Also, you can tell her you dont facebook often (but thats up to you if you want to use that line).

    Finally, if she persists and doesnt want to give it to you, call her out for trying to pick you up in a funny way. "Oh so im just a one night dance for you? You just use me and kick me to the curb? I knew you were a player! And i thought we had a deep connection!" Then wink. Keep it fun and act like you wont give it now (but usually she will ask for it at this point).

    And a sidenote... did u flirt and build attraction? Because it sounds like you may have just interviewed her or shown too much interest.
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    Default Re: Dance Game: A God with Questions

    why not just add her on facebook the next day (maybe its today?) and then give her some time to msg you and if she doesnt call her out on it and set up your date that way

    and Swag, why are you thanking her for the awesome time, doesn't make sense to me

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    Default Re: Dance Game: A God with Questions

    i wouldnt add her. maybe wait a few days and then just message her and not even add her. she'll be all like why didnt he add me and blahhblah she'll get hooked

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    Default Re: Dance Game: A God with Questions

    I actually really don't know hyp. Last night, I was just exhausted and my only intentions were to share with you all what happened, ask my questions, and then fall asleep for ten hours. I had originally thought that it would be a fun first message, but you are right. There really isn't anything that I should be thanking her for.

    When I was talking to her last night, I was not question bombing her the entire time. We only asked questions when something interesting came up, and she was actually asking me tons of questions when I was talking about my experiences in band. I negged her a few times, and it got her laughing. I did flirt with her by making assumptions instead of questions, and that got her chatting and laughing pretty good. Throughout the entire conversation, I kept and focused direct eye contact on her. I remembered my lessons with pickup and Buddhism to keep my mind in the now and to not let it wander off. On the dance floor, after I hip bumped her, we started grinding on each other's sides and she goes "this is wayyyy better!". So overall, I felt like with the tons of rapport we built, and the fact we were both really enjoying the night, I did a good job with escalating attraction.

    So I got a notification that she accepted my friend request immediately after I sent it last night (note this was two in the morning and I got off right after that). After sleeping on it, I've decided that I'll take this course of action:

    I won't message her immediately. I did actually make new plans to go out to breakfast with a group (me showing that she is not the number one priority), and then I'm studying with a friend. After that, maybe I'll talk to her. If not, then sometime tomorrow. And if I do, then as I'm asking how her weekend was, I'll tell her all of the awesome stuff that I did, and maybe even drop in an on-campus ghost experience that I had a few weekends ago. But she doesn't know about that

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    Scratch those last two sentences, I have an even BETTER idea. I could use the ghost story to bait her to an on campus coffee joint. I'd probably tell her "There's more awesome stuff to my weekend, including this freaky ghost experience. But if you want to hear it, you're going to have to meet me at [place] "
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    Default Re: Dance Game: A God with Questions

    Hmmm... you were grinding and yet she didnt give u the number? Did u escalate after the dance floor?

    Your plan sounds good. (EDIT: just mention the ghost story. Dont get too into your other weekend fun until u see her.)Stick with your "PUA Gut Instinct" and let the chips fall where they may. Good luck!
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    Default Re: Dance Game: A God with Questions

    No, not really. We just parted ways after the dance. The bulk of the interaction that I did was when we weren't on the dance floor. The grinding you're probably thinking of did not happen. We were shoulder to shoulder, rubbing up and trying to push each other over out of a show of fun.

    And thanks man, I think my gut instinct is to fire up a chat with her tomorrow and give her incentive to come interact with me in person.
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