Well, here it is: my first field report. I have been working hard on this stuff for three months now, and tonight there was a school dance. This dance was the biggest of the year, and I was determined to put my new-found skills to the test. As we used to say in swimming, when months of hard work encounters a moment of opportunity, you get victory, and I felt victorious before I even went to that dance.
So I get there, I am alone, and I enter the place feeling like a God. I was a little intimidated though because there was no one there that I knew, and I didn't immediately feel like jumping into a circle. However, throughout that entire time, Tyler Durden's words kept echoing in my head, and I kept on my cool and just chilled, drawing upon all the energy from myself and not letting my environment faze me.
Eventually, this one girl that I had failed with (my Facebook fail guide) came up to me and told me I looked really good. I chatted with her for a bit before these two guys came up and began chatting with her. All of a sudden, my mind clicked right into alpha male mode, and I began to game the guys. Turned out to be one of the funnest things of that night. Turns out both of the guys were from Scotland, and one of them was visiting for the weekend. It actually ended up that I stole the guys from that girl and we had fun talking about hitting up women, drinking beer, and cross-cultural trends.
We did this for about an hour, and then they left, so I went to do random things. This ranged from wandering back and forth between the dance floor and the tables. I ended up just socializing the entire time. However, my game was almost never focused on the women. In fact, my game was focused on the men. Whenever I hit up one of the guys, some girls would come over and start chatting with me. One introduced herself to me and we had a light conversation, but she headed off and I had no interest in pursuing her. Same thing happened with these two other girls that came up to me. They were nice, but they weren't my type.
And then, my work with the men paid off.
I went onto the dance floor with this Senior I had met, and little did I know, he was friends with this girls I had my eye on for a while. She didn't introduce herself right away, but her friends were quick to. I played along with the friends, but my real target was the girl across the circle from me. When "Don't Stop Believing" came on, I finally managed to catch her attention with some funny air guitar stuff I was doing. Half of the group left, and eventually it got down to me and her. She finally introduced herself, and even though the music was still playing, we all of a sudden began ripping out stuff because we were figuring out so many interesting things about each other.
Since the music was loud, I suggested that we move somewhere else to chat, and she agreed. We moved into the lobby, and we had a major rapport bomb right there. We both figured out we were really into music, we talked about the places we have been to, and we actually figured out that out of all the students there, we were three hours away and lived only 15 minutes apart from each other. What a small world . Eventually, we figured out that the dance was almost over, and we decided to head back out for one last go. I did hip bumps with her and amused her the entire time. She was copying my dance moves the entire time, and asked me to show her how to strobe (thanks Batman). Throughout the entire night, I had her thoroughly entertained, and it seemed like things were super successful.
I am confused on my next course of action however. Here goes why:
At the end of the night, we both parted ways, and I began to head to my car. As I'm going there, all of a sudden she blazes by me and I go "Run [girl] run!". That got another laugh out of her. Considering the night went fairly well and I built up a ton of rapport, I decided to ask her out for coffee the next morning. The conversation went like this:
Me: "Hey, I'm thinking about grabbing some coffee at [coffee joint] tomorrow"
Her: "Oh hey, that's cool!"
Me: "We should join up and head there tomorrow"
Her: "I don't know, my roommates said they made plans, but I never know if they're going to fall through on them or not"
Me: "Well then, we should exchange numbers then, so we can figure this out"
Her: "Well you can always just friend me on Facebook, you know who I am so"
I have not friended her on Facebook yet, but I have checked out her page and I know she's single. My original plan was not to friend her until the weekend was over (considering I am busy with essays and such and I do not plan to be on Facebook that much). I sort of interpreted that as a blow off, but then again the night went so fantastic that I'm really not sure what call to make on this. Any input on this situation?