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    Default Gaining some recognition, good or bad?

    Ahahah I walk up to HB with friend going into a store.
    Exscuse me ladies.
    I had to stop you, your so geargous I had to say Hi!
    HER: Are you serious?!
    2 sec pause.
    Yeah. Maintaining eye contact like a boss not reacting.
    You were the guy who tried to pick me up at the other mall!
    Me: Oh I dont remember, whats your name.
    Her: No, (walks away)

    Hahaha shit guys thats how I know I've been sarging hard. These malls are like 15 miles from eachother!

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    Default Re: Gaining some recognition, good or bad?

    It's great that you're going out and being super active. However, you have got to be careful about where and how much you do it. Reputation in a town of even 100,000 can spread like wildfire. Just make sure you are studying outside of the field and picking up new things to try in the field.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Gaining some recognition, good or bad?

    Quote Originally Posted by Devil_dog View Post
    Ahahah I walk up to HB with friend going into a store.
    Exscuse me ladies.
    I had to stop you, your so geargous I had to say Hi!
    HER: Are you serious?!
    2 sec pause.
    Yeah. Maintaining eye contact like a boss not reacting.
    You were the guy who tried to pick me up at the other mall!
    Me: Oh I dont remember, whats your name.
    Her: No, (walks away)

    Hahaha sh1t guys thats how I know I've been sarging hard. These malls are like 15 miles from eachother!

    Looks like they sh!t tested you. You could have re-approached with familiarity and killed it. Saying a HB is gorgeous might be a putting it on a pedestal a little to much there. HB's usually always have good reactions when I use some of these direct openers

    "Hey I thought you looked cute so I wanted to come say hi".
    "Hey you look nice just wanted to see if you can keep up with me."
    "Hey you're looking good what's your name I know I would regret it if I didn't talk to you."

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    Default Re: Gaining some recognition, good or bad?

    Agreed. Should have treated this like a shit test. When she said, "You were the guy who tried to pick me up at the other mall," you should have said something witty. You could have said, "Nah, that couldn't have been me. You said that guy 'tried to pick you up,' which implies he failed..."
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    Default Re: Gaining some recognition, good or bad?

    Some girls just aren't down. I saw her the other day with her boyfriend. But yeah I like going direct. Less success but the girls im dating all say thats why they went with me because they had never seen anyone with that much balls.

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    Default Re: Gaining some recognition, good or bad?

    Quote Originally Posted by Devil_dog View Post
    Ahahah I walk up to HB with friend going into a store.
    Exscuse me ladies.
    I had to stop you, your so geargous I had to say Hi!
    HER: Are you serious?!
    2 sec pause.
    Yeah. Maintaining eye contact like a boss not reacting.
    You were the guy who tried to pick me up at the other mall!
    Me: Oh I dont remember, whats your name.
    Her: No, (walks away)

    Hahaha sh1t guys thats how I know I've been sarging hard. These malls are like 15 miles from eachother!
    And based on what I see today, I'll probably try again next time I see you. (Smirk)

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    Default Re: Gaining some recognition, good or bad?

    Quote Originally Posted by mackdaddyjon View Post
    Looks like they sh!t tested you. You could have re-approached with familiarity and killed it. Saying a HB is gorgeous might be a putting it on a pedestal a little to much there. HB's usually always have good reactions when I use some of these direct openers

    "Hey I thought you looked cute so I wanted to come say hi".
    "Hey you look nice just wanted to see if you can keep up with me."
    "Hey you're looking good what's your name I know I would regret it if I didn't talk to you."
    Huge shit test reaction!

    I think the best way to spin that, is "Hey you guys looked interesting"

    I hate using words like gorgeous,stunning,be autiful,etc.

    Attractive women get these words a sickening amount of times...ugh makes me sick thinking about it, LOL. It takes more then expressing your feelings of physical beauty to land an attractive women.

    Your approach was uncalibrated my friend.

    A good mall approach should ONLY go direct if shes instantly receptive to you.

    EXAMPLE

    YOU: "Hey, excuse me...one second, one second." (Get her attention)

    HER: ???? (Pay attention to her facial expression, eyes.)

    What you say next depends on her reaction)

    If she appears receptive and positive you stopped her, Go Direct with displaying your interest.

    If she appears unreceptive (generally, most will as your interrupting them shopping) then open very indirectly, engauge her, and calibrate to escalation.

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    Default Re: Gaining some recognition, good or bad?

    I disagree with the above. Hardly any guys have the balls to go direct in daygame. Therefore it is like a breath of fresh air. I think the approach was good, the shit test wasn't handled brilliantly, but it was just unlucky that he had tried before

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Gaining some recognition, good or bad?

    If a women you approach has a look of "annoyance" after saying something a neutral as:

    "Hey, excuse me, just a second.

    You then going immediatly direct after that would be foolish.

    It would only further prove to her you have no perception or social calibration.You of course would eventually escaltate during the interaction.

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    Default Re: Gaining some recognition, good or bad?

    "Hey, excuse me, just a second," is one of the classic beta lines. First off, you start by saying excuse me, which suggests you're interrupting her. Second, you ask her for her time, which is never good. Third, it creates the frame that you're chasing her right from the start.

    "Excuse me" are two of the worst words a PUA can use IMO. But saying, "Excuse me," and then going direct may be the worst way of doing things.
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