Re: question - a comment i got
Search body language be conscious of yours as well as hers for ioi
Lots of good info on kino on here
Look at Direct Game also, there is a post about death to the neg on here too. Negging too hard will eff it all up, then going into c-shaped and u- shaped ploy after a failed neg without enough rapport makes you look judgmental/ shallow. It was just a good catalyst for disaster. However at least it was a good learning experience.
Non-verbal game could have impacted the game more too, it always speaks louder than any words you say, hard to say with no mention of it.
Summary look into framing, body language, kino and eliminating negs from your game. There are way better ways to dhv without brining someone else's value down.
Learn to be a better person not a better player.