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    Default I don't want to be your boyfriend

    Yesterday I walked into a female clothes shop after seeing an attractive shop assistant in the window. I was in a posh town and the women there were pretty high class, this woman was no exception. I approached her, it went as follows;

    Me - "Where's the men's section?"

    Her - "Umm.. we don't stock men's clothing, sorry.."

    me - "I know. I'm not actually looking for any clothes at the moment. I saw you in the window and thought you looked really cute, so I had to come in and meet you."

    her - blush and borad smile "Aw, that's so sweet. thank you."

    me - returning smile "you're welcome. So how are you?"


    conversation grew from there, exploring various topics. She stopped doing her work and was genuinely engaged in the discussion.It lasted about ten minutes and I could feel my conversational skill withering (long day) so I decided to clench and close.

    me - "So look, I have to go and I'm sure you have to get back to your work, But I don't feel like I know you yet and such a beautiful woman, I want to know you. How about we meet one night for a drink?"

    her - blushing, nervous smile "Aw, I'm sorry, I already have a boyfriend."

    Me - suggestive smile, deviant now. "I'm not asking to be your boyfriend!"

    her - gasps in shock at first, instantly clocking what I'm saying. "hmm...." she actually took a moment to consider this.. "Ok, next time you're in Bath come to the shop, we can go out and have our drink then."


    So, I could have pushed for a number or arranged a date then and there or whatever to test whether or not she was serious, though it seemed like she was. But to be honest, this was the time I had used that response to a girl telling me she had a boyfriend and I was surprised by her response. I found myself questioning whether or not i could knowingly do that to a relationship.

    I'm sincerely curious now,what would you do? (this city is very close to me and going back would not be a problem. In fact I have a date with a girl from that city I number closed yesterday.)
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    Default Re: I don't want to be your boyfriend

    Your answer was actually cool,but you should have probably tested her if the BF is real or not(like Sasha Daygame,which you were inspired by).

    Watch her BL too,if you feel she's not faking,do whatever you want from there i guess.
    Personally i don't like competing with the BF,even if you don't have to meet her him,it takes time...and might get annoying at some point.
    I mean you have to make her realize that her BF is beta,by not raising her defenses while doing so.

    Usually it doesn't take a date or 2,might even take too long.While with another girl you could probably go FC or make her your GF.

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    Default Re: I don't want to be your boyfriend

    I did think of the testing for the fake boyfriend but I didn't use it because firstly, I sensed a sincerity in what she was saying through her bl and how she said it. Secondly, because i think if i had delivered it it would have been slightly our of character for how I played the situation. I was just a little intense with a good amount of flirting, interest in her... there wasn't much of my usual comical style in there.

    I'm not looking to be anyone's boyfriend, though if the right situation... and all that. I'm simply looking to experience and learn about women in every way I can. I am very open and honest about this with the women I'm with, and they seem fine with it. But as far as competing with him goes... I can't say it's a situation I've been in before. When I date women things move very fast and it's not unusual to get FC on the first date. I'm not sure if this would be the same with this woman.... Honestly, my bemusement at this situation is actually making me want to go back there. But I think it wouldn't be very useful as I should have done something in the moment to be honest.

    Genuinely baffled.
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    Default Re: I don't want to be your boyfriend

    It's not unusual for a first date FC if you're dating a girl that doesn't have a BF,if she does and assuming things go well,you will less likely get past her BF shield on the first few dates.

    The word "GF" is just for girls,i never used the term to be honest,and never been in a serious relationship(not that I'm gaming for long,hardly a year).But it's kind of embarrassing when someone asks me if i had a girlfriend,and i say "no,but i date a lot",sounds like an excuse...

    If you really want to experience,you should Number Close,if a girl tries resisting with her BF shield,a good response would be: "It's ok,numbers don't hurt".

    To be honest,I don't think there's much to that experiment,the BF destroyers go more or less the same way.

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    Default Re: I don't want to be your boyfriend

    Quote Originally Posted by Stigward View Post
    Yesterday I walked into a female clothes shop after seeing an attractive shop assistant in the window. I was in a posh town and the women there were pretty high class, this woman was no exception. I approached her, it went as follows;

    Me - "Where's the men's section?"

    Her - "Umm.. we don't stock men's clothing, sorry.."

    me - "I know. I'm not actually looking for any clothes at the moment. I saw you in the window and thought you looked really cute, so I had to come in and meet you."

    her - blush and borad smile "Aw, that's so sweet. thank you."

    me - returning smile "you're welcome. So how are you?"


    conversation grew from there, exploring various topics. She stopped doing her work and was genuinely engaged in the discussion.It lasted about ten minutes and I could feel my conversational skill withering (long day) so I decided to clench and close.

    me - "So look, I have to go and I'm sure you have to get back to your work, But I don't feel like I know you yet and such a beautiful woman, I want to know you. How about we meet one night for a drink?"

    her - blushing, nervous smile "Aw, I'm sorry, I already have a boyfriend."

    Me - suggestive smile, deviant now. "I'm not asking to be your boyfriend!"

    her - gasps in shock at first, instantly clocking what I'm saying. "hmm...." she actually took a moment to consider this.. "Ok, next time you're in Bath come to the shop, we can go out and have our drink then."


    So, I could have pushed for a number or arranged a date then and there or whatever to test whether or not she was serious, though it seemed like she was. But to be honest, this was the time I had used that response to a girl telling me she had a boyfriend and I was surprised by her response. I found myself questioning whether or not i could knowingly do that to a relationship.

    I'm sincerely curious now,what would you do? (this city is very close to me and going back would not be a problem. In fact I have a date with a girl from that city I number closed yesterday.)
    First of all this set is absolutely awesome, way to own it! I am so impressed by your response it kills me. Was this your own canned material or were you winging it? I was thinking of my own comebacks lately for the BF rejection thing and I am going to be trying them out like,

    "Is your BF as good looking as me?" or
    "What if I could be your BF?"

    I hope I get to Field Test these with congruence but yeah as far as my suggestion I would say to literally do what she said. I have gotten in the dog house so many times because an HB told me to text her in the morning and I didn't so she got flaming pissed or an HB told me to come see her at work and I didn't and again she got flaming pissed. You got to listen to them man if you want to get the ball rolling.

    But yeah literally try to show up towards the same time you did earlier and ask her when she gets off or whatever and then set a date. Awesome deal man sounds like she wants to hook up or replace her BF for you. Remember HB's will almost always give you a chance if they start to like you more than their current BF. But I would say I was starting to think there was no rebound for a BF rejection but I am going to try mine out and maybe even yours. Good luck man.

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    Default Re: I don't want to be your boyfriend

    Quote Originally Posted by mackdaddyjon View Post
    First of all this set is absolutely awesome, way to own it! I am so impressed by your response it kills me. Was this your own canned material or were you winging it? I was thinking of my own comebacks lately for the BF rejection thing and I am going to be trying them out like,

    "Is your BF as good looking as me?" or
    "What if I could be your BF?"

    I hope I get to Field Test these with congruence but yeah as far as my suggestion I would say to literally do what she said. I have gotten in the dog house so many times because an HB told me to text her in the morning and I didn't so she got flaming pissed or an HB told me to come see her at work and I didn't and again she got flaming pissed. You got to listen to them man if you want to get the ball rolling.

    But yeah literally try to show up towards the same time you did earlier and ask her when she gets off or whatever and then set a date. Awesome deal man sounds like she wants to hook up or replace her BF for you. Remember HB's will almost always give you a chance if they start to like you more than their current BF. But I would say I was starting to think there was no rebound for a BF rejection but I am going to try mine out and maybe even yours. Good luck man.
    I can't accept any credit for the response I used. I got that from James Marshall. Though, I can accept credit for delivering it like a boss haha. Sasha daygame has some great responses to the bf rejection too, ranging from "Is he real or is he imaginary?" to "Has he ever made you orgasm for an hour?" Always amazed when he cracks that one out without getting slapped.

    Ok, if I find myself in bath any time soon I will go back and remind her of what she said,see if I can't get a date with her. It's a situation I'm curious to explore now. I'll let you know what happens if I do, But I have a feeling that outside of the moment that I created the other day she will reject the offer. Maybe I could create another moment.

    Let me know how you get on with those responses. I'm always curious to hear what does and doesn't work for other people.
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    Default Re: I don't want to be your boyfriend

    No offence mate, but you should have pushed the Number Close.......because it looks like she kinda brushed you off without being offensive which makes sense because she's at work. It seems unlikely you will see her working again as most shop assistants are part time so she probably won't be working whilst your there. Nice set though....but I would have pushed for the close....

    Linking x

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    Default Re: I don't want to be your boyfriend

    No offence taken. I've not used that before, and for me I was questioning the morality of the situation. Now i've had time to think and I know what I wish I had done. But hind sight and all that.

    And yeah she'll be working there again most of the time. It's one of those little posh shops with few staff, those sort of stores seem to employ a small workforce for full time hours as opposed to bigger stores like the one I work in that employ loads with part time hours.
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    Default Re: I don't want to be your boyfriend

    Very nice set man, but yeah you most definitely should have number closed. Something that took me awhile to learn was to always Number Close. So many times when I said I'll come back and then number close, and I've never seen the girl again. I'm personally against going after girls with boyfriends. So I'll number close and leave it at that. I may text them occasionally or something, but you never know what the future holds. Good stuff though!


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