Hi fellas! Today is the day I got my first N-close, while day gaming and I feel awesome. Let's quickly get into it. To start with, I only did one approach today because I was tired just after the gym and my thoughts were with my wing where he got AMOGed by a chubby dude, while he's trying to game his target. But that's another story. In short, I wasn't really in the state to do approaches.
I'm in college, summer school, my wing and I go for lunch and my wing notices a cute HB8 sitting alone, across the room. I wasn't really going to approach but thinking a fine girl like that sitting alone, I had to do something. So I flipped the switch, lifted my spirits, gave myself a couple chest bumps and I was good to go. And to make it fun, I wanted to think of the most unrelated approach.
So after we got our meal I noticed that the only ketchup bottle was on HB8's table. And you know, the delicious french fries I just got, can't go without some ketchup. So I started to walk towards her with a warm smile and strong body language. As soon as she notices that I'm in her personal space, she greeted me with one of the warmest smiles of my life. And I knew it was on:
Me: "Hey I saw you kidnapped the last ketchup bottle so I needed to come over here and get some."
HB8: "Yeah I was lucky to get it I guess, there's a lot of people here today."
Me: "Must be because of summer school."
HB8: "I bet! You're here for summer school too?"
Me: "For sure, not you?"
HB8: "Nooo, I'm here for the internships! "
Me: "Internships, wow, smart girl! But what's your department?"
HB8: "CS (Computer Science), yours?"
Me: "You're kiddin' I'm CS too!" (No lying, pure coincidence)
HB8: "Really? Which semester?"
Me: "Let's see... You're doing your intern so I must be a year behind you."
(I noticed that the convo was getting a bit dull here so I had to bail before we lose the spark, but I wasn't done..."
Me: "I really need to get back to my friend right now, I guess I'll be seeing you around!"
HB8: "Okay, see ya!"
You can see that this convo is really boring, no dhv, no nothing, but what you don't see are the looks she's giving me. The smile she had. I just barely needed to talk. She was smiling, playing with her hair, eye contact, everything. I went back to my wing after the name exchange and a non-fancy handshake.
But seeing the IOIs she gave me, I couldn't just let it go. 10 mins fast forward, I see her leaving and I literally ran after her and grabbed her arm. (Maybe the most AFC move I could ever do, but it caught her off-guard and again she gave me one of her big smiles.)
Me: "Hey, *her name*! You know what? I forgot to get your number..."
(I was ready to give a reason why I wanted her number, some silly stuff like I might be needing her help while picking up an internship. But she instantly pulled her phone out before I could even talk, so I was kind of shocked and froze.)
Me: "(I snapped back into reality and noticed that my phone wasn't in my pocket, I left it back at my table.) Dammit! I left my phone back at the table."
HB8: "(Playfully) Oh you!"
So I escorted her back to my table, initiate hard kino, directly put my hand on her waist. Risky move but hey, she came closer and kind of brushed her body against mine. And finally, I got her digits back at my table, and said goodbyes. Done!
The reason I'm writing this is to emphasize on my approach and the possible 80/20 rule. Notice that I didn't use any canned stuff or girl/boy related relationship stuff. I just observed my environment and used it in my favor, simple as that. It doesn't need to be the cleverest or the most breath-taking opener. About the 80/20 rule, I barely had to do anything, yet she was clearly into me. Don't know if it was pure luck but I'll take it anyway.
And of course my questions:
Now that I have her number, what should be my text game to set up a date? I think it's obvious that I'm still in attraction phase, so keep the fun, keep her talking and squeeze in DHV?
Should I ask for a date after attraction or after "attraction + comfort"? If the answer is "attraction + comfort" wouldn't it be a bit hard to do just over the phone?
Should I start calling her after I build some rapport?
Hell of a write about a 5 minute talk lol. Hope you guys read it all and answer my questions.