Update - Last attempt before the winter break begins:
Today's the last day we'll meet up in 2 weeks. It's basically our Japanese exam. We've also arranged a little gathering for girl A's friend who's returning to Japan and probably will not be back for a while.
There was a little intermission period before our night started. Girl A started talking about her life again (good sign) and this time I was able to direct her topics into relationships which soon enough she began talking about sex. I thought this was a great start because this means I have chance! I had a near close moment but I slipped and couldn't grab onto it. I was afraid and I couldn't push myself over the edge. I didn't know what to say and it felt awkward if I just blurred out "hey, I like you" out of nowhere.
As for the rest of the night things were great. Our casts tonight include, me, JGirl (Girl A's Japanese friend), JGirl2 (JGirl's friend) and 1 more guy from our class. Apparently this was arranged deliberate between JGirl and Girl A with the purpose of hooking JGirl2 up with this new guy (let's call him Jon).
With the new inner game and having knowledge on how to deal with potential AMOGs here on this forum, I was ready for war. I have this feeling when he entered that he feels a bit threatened by my presence so he doesn't interact with me much. Instead he seemed to have directed attention towards Girl A. I wasn't jealous/nervous or anything. I just simply skipped them and talked to JGirl and JGirl2 to keep me in the loop and everything was great.
The greek dinner was interesting. The taste was very different to the type we're used to. Naturally I entertained the 2 girls and we all had a good time. I watched as Jon tried to ask JGirl2 out on a date but it was done very poorly as he showed hesitation and direct. I tried hard not to laugh but Girl A started giggling and I had to hold myself back with a gigantic smile on my face. Poor dude, the girl didn't know what to say but "well......" and avoided answering.
We parted ways and headed down to the subway station. There was barely anyone there and I wanted to do the close! I said "You did great today mylady" and she said "what?" and then the convo carried on. I missed my first chance.
We got onto the subway train and I tried to kiss her again, but this time it was a lot harder because tons of people were present and I can literally see some of the women actually looking at me which made me more nervous. My heart started beating really quickly and I can't think straight anymore. At last I couldn't say it and it the train came to a stop at her station. She hugged me and that was it.
I felt disappointed. I felt so Sh1tty after. I had 2 chances to close her but I didn't. I had a chance to confess but I "waited" for the right moment which I knew I shouldn't have but I couldn't help doing. I tried to make sense of everything which was not necessary. I failed. Time to move on and make the best out of the rest of my holiday.
Comments? Suggestions? all welcomed!
Last edited by Mystery_wannabe; 12-17-2009 at 09:02 PM.
Pick yourself up and learn from your mistakes. Don't beat yourself up, it only hurts your game.
I think boot camp would be really good for you, or watching some PUA's work. As I have mentioned multiple times before, you got to get that ridiculous idea out of your head that there is some sort of perfect moment for a kiss. It is only your inhibitions lying to you and making you not act.
I find it interesting that you seem so adept at opening but have so much trouble kiss closing. I find it much harder to open, than to kiss close. One thing you might try is to start getting in the habit of kissing girls on the cheek. That will help you get over a lot of your personal space issues and also it makes the girl much more open to an early kiss attempt.
Direct Game is easier, IF you are sexually comfortable and you have great confidence already built up.
In-direct is easier for most who are learning to pick up because they can go slower and not have to worry about being rejected. Also, there are many built-in mechanisms to "test" the girl to see if she's ready to be closed or not. This way, you can remain friends if you feel that things have turned for the worse although this method does have its draw backs (sometimes being too indirect and thus the user falls into friend's zone).
Can anyone tell me the best place to meet girls in the daytime. I like to use a direct approach showing interest straight away?
Any feedback would be appreciated.
Word of caution would be to refrain from going into a relationship with co-workers since if the relationship goes sour you'll be stuck with her for a while.
Great thread! But please tell me how the story ends. Did you get the girl?
My approach would have been different from the beginning. I would have looked to take her out to a club where the combination of dancing together to R&B music and liquor would have likely lead to a very quick close. Dancing is Kino Escalation on steroids.
Btw I would also have added her to facebook. Creepy as it sounds it pays to read the girls info tab especially their interests. You can also dhv with your own page.
Hope everything works out, keep it real and please tell me how the story ends!