Hey guys, I'm Lunchbox but for the purposes of these field reports I'll refer to myself by my last name "Boyce".
The basics about me are as follows;
-20 years old
-Studying for my degree, about to begin the second year
-I'm from England.
-I'm 6'2, a little bit on the fat side but I don't let it affect me too much. I'm working to burn it off, but it's a non-factor as far as confidence goes. I have a number three all over haircut and my fashion sense is t-shirts, shirts and jeans of a comfortable nature. I never look scruffy but I don't look like I try hard either.
-Current hobbies include Creative Writing (seven years), Amateur Boxing (year and a half, working on fitness before my first fight), Acoustic Guitar (six weeks) and PUA and Social Skill improvement (been wrestling with it for about five years).
-I've had limited experience and success with girls, spending most of my time with some major beta male complexes until I started reading about PUA. My college years however saw a change in pattern but I've still been adjusting to the process. I had a relationship that lasted a year which ended when I wanted it to. I currently have a friend with benefits and have had a few one night stands.
My objectives are as follows;
-Become more socially competent across the board (not just with women)
-Raise my standing socially by detaching myself from the system and "unplugging" from the matrix. I don't jostle for rank with people anymore. I build up others but never to my own detriment, and I shut out people who try to drag me down with non-verbal cues and total ignoring.
-Meet beautiful women and bag myself some real catches.
-Have a lot of flings until I find someone I want to settle down with and generally set myself a higher standard.
In order to do this, the plan is to go balls out in the day game and speak to everybody I can so I pick up a vibe as an approachable and friendly, direct man about town. There's been some considerable improvements before I started this field report which is why I'm doing it because I feel now my findings are going to be worthwhile reading. However, I still have weaknesses to combat.
So, without further ado, here's a summary of my last week or so;
I know I'm off to a bad start talking to you guys about this one because I don't actually know this person. It's entirely possible that this person is actually a man. It's a skype contact that I've known for a long while through various social circles and has great trepidation about sending out pictures to low self esteem. However, I'm using the opportunity to game as practice and it appears to be going well so far.
Day 1 was spent trying to get to know this person better. They're very ungiving and superficial in the group conversations we end up falling into, so taking the time to actually get to know this girl posed a nice challenge and within half an hour of deep diving and asking questions I got to know about her daily routine, her life ambitions, a tonne of stuff about her personality and I also got her to describe herself to me. I'm eventually going to angle this towards getting a picture sent. The low self esteem maybe for a reason because she's not all that attractive, but it's nice practice and I know it's not going anywhere so I can afford to be balls out.
Day 2 was even better. On our second conversation, I began to do some chase framing and making flirtatious remarks. She told me she really wanted to learn a martial art and I made a joke about her "working on her kung fu grip". She played along with it and said that I wanted her to do martial arts so she could use that "grip" on me, and I turned it back saying the reason she wanted to take up martial arts in the first place was so I couldn't fight her off. By the end of this conversation, she is making flirtatious comments and even refers to me as "loverboy".
MONDAY OF THIS WEEK
This week I went out and bought a new acoustic guitar because my practice one that I got as a freebie at the end of high school was a piece of shit, difficult to play and a nightmare to tune. While out, I didn't go out intending to game because I was pressed for time and had an objective to do but I had some encounters and I'm fucking fuming with myself over some of them but more impressed on others.
Before making this journey out, I recently discovered the importance of high posture and smiling to put out those alpha vibes along with not being the first to break eye contact with anybody. I've had dudes stare me out angrily only to buckle or keep going past me because they wanted to try and chump me out with eye contact. Similarly, I've also had girls stare straight at me with smiles on their face but given that I live in a town where there's a whole bunch of ugly people, I didn't approach a lot.
This is god awful and the reason I'm posting this is to remind myself never to let this happen again. There's a girl in my town. I don't know who she is and I've never met her but I've seen her about three times this year and all three of them were golden opportunities that I blew by not moving.
The first time, I notice her while I'm waiting for a late bus home and the first thing that stands out to me is that she's got a fantastic ass (her back is to me). She's pretty tall with synthetic dark hair, and I'm liking what I see. When she turns around I have to blink, because for a second I thought she was a teacher from my college days that I had an enormous crush on only with a hair dye. She eventually sits next to me.
Then, I see two drunk guys halfway down the street yelling about something and I laugh because I'm easy to amuse. The girl looks up from her phone, then laughs after me but in a "Notice me please" kind of way. I ignore it and twiddle my thumbs.
The second time, I get on the top deck of the bus and she's there. I sit across, trying to catch her eye but she'll never look directly at me. I catch her licking her lips at one point. This is another great opportunity but I scuff it.
Then, I forget about her. I haven't seen her for months until out of the blue, there she is, dressed for summer and she looks hotter than ever. I'm salivating at the thought. I sit across from her and we're facing each other on the bus. She's never looking directly at me but to the left of me, so I'm clearly in her peripheral vision. I look out the back of the bus and I catch her staring straight at me, but her eyes sink to the floor when I look back. Clearly, she's aching for it and I plan to speak to her as soon as we both get off the bus but she bails ASAP and I don't see her again. I'm so mad with myself for not saying anything and I promise myself I won't fuck an opportunity like this again.
HB-4 (Hired Gun)
While on a recent excursion abroad, I discovered the joy of a popular Taiwanese drink known as "Bubble Tea", a sort of milky drink with edible flavoured bubbles that rest at the bottom. It's kinda' quirky and different but having never tried it before and acquiring a taste, I found a place in my local city that does it and I went to try it out.
The hired gun I spoke to was exceptionally polite, smiled a dazzling smile but there was something of a language barrier as she clearly wasn't a natural English speaker. We spoke briefly, I told her of my taste for the stuff and got to know her a bit but flirting was kinda' difficult. She ended up having to go though because her boss was giving her looks about her spending too much time talking to me. I could've gone for the number but I didn't find her particularly attractive. Maybe I shouldn't be so fussy.
After these initial experiences I have decided to retake a newbie challenge and start approaching gung ho rather than going situational. I totally beta'd to fuck with the lady on the bus and I got too fussy with the girl in the café but my progress with the Skype contact gives me hope that with a little bit of savvy in the street I can start turning my luck around and stop screwing up.
-Go out again and complete the "Newbie Assignment" that I'm planning to attempt.
-Make another FR post that doesn't totally suck. This is a first draft at 2:33, so the next one should hopefully be more enjoyable to read.
-Get a number from someone.