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    Default Opened two girls at the club: Number closed one - need help following up

    So I went out last night, and it turned out to be interesting. Fridays usually aren't the fun nights here, but there was something different about this night. Went to this club and apparently there was a toga party with mostly asians.

    I had to start somewhere and build social proof so I started poking around and having fun. I opened up a girl who was sitting on the side of the dance floor. I smiled and asked her, " Hey! So Whats the occasion? Whats with the Togas?!"

    She had replied, "The Pharmacy school coming out tonight!" I just asked for her name then I moved on. She didn't seem interested at all. She didn't smile, body turned away...next.

    I couldn't muster up enough courage and open up on the dance floor with 2 or 3 sets of girls. So I continued to chat up a few other friends that were there. Eventually, these two other cute asian girls came into the club later and were in the corner just chit chatting. I decided to try something. I walked over, smiled, and opened, "HEY! YALL ARE LATE, the Toga party just left! Why are y'all still here?! "

    They had no clue what I was talking about. So I kept going, "Yeah! There were a bunch of asians here and I thought y'all were with them... apparently not!"

    They giggle and laughed just a bit. Figured that was my ioi, so I asked for their names. A few mins later my wingman stepped in ... and I had to introduce. Not sure if stepping was the right time but I went along.

    So I chatted up a bit more with my target. I tried to extend the conversation-- I asked them where they were from and they asked what I did here Texas. Eventually I found out they were foreign student new to the city. I told them, " You ladies should come out tomorrow! It'll be more fun! " I started teasing them a bit more; they wanted to go to a club the next day where I thought was pretty lame. I told them, "OH Wow! COME ON, don't go there, come downtown again tomorrow!"

    I tried to dance and mingle a bit, but they were scared hahaha. Eventually, the other girl was getting bored. I decided right then and there to get my target number and leave. I handed her my phone number and said, "Hey, give me your number. *smiles* Youre interesting, I'd like to get to know you a bit more!" I found out it was the real number after she called me back on the spot.

    That night was a confidence booster for me. Feels like I turned nothing into something. I realize you could open with almost anything... the only thing that matters is how they respond. They kept giving me IOI's, so I kept going. When her friend got bored; I tried to extend and open up the conversation to her. I really tried to keep at it with the two!

    Although I got her number. I think my follow up could be better. I was hoping to invite, or meet these girls up before going out again downtown tonight . I was already egging them on trying to go out with me tomorrow. I don't know how to go about this though gentlemen. Do I text or call? I can't wait 3 days to call or text of course. Calling seems more natural and confident. Yet, texting seems more low key and brief.


    Whats the better option? Texting or calling her up?

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    Default Re: Opened two girls at the club: Number closed one - need help following u

    Good move on ignoring the no-go and just moving on. Ain't nobody got time for that. You played your game fairly well with the two other girls, and the time your wingman came in was just fine. It doesn't matter what time they come in as long as they are helping out your game and you both are working towards the same goal of getting what you want.

    I would say to just text her. Don't bring up about going to the bar tonight, and just have a flirty conversation with her.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Opened two girls at the club: Number closed one - need help following u

    Thanks Swagman-

    I did follow up. I tried to text her and got no reply.

    I said, "Hey _____! haf fun last night? " No response which is too bad. Twice this has happened to me. Surprisingly, I don't feel upset or mad... live and learn!

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    Default Re: Opened two girls at the club: Number closed one - need help following u

    You should've tried calling her because now a day guys rarely talk to women on the phone.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Opened two girls at the club: Number closed one - need help following u

    You're just getting your feet wet, so don't sweat it. I disagree with Marvilo: an asian woman, especially a foreign woman, would likely be much more comfortable texting. Do you know what nationality she is? Being from a different country is a wild card sometimes that requires calibration. This happened to me with a girl from China just last month; she was really feeling it though, we danced and talked for a good fifteen minutes one on one before I got the number, and I never heard back. No clue on that one. Meanwhile, girls from Sweden have told me I needed to buy them a drink when I was beating around the bush.
    How was your body language and eye contact? Comfort and rapport building?
    Finally, ditch the smileys when you text- they are little walls we put in front of our words to make them less impactful. Choose a stronger text message follow up, a statement that invokes curiosity or laughter.
    Every set you open is a learning experience; what are some ways you can think of that would've made yourself more irresistible to her? More memorable?
    Keep it up man!

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    Default Re: Opened two girls at the club: Number closed one - need help following u

    marvilo - i did want to try and call. I think its better than texting sometimes cause there is more interaction. I wanted to keep it brief and quick.

    Lancelot, I think my body languange and eye contact was okay. I could push the comfort and rapport building more. Definitely some things Id change if this happened again.

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    Default Re: Opened two girls at the club: Number closed one - need help following u

    Honest opinion, I wouldn't contact her further at all.

    Take the confidence boost, and use it to procure more interested candidates. Well done, brother - now let's upgrade.


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