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    ragr Guest

    Default girl has a boyfriend..she is thinking about a breakup

    allright guys i need your opinion,

    she has been with the same boyfriend a long time. she is more of a classmate than a friend we have talked about stuff but nothing else. all of a sudden she just tells me that she is thinking about breaking up with his boyfriend. I played the psychologist for about 5 mins but then changed the subject. I'm interested in her, but I have had some bad experiences with that kind of girls that have boyfriend, or that just broke up with him.

    So what do you guys think about that?

    Thanks a lot in advance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ragr View Post
    allright guys i need your opinion,

    she has been with the same boyfriend a long time. she is more of a classmate than a friend we have talked about stuff but nothing else. all of a sudden she just tells me that she is thinking about breaking up with his boyfriend. I played the psychologist for about 5 mins but then changed the subject. I'm interested in her, but I have had some bad experiences with that kind of girls that have boyfriend, or that just broke up with him.

    So what do you guys think about that?

    Thanks a lot in advance.
    If she's thinking about breaking up, you're going to have to do one hell of a good job to solidly win her over. She's angry at him because she loves him. This means any time point if the guy can come back, you're at a disadvantaged point. Now I have no experience on how to game girls on a verge of break up so maybe gunsnglory or other PUAs here can give you a hand, but it's definitely a challenge. You also have to take into account that she may feel sour after a break up so she might want some "down time" and to ride through that won't be easy either.

    Ultimately it depends on how much you like her and if you think she's worth all that effort. If you nod your head then step right up and try for it. If all fails then just remain friends Good luck.

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    A lot of how you approach this will depend on whether you want to have her has a girlfriend, or you just want to fool around. If it is the former, you may have a long hard time of it and do you really want a girlfriend who talks about her relationship with you to other guys?

    If it is the latter, she is going to be ready to blow off some steam probably starting right now, even though she is not fully broken up with him. Many times a girl (or a guy) will cheat or do something similar as a catalyst to purposely ruin a relationship that they want to get out of. If she wants out, there is nothing wrong with you providing her a 'fun' way to be bad and get out of it. Just know there is a decent chance she will regret it and possibly blame you and run back to this boyfriend.

    Most people have referred to this as a rebound... and most rebounds don't end up in a relationship.

    Know the facts and you can navigate these waters, but be aware of the risks to your relationship with her.

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    Yeah, I have no real insight to give you on that one. I am 0 for 4 on trying to hook up with girls that just broke out of relationships. Though, as Bill mentioned, a lot of times you can sleep with them pretty easily.

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    Default Re: girl has a boyfriend..she is thinking about a breakup

    A girl who's thinking about breaking up with her boyfriend should actually be pretty easy. Be the therapist for 5 minutes tops, and be sure to show no interest in her when doing it. As soon as you can, though, break into some fun dhv stuff like magic tricks or jokes, and/or grab her and take her on a fun "date". Don't ask her. Say "you need to have some fun. Come on, I know this great place..." etc.

    If a girl's mad at her boyfriend, it's because she's lacking the excitement. If you can show her that missing excitement, you'll instantly be demonstrating higher value. Then work in some game throughout the day, and finally kiss close as soon as you feel it's right. Don't ever let things get too serious, and make sure everything's always fun and exciting, even after the kiss. It has to feel like it "just happened" and she'll eventually feel like coming to you was the best thing she could have done.

    HOWEVER, if she's actually broken up with the guy, then her subconscious has made a decision to not want a relationship or to be around a guy. You might be able to get a hookup out of this, but more often than not she's broken up and is going to be "anti-man" for a little while, which puts you in either the enemy zone or the friend zone.

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    Default Re: girl has a boyfriend..she is thinking about a breakup

    Thats the easiest way of all. I date like Dennis Rodman plays basket ball, i dont score much but when i do it's usually a rebound...(rim shot please)

    All you really have to do is talk to her about the stuff she used to do with him in the past and step it up. Show her how much fun she could have been having instead of wasting her time with this dude. Most girls want excitement and this one especially if shes talking about breaking up with him and hasnt done it yet.

    at least thats how i feel.. im no guru

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    Call me the rebound man as I have more female friends than guy friends. I have to bff's whom both r females and both of whom I've tapped along side sum of their other friends. When a girl is considering breakin up wit her bf or has recently broken out of a serious relationship, that is the point in which they are most vulnerable to givin it up easier. Trust me when I say I pipe most of my female friends after they've gone thru sum kinda emotional stress with their bf. All u have to do is get her talkin and listen to what she wants. Listen to wat he did and didn't do, u make up for where he lacks, and ur in man. Sumtmes dwn the LNG run a future relationship might spark, but if u keep it cool, ull definitly have a friend with some benefits. I can give u stories of all da friends I've done during the most random moments and didn't even have to do much gaming to get the panties off, but got them just cuz I dhv more than the ex bf or cuz I was the only guy in the group and she was horny but didn't wanna slp wit a compete stranger :-) so bein a rebound can b fun, just dnt expect tto Achieve a LTR out of it

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    Default Re: girl has a boyfriend..she is thinking about a breakup

    I agree with most of what has been said here already... it's dang easy getting brokenhearted girls to spread, provided they were sexually active in the first place. But if it's a relationship you want, you might have to put up with a lot of drama and still end up getting ditched.

    A word of caution though... play it well. You also don't want this girl to be running to you to discuss every little update about her breakup or recovery. And you don't want a needy, clingy, psycho bitch hung up on you.

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    Default Re: girl has a boyfriend..she is thinking about a breakup

    Alright guys, there is an easier way to approach it and I say this with quite a few notches on my belt from experience. I never purposely intend to ruin anything, but I often find the highest quality women are usually taken. Unfortunately relationships often stale, and as human beings we have a moth-like instinct to be drawn to the shinier, more exciting series of interactions. Thus...your predicament.
    First, establishing and building rapport with the girl is the most important aspect- even more so than usual. BUILD COMFORT. The girl must think of you as that-guy-at-work that she's attracted to (she'll know it deep down and you'll see it, even if she won't openly admit it).
    The key here is to build comfort with the girl, but just enough so that she doesn't think of you as a friend. Thus, you must mix attraction into it as well. There is a fine line here, and I break down the experience like this: Have fun with her as a friend, but constantly ping her in a flirty way. A great analogy I've heard before and the perfect one for this situation is to treat the girl as if you she were a bratty younger sister, or friend of your sister. You're older, and thus have a stronger frame, and you play around with her never quite taking her seriously. When doing this I never mention the boyfriend or talk about him. Why bother? There is no upside to doing so, and you'll only complicate your efforts.
    Second, talk about things other than work. If you only talk about work with her, she'll envision you only as as a coworker. You want to be seen by her for who you are, and you want her to picture hanging out with you outside your respective venue. Talk talk talk talk, and eventually once you have enough flirtation and comfort, do something little with her to bring her out of the venue. Mention you have an errand to run while talking to her as you're both leaving work, and ask if she wants to run over with you. If she complies, you're getting closer.
    The third step is to bring her out in a group setting (If she likes you enough, the boyfriend will mysteriously be busy that night. If he's there, don't fret). This step was particularly easy back in college, as you're both comfortable on campus and it was always a piece of cake meeting up with the girl later on at night in a group setting. For other locals, bring a group of people with you, preferably coworkers. Have everyone grab drinks out one night. You'll look like the cool social guy and build social proof with the approval of your peers. If you're under 21, hookah bars are the next best thing. Now- as I said before, don't fret if the boyfriend is there. She may just bring him to make herself feel better about being attracted to you. Once everyone is at the venue, don't be too aggressive with the game you've learned (you don't have to be). Use attraction material, but try hard to avoid canned lines and stories.
    Once you've repeated these steps (culminating in everyone going out together) you'll start to notice heavier and heavier ioi's being thrown your way. You may even start getting IOI's from other female coworkers who hadn't given you the time of day before. Attraction is attractive. The girl will start to come up with reasons to hook up with you. Eventually she will, and it won't take nearly as long you might think. If she mentions her boyfriend, act disinterested and change the subject. You are not a psychiatrist and you'll speed things up MUCH quicker by not acting like one.



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