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    Default Cute girl I met last night- not up for dating

    Hey guys, I appreciate any input on the situation.

    So lately I've been going to more parties and meeting more people. My female friend had people over the other night and we had drinks. I met her friend x and we were taking jabs at each other throughout the night and the next day when a group of us went out hiking. I got her number before I headed home and here is the texting:

    Me: .. your most important number ever
    her: .. and who is that
    Me: The guy with the superior walking stick *inside joke*
    Her: What that makes no sense ? I had the best walking stick and I can't be texting myself..
    Me: Lol that's how you're going to be eh. fiesty one you are.
    Her: not fiesty if its true.
    Me: Don't push my buttons
    Her: Wow touchy aren't you
    Me: You're cute when you try to act tough
    Her: It's not an act..
    Me: Prove it
    Her: how does one do that?
    Me: We could wrestle
    Her: I'm not a wrestling kind of person
    Me: you scared bro?
    Her: Hardly
    Me: We're hanging out next week. Just saying.
    Her: that's a little festy isn't it.
    Me: It's more fun that way.
    Her: to be demanding haha
    Me: More.. forward, not demanding haha
    Her: Haha we will see
    Me: The question is.. what will we do on our date?
    Her: our what haha
    Me: our rendezvous
    Her: I don't really know if I'm up for dating right now.

    So.. she's a really attractive girl and I have awful text game. It needs improvement. Is she just not interested or is there a way to swing this? We make a lot of eye contact and flirt in person. I'm not seeking anything with commitment anyway. Just looking to make her a fuck buddy.

    Thanks guys.

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    Default Re: Cute girl I met last night- not up for dating

    Trust me, your text game is fine. A lot better then when I started. It's FUN and FLIRTY, and that's all you need to aim for when first texting a candidate. You shouldn't have asked her what you guys were going to do on the date. Other then that, you're fine. She hit you with a shit test at the end. You should say something like, "Woaah, easy there little missy. Dating? We've only just met " Something along those lines.

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    Default Re: Cute girl I met last night- not up for dating

    Be straight forward:
    - You don't know but I do. Pick you up at X time on Y day

    If you want a less straightforward approach, with some innuendos in the middle: "How are we going to have fun without seeing each other?"

    Not a fan of the second approach, it gives her the power to control the situation.

    PS: Not a fan of your approach lilsting. Why leave room for doubt? OP wants a date, she didn't say know, she just can't lead/decide. Changing up your frame just because of an indecision by the girl, is stupid. She wants you to lead. Rule #1 only care about what you want, don't try and understand what's on her mind.
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    Default Re: Cute girl I met last night- not up for dating

    @ lilsting. Thanks for the prompt reply. I didn't want to respond until I had a better idea what to say. Yeah I figured that was a bad move after I sent it. I wasn't sure if it was a Sh1t Test or if it was genuine, but her body language in person agrees with you. I'll say something along those lines and keep this post updated.

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    Default Re: Cute girl I met last night- not up for dating

    Words of advice: Treat everything like it's a shit test whether she's genuine or not. 2 reasons for this: A) you garner more experience this way and B) it's way too hard to determine if the girl is shit testing you or not in some scenarios.

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    Default Re: Cute girl I met last night- not up for dating

    @joker. Yeah the first approach is better than the second for sure. Appreciate the advice.

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    Default Re: Cute girl I met last night- not up for dating

    I can see what lilsting is trying to do. Pretty much dodge a fireball, but it leads nowhere. When the conversation goes wrong you want to end it but get the ball on your side.

    Women are like dogs. When a dog misbehaves you send him to his corner, you don't give him attention. She misbehaved (i.e. went against your wishes). You're not gonna let her have what she wants (a non-date). Instead you pretend you didn't understand what she says and get your ways. Simple.
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    Default Re: Cute girl I met last night- not up for dating

    Me: Woaah, easy there little missy. Dating? We've only just met
    Her: You said dye *she typoed date*
    It's like I'm trapped. The dog and misbehaving analogy makes sense though.

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    Default Re: Cute girl I met last night- not up for dating

    You gave her a chance to attack you on your lack of posture and insecurity. I warned you. *Bark bark*
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    Default Re: Cute girl I met last night- not up for dating

    @ joker. Okay, you proved your point. Lol. So from here I just push towards a date and lead because that's what I desire. Asking her for details is giving her too much choice and shows that I'm indecisive and not leading the situation.


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