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    Lightbulb Should I have taken it the distance

    So recently, prior to my arrival in another state, I decide to hop on a dating site to rope an area tour guide. I successfully hook a few and roughly a day or so after I arrive one of them asks to meet. Im not intothe whole online dating but figured I wohanguse it to my advantage in a new area. I agree and we meet up. After a bit of small talk I come up with a plan to go bowling, my intent was to use the activity as a tool for some serious Kino and ice breaking. So we begin our game and I offer her a wager, who ever wins gets something from the other, after going back and forth about what it is the winner gets I decide on an erotic dance. Everthing went according to plan as I threw the game to make her feel like this wasn't a ploy just to get her to do something sexual to me, all while I flirted and warmed her up to true idea completely. Upon conclusion, I admit my loss and tell her that my own plan backfired on me and I was really looking forward to that dance from her. After leaving I teased her about cheating and told her I didn't feel comfortable doing it since we just met. After we went and had a few drinks and talked more, then out of nowhere she says she's been thinking about and looking forward to that dance since I brought it up and she doesn't want to waste any more time becauseI could be staling so I didn't have to do it. After a lil debate we decide to go back to my telly, this is where I dropped the ball in my opinion, instead of seducing her I show no interest in any sexual contact hoping she jumps to the occasion after professing her shyness and giving me signals I ignore them and tell her she had to sleep on the floor if she stays, guess she took that as a hint because she decided to leave shortly after. After many ffailed attempts to get her to stay I walk her out and she reminds me im not off the hook for that dance, she then leaves.

    Should I have swooned her with the dance that possibly couldn't ended up in an f-close? Or should I have kept it the way I did, since then we've continued to talk, but it seems like she a lil stand offish and dissapointed at the outcome. We have yet to hang out again. what could Ihave done differently?
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    Default Re: Should I have taken it the distance

    I think you handled it well. Yes, you could've gone the distance, but don't beat yourself up too much. You are learning.

    You didn't have to do the dance. I think you should've used it as a backup plan to physically escalate rather than use it primarily. If you attempt to physically escalate and it just wasn't taking off then the dance may have helped out with the transitioning into a makeout session.

    Also, if she is the type that is shy then it is completely on you to lead her. Don't be shy yourself. Her telling you she was looking forward to the dance could be her attempt at initiating things and you didn't take advantage of that. Next time own up to your sexual desire and don't apologize for it. No need to be nervous about escalating. If you get another shot with her then just know that escalating is all on you and don't expect to her lead. Good luck.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Should I have taken it the distance

    Never came back to update, but we spoke more afterwards, saw her at a bar one night and she clung to my heavily, her whole frame changed towards me. She introduced me to friends, bought me drinks and danced on my as I stood there just perusing the scene, needless to say she took me home closed me, rode me, and, wiped me down.

    I'm glad I stuck it out because not going the distance played out to my benefit, made her more thirsty, I should definitely add that to the pick up terms.
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    Default Re: Should I have taken it the distance

    It worked out...
    The first time you rejected her.
    The second time she made sure you couldn't.


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