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Thread: "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

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    Default "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

    I met up with another girl off of PoF last night (this is getting out of hand, I know..) this one an HB9 (almost a 10, she's incredibly good looking). The night went great. Started at a bar that I told her to meet me at, different from the one she originally picked. Negged her, built attraction, made her laugh, built comfort, talked about things we had in common, got some Kino in between venues. It was going just as planned really.

    Long story short we ended walking around the city making out for about an hour before she had to get going (sad she had to be up early this morning) So no dice on the F-Close. She kissed passionately, and the first time I kissed her it lasted about 5 minutes... Definitely some huge attraction on her part. We talked about seeing each other again and I mentioned a thing on Saturday night that she could come to, she told me she'll text me today about it.

    When I got home I got a text from her: "Night *myname* "

    I texted back about 10 mins later: "Night *hername* I had fun tonight"

    And that was it.

    What's your guys take on getting a goodnight text after a date? Is there ever a case where this can be a bad thing?

    We had quite a bit to drink so I'm sort of fearing buyer's remorse but I think I'm just fucking with my own head.

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    Default Re: "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

    A good night text isn't as big of a deal as our minds make it out to be.

    I get them most of the time after dates & I always text back, but keep the conversation short.
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    Default Re: "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

    I view the Goodnight text as a good thing. Don't over think it bro, you did great. Depending on what the text says I'll wait a bit before I respond at night,or I'll respond early the next morning. Don't have a convo unless she initiates, and then I go no contact for 2-3 days to let things marinate and sink in.

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    Default Re: "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

    It's a goddamn good thing.

    Couple text pointers to reassure you - Whenever a girl initiates text with you, that means she is thinking of you. Despite all the things that go on in her life, you are on the top of her mind at that moment. And whatever attraction you did to get yourself there, it worked.

    Sounds like this girl likes you so you want to keep the momentum. If a girl likes you, there is no rule except to not overtext. You run more risk of losing attraction if you don't keep the momentum because a girl's attraction is fleeting. So keep the momentum going, set for D2, so you can escalate to the next level and f-close.

    Aside from that just keep doing what you are doing and be confident and don't worry about this buyer's remorse crap. If she has it, it's her problem, not you. But it's irrelevant here.

    If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

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    Default Re: "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

    Quote Originally Posted by I.M.Mortal View Post
    Sounds like this girl likes you so you want to keep the momentum. If a girl likes you, there is no rule except to not overtext. You run more risk of losing attraction if you don't keep the momentum because a girl's attraction is fleeting. So keep the momentum going, set for D2, so you can escalate to the next level and f-close.
    I agree for the most part that you should strike while the iron is hot, but you also have to be careful not to burn a hole in your clothes. Although there aren't any rules, in my experience I personally found it best to let things just marinate for a little. It speaks to the woman on a subconscious level. Sure you could talk to her right after the date and things could very well go fine. Letting it sink in for a little though just shows that you're not needy at all, and that you have things going on in your life. Plus it builds the anticipation up, and gives her something to look forward to. Again, I'm just stating what has worked best for me, but it ultimately comes down to what you're most comfortable doing.

    Edit: I wanted to add that although attraction is fleeting, you don't have to always be talking to her to build that attraction. Sometimes less is more, and can really boost attraction.

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    Default Re: "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

    Hey twentynine keep in touch but dont be too available...etc

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    Default Re: "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

    Hey thanks for the replies guys, a lot of great advice!

    So since I work nights it's been hard to set up the next date, but I've done a good job with texting and keeping her interested, and we have plans for a movie night at my place on Sunday, I set this up this past Sunday - so it's a 7 day gap between setup and date.

    I know this is a long wait and it can be a bit tricky to ensure she doesn't flake. I'm pretty sure she won't because I know she's into me, but at the same time I know if I show too much interest and availability I could still fark this up.

    I texted her on Monday, just something funny, she laughed and we exchanged a couple texts, then I left it alone for the night. Yesterday I didn't text and neither did she. Today I plan to text something funny and maybe a little on the sexual side, to build some sexual Tension and excitement. And I'm thinking on Friday or Saturday I'll text something about the date to get her excited and thinking about seeing me.

    This is the "text stack" if you will that I've come up with for this situation, I'd love to hear what you guys think of it or how you'd execute it differently. This girl is smoking hot and I'm sure she talks multiple guys every day, so it's a little tricky making sure she doesn't just forget about me, seeing as I've only seen her once. Luckily for me, I swept her off her feet haha.

    Thanks guys!!

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    Default Re: "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

    So what happened?

    Btw when they say they have to be up early... I say "oh I get it... Your implying that we should have a quickie. I am not that kind of guy honey!"

    Just to build a little Tension lol. Usually, her reaction says a lot. If she's playful in a positive way (I.e. she plays around but doesn't say no) you can be sure that she is pretty into it. If she plays in a negative way(I.e. Nooo that's not what I meant) I usually whisper in her ear about how I'm on guard for her tactics so she better behave.

    I think you are doing great and hope day two went well.
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    Default Re: "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

    Hey Lockdown, forgot to follow up here!

    Date 2 went swimmingly and we ended up back at her apartment. Ended up in her bed and I was SURE I was in for the F-Close 100%. But to my surprise and disappointment she put up some huge LMR and we only ended up making out... Every time I tried escalating I could feel her resisting. It was weird I've actually never experienced that while in bed with a girl! She passed out pretty much right after our clothes were off, it was torture! I stayed over and had to try and sleep while she was in her bra and panties. Needless to say, I didn't get a lot of sleep haha.

    More making out in the morning.. But just kept getting that same feeling like she was mentally telling me "it's not gonna be that easy". I think it's one of those "I know I can fuck any guy I was, when I want, and I haven't decided if you're worthy yet" kind of things.

    I'm seeing her again this Sunday. I'll report back.

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    Default Re: "Goodnight" text after K-Close.

    Well it sounds like you're close! Are u reading LMR guides?

    Unfortunately, you can't be into a girl too quickly when in bed sometimes. Like you must make out, back off, make out... Can be a big tease but it helps to get past LMR?

    Hope Sunday goes well!
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