Re: My first Approach Rejected, your mission was a faillure
I will always remember my first "real" approach. 2 Set in a local Bar checking me out across the room, I hesitate. 1st mistake (3 second rule broken due to aa which kills my chances everytime but if I wait on purpose to say think of any opener I might use and thus break the 3 second rule properly that builds confidence therefore not a mistake to wait on purpose). Approach and do my opener. Terrible opener. "Are you girls having fun?" Too needy and totally looking for validation. My neediness could be seen a mile away. I got the classic cliche. "I have a BF". Go to her friend "I have a BF." That's what they said to me on the open! Got shot down hard and I hovered like "what's his name, what does he do?" So lame. Since then I have gotten past the rejection with the same exact opener!
6 months later I go to a 42yr Old HB at a Club on the Dancefloor. Approach from behind (after about 50 sets now and more confident by the day) tap her on the shoulder and said "Are you having a good time?" Looks at me funny (checking my frame) she likes my frame as I am holding it together and not feeling needy. I ask again "Are you having a good time?" She smiles and starts staring at my D!ck. We started grinding and almoost almost made out. Such a magical moment. But it hurt me so bad I forced myself to learn k-closing since then. Now I am up to 4 k-closes but 3 failed k-closes. Chalk it up to experience. Failure pushes you more and more to success since it hurts so bad that level of pain breaks down walls in the future since you hate seeing a good thing go you try harder and better next time and you get farther, farther.
But yes don't worry. I am a 30yr old man and got into the Game last year. Next year is going to be BIG. Trying for an F-close. Stay tuned. But don't worry your mission is always a learning experience. I have been rejected 60-70% of the time but 30% success rate kicks butt when you get it it is like your confidence sky rockets and puts you on a hot streak.
101 Sets, 30 #'s, 4 K-closes, 1 Date, 1 Bar Pull. My next adventure starts Summer 2014 at the Brewfest, Water Park, Bars, Clubs, etc. Getting Hotels now to prevent driving drunk so really only 2-3 times a month doing Night Game June-Oct. Lots of Day Game.