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Thread: My first Approach Rejected, your mission was a faillure

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    Red face My first Approach Rejected, your mission was a faillure

    Hi there,
    I had a few girlfriends, but I never did any approach to them it just flew like that. Im a regular guy 1,80m and 70kg, I like to dress well and I like to have knowledge (but I mess all and forget all that things when I talke with women /. But today in 32 years I had the courage and approach a woman in the subway. She was well dressed and had a short skirt, she was 7 in a scale to 10. She had looked me several times in the subway she seated in front of me and smiled, then taked out their earphones. Since I saw her past 5 minutes and then with a courage that I dont know here it came I said to her: Sorry, let me tell something really quick, I think you are fascinating and love your style, she smiled and just said thanks, I tell to her that i had to came say Hi and said my name, she said her name with a shake hand. After that, I asked what she did, she was a student, and I said what i did, and asked her when she was waiting for the metro coming back and coming foward, she said Im very impacient girl, then I smiled. After 3 minutes of conversation I asked if we could share contacts and she said I dont tink so...I was defeated and the energy was down... I asked more two things and wish the best for her with a new hand shak. I was very bad for a couple of minutes, but after that I feelt great, because I had the courage to do it and was a man... I think I asked to soon the contact and I could have more eye contact and also touch her to tease a little bit, but well, Im looking foward to know your experiences and improvements that I have to do, I started my game and I want to win it. Thanks to all of you.

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    Default Re: My first Approach Rejected, your mission was a faillure

    This will be meaningless in some weeks. Once you get used to approach, women became a numbers game. Even individual fucks become blurry after some weeks, in view of all the other important things in your life. Congrats.

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    Smile Re: My first Approach Rejected, your mission was a faillure

    Thanks for the support and tips, now I have less fear and with many approaches I will feel much more relaxed with girls. Have fun!

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    Default Re: My first Approach Rejected, your mission was a faillure

    That took some balls to do and gratz for taking the initiative where most men will hesitate.

    First of all, at least you tried. You fail 100% of the time if you don't even try.

    Do not fear rejection or let it affect your self-esteem. Some of the most successful PUA are those who has been rejected the most. Same with businessmen. In order to succeed, you gotta know what it is like to fail.

    Also, don't let rejection ever leave you thinking that 'you are not good enough.' It is automatically natural to think that, but such is not the case. I reframe and look at it as an INCOMPATIBILITY. If an actor didn't get the part, it usually doesn't mean he wasn't good enough. He wasn't right for the role that fits the director's vision. But somewhere out there is a role that is perfect for him.

    So you were the best of you at that moment when you approached the girl and yet you didn't get the part. You won't know why. Maybe you could've done something better to generate more attraction or perhaps she had a boyfriend and nothing you say or do in that short amount of time will matter. Whatever the case, you were incompatible.

    Look at it as batting practice. So you were in the batting cage and you struck out, but it didn't really count. All it does it gets you closer to the next homerun in a future game that really matter --- the girl that you really like.

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    Default Re: My first Approach Rejected, your mission was a faillure

    You are on the right track. All you need to do now is wash rinse and repeat.

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    Default Re: My first Approach Rejected, your mission was a faillure

    I will always remember my first "real" approach. 2 Set in a local Bar checking me out across the room, I hesitate. 1st mistake (3 second rule broken due to aa which kills my chances everytime but if I wait on purpose to say think of any opener I might use and thus break the 3 second rule properly that builds confidence therefore not a mistake to wait on purpose). Approach and do my opener. Terrible opener. "Are you girls having fun?" Too needy and totally looking for validation. My neediness could be seen a mile away. I got the classic cliche. "I have a BF". Go to her friend "I have a BF." That's what they said to me on the open! Got shot down hard and I hovered like "what's his name, what does he do?" So lame. Since then I have gotten past the rejection with the same exact opener!

    6 months later I go to a 42yr Old HB at a Club on the Dancefloor. Approach from behind (after about 50 sets now and more confident by the day) tap her on the shoulder and said "Are you having a good time?" Looks at me funny (checking my frame) she likes my frame as I am holding it together and not feeling needy. I ask again "Are you having a good time?" She smiles and starts staring at my D!ck. We started grinding and almoost almost made out. Such a magical moment. But it hurt me so bad I forced myself to learn k-closing since then. Now I am up to 4 k-closes but 3 failed k-closes. Chalk it up to experience. Failure pushes you more and more to success since it hurts so bad that level of pain breaks down walls in the future since you hate seeing a good thing go you try harder and better next time and you get farther, farther.

    But yes don't worry. I am a 30yr old man and got into the Game last year. Next year is going to be BIG. Trying for an F-close. Stay tuned. But don't worry your mission is always a learning experience. I have been rejected 60-70% of the time but 30% success rate kicks butt when you get it it is like your confidence sky rockets and puts you on a hot streak.
    101 Sets, 30 #'s, 4 K-closes, 1 Date, 1 Bar Pull. My next adventure starts Summer 2014 at the Brewfest, Water Park, Bars, Clubs, etc. Getting Hotels now to prevent driving drunk so really only 2-3 times a month doing Night Game June-Oct. Lots of Day Game.

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    Default Re: My first Approach Rejected, your mission was a faillure

    Thanks for all the tips and support, the safe zone for every man is never approach, but life is too short to not do what we real want. Im understanding better myself dealing with the fear and the adrenaline when Im approaching. I will go out soon for a day with new approaches to feel again de adranaline and improve my skills with girls. Have fun.


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