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Thread: hit a couple bars tonight...

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    Default hit a couple bars tonight...

    so this is starting to get a little easier. I have realized something though...I really need to work on my social skills with people in general--not just women. So I went out to a couple of bars tonight to build up familiarity with the venues and practice talking to people. Last year it took so much nerve just to talk to someone in the bar, whether a guy or a woman. Now I at least talk to people, even if they blow me off.
    I'm making progress. Before I go to the bar I hear all the excuses in my head about why I shouldn't go. I acknowledge the fear, let it flow through me. Feel the excitement of overcoming it. I can tell my body language sucks, and I know I'm going to replace these clothes with better ones soon, but I go out anyways. I'm going to break through these walls.
    I tend to have nice guy syndrome and I really need to practice speaking up and sitting up straight. If all those other people can learn to navigate bars, so can I. It might take a while. I might look goofy for a while, but I'm going to keep approaching people and doing it wrong until I know too much to do it wrong anymore.
    so there. I made conversation with a few guys, attempting convo with a few girls. felt really inept but was glad I went. Going to continue until things start to click more. this is me posting to stay accountable.

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    Default Re: hit a couple bars tonight...

    You have the right Mindset and you are on the right track! Keep going out, keep talking to people, stay present in the moment and remember the things you felt you did well, as well as the things you did poorly that you need to work on.

    Remember to just BE YOURSELF! Above anything else that is key. Girls/women - and people in general - are attracted to authenticity and congruence! Think about it..

    So remember to not try to be anything you aren't, you are more than good enough!

    I like your attitude. Plow through it, and keep us posted! Best of luck.

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    Default Re: hit a couple bars tonight...

    Love that you understand to befriend guys too!! It's so valuable and misunderstood. Once girls see that you are social and friendly with everyone, you gain so much more value!!!

    Keep it up! The accountability is a great idea!
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    Default Re: hit a couple bars tonight...

    Quote Originally Posted by luciddreamer View Post
    If all those other people can learn to navigate bars, so can I.
    THAT is the Mindset. A lot of people see this as the most complicated stuff, but it's important to realize that most people do it naturally every day, so why shouldn't we?

    Quote Originally Posted by cdharders View Post
    Love that you understand to befriend guys too!! It's so valuable and misunderstood. Once girls see that you are social and friendly with everyone, you gain so much more value!!!
    Again, true dat Walk into a room where all the guys high five you, and you almost don't have to work anymore. Also, you will start having your crowd of beta who will dhv you in hopes of looking better

    Friend, trying to give me shit in front of a girl: "Oh, don't talk to Mikalichov, he's dangerous. Like he just steals girls, sometimes without even trying. All the girls try to go in his bed, it's such a pain, please don't become one of them." Almost thanked him

    Another funny thing is that the opposite is true too: be surrounded by girls, and all the guys will want to know you and be your friend
    Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.


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