Re: meet and greet, next steps
Pick up is not for everyone. Ever see those day game pick up videos? They are a joke the guys saying the same thing over and over to 10 girls in a venue. It gets old for them as well. I never use the same opener over and over all the time in a venue is the first thing. The second thing is Pick Up is about becoming intelligent social creatures. I mean we are talking about approaching a bunch of strangers! That can be rather nerve wrecking which is why many people just don't do it and stay in the safe zone. I have witnessed first hand self-destruction due to a girl I was working on being totally nice as I opened her indirect on talking about the bathroom and said we would talk later then totally shut me out when a random buff guy came and saved the day and hovered (lingerer/no game) like a moron but maybe she thought he was a genius either way the energy shifted and it was like I was trying to rob her from Prince Charming. But because he was buff when I tried to AMOG him and approach her in the mixed set she acted like a total ice cold female and shut me out like she was super pissed for me talking to her like she played dumb and said she didn't know me! It was a weak save I admit and due to lack of confidence I lost the target.
Sh!t will always be awkward get used to it. You have to make that awkwardness work for you and if you own it you might get hot. Until you hit a hot streak, get hot, get on a roll that is then you will just be in the zone. You can play it in the Safe Zone or Sarge, Plow, and Approach until you get in "the zone" which will get you in comfort again. Sometimes you will have a bust night or strait up get rejected hard and can't get it back together the entire night. Some rejections just ain't worth it so you gotta move on. Other rejections when they lack conviction you can work it later in the night or on a re-open. Girls actively push guys away as self-defense and breaking down those barriers is about plowing through. My sticking point is stores. I hate opening in freaking stores man. I can open the whole room in a bar or club but in stores I get stuck big time. One of my areas of improvement rather. But the Game is very dynamic this is why every opener needs to be properly calibrated as some openers like Gung Ho work great at night game and low-balling works great in the stores. Random is the meaning of perfection as the goal is to be a man of mystery the more you can calibrate randomness not into weirdness the better off you will be. Indifference is the caricature of success and if you can learn to role play and do role play shifts based on the interaction you can be a real Don Juan. Like playing Nice guy, bad boy, prick, sensitive prick, shy, bold, needy at different times these frames work wonders but at bad timing a nice guy will be shafted as a schmuck or worse an A-hole. It's far better to be shafted as an A-hole when you are role-playing but when you are a Needy Nice Guy and get shafted like that it causes you to self-destruct. Lots to do and lots to see next year. Best to follow me next Summer and see what I come up with for more.
101 Sets, 30 #'s, 4 K-closes, 1 Date, 1 Bar Pull. My next adventure starts Summer 2014 at the Brewfest, Water Park, Bars, Clubs, etc. Getting Hotels now to prevent driving drunk so really only 2-3 times a month doing Night Game June-Oct. Lots of Day Game.