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Thread: Need help!! Whice direction should i take on next meet

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    Default Need help!! Whice direction should i take on next meet

    So hereís the story short and sweet. Went to Cuba July 2013. Had a blast party every night Girls! Girls! Girls! , but this one night I somehow picked up these two cute HB7 & HB8 by inviting them back to our booth. At the time I was interested in the cuter one but turned out she had a BF so threw here to my friends to handle while I Mac on the other one. Night was young and they decided they want to leave so I went with them. We walked back to the resort good convo talking about all the other guys trying to game them all night and what not. I was surprised and all that I actually got them to come because I put in absolutely no effort. So after going to the beach bar and getting a bite to eat HB8 got tired so we walked her back to her room while I had HB7 come back to mines. We actually got it going right away she was quite shy and I guessed wasnít really experienced so I took it slow with her for the night. Being her first black guy she was excited but thing is I ran out of CONDOMS and she wanted to go at it a few more times. L but ended up just cuddling and talking before I sent her back to her room. After that we met up a couple more times before vacation ended got her back to my room again she was horny AF but no CONDOMS still L
    After they departed a couple days ahead of us I kinda gave her a shitty goodbye just a hug no kiss or anything I was tired and hung-over from the night before. I didnít even try to get her contact or anything I think she was expecting me too but I was just like mehhh its vacation Iíll probably never see them again.
    Soon after I came back to Canada I was tagged in a photo of me and her and surprisingly she didnít live too far from where I lived probably a 45 mins drive. So I contacted her and she was surprised and excited by the sound of it. She also said the way I said goodbye to them was cold and she was depressed on the plane ride home.
    We talked probably weekly after that mostly about shit we did on vacay , her starting college, work and some other stuff nothing relevant to another meet. I was quite busy with work and she was too.
    Hereís the think though while on vacation I mostly talked to HB8 and not her much I think she was shy or reserved HB8 was the more talkative type.
    I didnít really follow up on sex or anything I didnít know how to reintroduce it but I knew she was still interested in it so a couple nights or week ago I texted her something to see how she would react to it
    Our Text convo Sumíd up:
    Started by showing her a design I made for her sweater she said she wanted. She saved it as her phone background so I tell herÖ
    Me : You said make it work !
    Her: Well donít actually I was kidding (not really) buts thatís pricey. ** Ė (It Cost $20 buck so that was nothing to me )
    Me : Oo Donít worry I spend way more on bottles weekly Iíll just buy one less this weekend haha.
    Her : Iíll pay you back okay? Eventually ** - ( I was thinking repay me in what way haha lol)
    Me: Nope! Itís a gift!
    Her: BTW one day in January were having a Toronto day **- ( Out of nowhere she tells me this ??? So I guess she had this on her mind waiting for a chance to tell me )
    Me: A Toronto Day !?!?
    Her: Ye lets meet up in Toronto.
    Me: Alright Aright Alright *Kevin hart voice* **- (As a joke )
    Then I told her Iím going to bed because it was late and I had work in a few hours so she responded :
    Her: Goodnight!!! Sweet dreams and just know Iím your biggest fan right now ** ( Can I say hooked)
    I told her a joke and said night. About a week later I sent here this:
    Me: Had a dream about (Her nickname ) last night
    Her: What was (her nickname ) doing ?!
    Me: (Her nickname ) was being a bad chick lol nothing to ratchet (freaky) though
    Her: Lol of course Ö What was the rachetness (freakiness) on a scale of 1-10
    Me: I dunno (her Nickname ) what would you rate yourself ??
    After that I got no answer but I wasnít worried I did that on purpose so that she can think about it since our meet up was coming soon. But I also wanted to know so that left me thinking which way to push things when we actually see each other. Any help ???
    PS.I did talk to her a week after that she was about to text me but I texted her minutes before she actually did. told her I read minds.

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    Default Re: Need help!! Whice direction should i take on next meet

    First off, let me make this clear: it is never a good idea to go out and get trashed. It kills your game, and it's just never cool. As you can see, being that hung over nearly wrecked your game with this girl at a very critical junction. It was only a matter of luck that things still managed to continue between the both of you.

    Now did you literally wait one week before texting her again, because with how you worded it, it sure sounds like that was the case. Even if you are planning on meeting up in Toronto, you have got to be working to escalate things and build up attraction and rapport.

    The ratchet question may have been taking things too far. You had set it up to describe the situation, but then all of a sudden your question applied it to her. I don't think any college-level woman wants to get compared to any degree of being ratchet.

    Overall, things are messy, but they are also good. She is showing a large amount of interest, and things appear to be moving in the right direction at the moment.

    I would say your best bet for a meetup is to show her a side of you that she hasn't seen yet. She is used to the party crazy, carefree side of you. Shock her with a soft, romantic air to yourself, with a flirty coolheadedness. Doing this will mix things up for her, and it will leave her only more curious.
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    Default Re: Need help!! Whice direction should i take on next meet

    I know getting wasted is never fun but I wasn't I was on a good aware level I just forgot how I picked them up lol.
    And yea about a week and a half but that was a baseline I started setting didn't want to seem needy, before the winter it was more frequent 2- 3 days.
    The thing about the ratchet question was more of an inside joke thing from the previous convo's we had, plus they reintroduced me to the term. I don't know if I should have flipped the question to her or just answer it, I wasn't really expecting that but it haven't affected us in no way, our convo are still the same.
    It does seem messy but my games is always all over the place trying to learn to correct that but my cocky confidence always intervenes and I just say whatever without fearing the consequences.
    For our meet up probably going to be a mall or somewhere public I'm just going to play it cool I guess get some Kino in and what not. She always texts me that she misses me. I think me and her are already comfortable but I will try building up some more attraction and rapport
    Yea I can tell she definitely interested in something (well I already made it clear ), it's just the time stretch and all the factors that's preventing me from my end goal. (Which is to make up for those nights in Cuba)I think she knows this, that's why she's keeping me around and told me to come to her dorm in the summer when its just her alone no roommate .

    Thanks for the advice !

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    Default Re: Need help!! Whice direction should i take on next meet

    Just a quick update. After talking on the phone and some more texting, this HB7 is now labeling me as her BF to guys in her social circle while I don't mind but shall I make her continues these ways or should I make a clear intent into what we are??

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    Default Re: Need help!! Whice direction should i take on next meet

    It all depends on what you want. There's three options for you to follow here:

    #1. You want a relationship

    If you want the relationship, then go in for the kill. Ask her "Why wasn't I told we were dating yet? ", so something along those lines. Basically, push to make things official.

    #2. You want a relationship, but you are not ready yet

    It's understandable if you want to wait a little longer and gauge her a bit more. In that case, you need to playfully call her out on her hastiness. Say something like "Hold on there Speedy, we aren't in a relationship... yet ". That last bit there is something that creates incentive to keep her chasing and interested in you.

    #3. You don't want a relationship

    If you don't want the relationship right now, then you need to politely confront her about it. No playful flirting, just cool and calm seriousness. Tell her that you are not ready for a relationship and that you don't like that she's running around to all of the other guys saying that you are her boyfriend when that really is not the case.
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