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Thread: Need Recovery. Approach gone wrong.

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    Default Need Recovery. Approach gone wrong.

    me: hey arent you the girl who asked me if be/a/ver rhymes with sn/ea/ker
    her: aha yeah howd you remember that
    Me: it was pretty random
    her: oh (feels negged although i didn't mean for neg) my FRIEND (i thought boyfriend) and i were wondering because hes like it does and im like it doesnt
    me: its a laser rhyme,
    her: its hard to rhyme it so ima go with it doesnt rhyme
    me: girls...
    her: aha so why do you always shop here but work so far
    me: stc is not far and i work out here so yeah
    her: goodlife?
    me: yeah,
    her: why dont you go to the ymca across from the bar
    me: goodlife is 24/7
    her: the one on bayview is 24/7
    me: idk i like it here
    her: i go to the ymca
    me: so you workout and then go out for beers right after eh
    her: pretty much

    So pretty much I've been eyeing this girl for a while, see her around where she works and she looks like shes girlfriend material. I don't usually crush so idk what's going on. I think i screwed up this approach at her workplace, i was speechless around her for a while before this. So pretty much here, she was helping me apply for my credit card. This is the third time we've talked over a long span (4 month ago was the first encounter). This is the stuff that came out of not talking about credit card.

    The rhyme was at this bar i work at, her and a guy asked me it. I'm thinking it was an indirect opener on her end.

    I need an opener for next time based on this convo and aim to Number Close. Any help appreciated.
    Last edited by 613; 01-03-2014 at 03:39 AM. Reason: forgot something

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    Default Re: Need Recovery. Approach gone wrong.

    So this is the conversation thread? And you are a bartender? And she frequents your bar?
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    Default Re: Need Recovery. Approach gone wrong.

    I am a bouncer at a bar. She comes every now and then but I'd say I frequent her grocery store.

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    Default Re: Need Recovery. Approach gone wrong.

    her: why dont you go to the ymca across from the bar
    me: goodlife is 24/7
    her: the one on bayview is 24/7
    me: idk i like it here
    her: i go to the ymca
    me: so you workout and then go out for beers right after eh
    her: pretty much
    she was hinting that you should come work out with her. but you didn't catch the hint. girls are always subtle about things, they want you to pick up on all the little things they say (it makes them feel special when you do)


    I think i screwed up this approach at her workplace, i was speechless around her for a while before this. So pretty much here, she was helping me apply for my credit card.
    I wouldn't say you screwed up too bad, you just had a fairly "neutral" convo.

    need an opener for next time based on this convo
    open with
    "hey I know you, you're that utterly beautiful girl I met at the grocery store the other day"

    from here get to know her a little better and then tell her you want her.

    keep things simple go for Direct Game.

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    Default Re: Need Recovery. Approach gone wrong.

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    she was hinting that you should come work out with her. but you didn't catch the hint. girls are always subtle about things, they want you to pick up on all the little things they say (it makes them feel special when you do)




    I wouldn't say you screwed up too bad, you just had a fairly "neutral" convo.



    open with
    "hey I know you, you're that utterly beautiful girl I met at the grocery store the other day"

    from here get to know her a little better and then tell her you want her.

    keep things simple go for Direct Game.

    when she said "why do you always shop here but work so far"

    could she have got the idea that I shop there because of her? cause i go there literally every 2-3 days to get chicken breast.

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    Default Re: Need Recovery. Approach gone wrong.

    when she said "why do you always shop here but work so far"

    could she have got the idea that I shop there because of her? cause i go there literally every 2-3 days to get chicken breast.
    that's always a possibility. don't make a big deal of it. (though you may want to cut back to once a week to keep from appearing stalkerish...)

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    Default Re: Need Recovery. Approach gone wrong.

    Is it still stalkerish if im buying chicken breast? I mean its all I eat, plus i buy atleast 40$-50$ worth of grocery each time.

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    Default Re: Need Recovery. Approach gone wrong.

    Cater to no one. Who cares what she thinks. Go and buy your chicken breasts. If she want's to think you're a stalker that's her problem, not yours. When you see her, talk to her. If the topic of stalking somehow comes up, don't make a big deal out of it like Meteora said.

    Don't waste much more time and get the ball rolling my friend. No point in critically analyzing this woman because that will get you no where. Open her with something like Meteora said, chat her up, make plans to meetup with her, go for her number.


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