I'm still a newb and I want to start sharing my field reports in the hopes of getting my thoughts out there to people doing pick up too. Bare with me, I am shy and my accomplishments may seem miniscule to your accomplishments.
I may sound like a wuss in here but I want to be honest about how I feel in pick up situations.
I went out on Friday and Saturday. On Friday i was sober and very scared. I had a wingman and we went to two bars. We were in one bar for a while and i just stood there and didn't move much for about 20-30 minutes. I wanted to approach but I just was too scared. I don't have an excuse although the music was very loud. I wonder if I am afraid I won't be heard?
Anyway I should have tried at least one approach and I didn't, so that's something I need to work on is approaching more.
On Saturday I approached one girl by myself and I will count it as an approach. I may start counting hi's again as approaches to try and give me more confidence. I said, Hey I just wanted to say hi, that's all. Hi. and that was the interaction.
I think that approach may have worked because she stopped with her friend out in the open near me as if she wanted me to approach her and actually converse with her. I still have problems with shyness and I failed to go up to her again. I just need to learn to let go and risk failure more.
I had been drinking and i think that did help a little as far as SA goes.
This other set my friend opened but I was by his side and said something about directions or whatever.
So i'll say i did 2 approaches.
I have done 40 total approaches
I should start setting goals again. I'm working on things to say because my game right now is terrible after the opener. Terrible in most cases.