Late update. Biggest part of this update is I f-closed #40.
So I used a flirty text to get her over: "I am luring girls to my house with Candy - do you prefer skittles or snickers?"
We texted some more after that until finally she said she was coming over at around 10pm. But she finally actually started to move her ass around 11pm. The bus here in my city stops around 12:45. Taking that into account I knew I just had to stall around until that time and used that as my game plan. In addition I tried to set my frame as "I am the prize" and that helped a lot. When she came in, I sat her down on the couch and just talked like we would old friends to establish comfort. I didn't try any Kino at this point for about 1 hour or so. Around 12:30 I started to phase shift into more kino and finally we moved to the bedroom.
After sex the conversation was more open and great. We plan to meet up again Monday for geocaching.
The other notable thing that happened today was my frame/attitude shift.
I have a friend who is in town and he heard about my cold approaches through mutual friends. And he messaged me yesterday to say he wanted to do it as well. So I invited him to come join me in the morning for my run.
In the morning he didn't show up at the time we agreed to I sent him a text and he replied that he thought he messaged me on fb that he changed his plans and wanted to go to yoga class instead (he did not actually message me). The old me would have said w/e no big deal. But since I started these cold approaches I have begun to think more about how I present myself to the people around me. So instead I said: "Not cool dude. You should have messaged me instead of me waiting for you."
I hope to continue this frame/attitude.
65. HB8: A cashier at a grocery store. Wasn't a direct open, she miscanned an item of mine. I had to go to another desk to get it sorted out, so I kept looking at her and when we made eye she was doing a cutsy frown and I did the same. I guess I should have opened her there, but I lacked motivation this morning after the incident with my friend and the weather was bad outside. Anyways when I left she smiled at me. Maybe try to open again next time since I always shop at this store.
End of Day 21.