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    Default Jae102 Field Approaches.

    Finally started doing this after being a bitch for so long. I'm try to talk to at least 3 women a day. Try to have no objective just say Hi.

    Approach 1:
    I was at the adult education center talked to this Hispanic chick she wasn't pretty but it still was a a nice start to start the day.
    I opened with Hi got her name and the talk to her a little bit about school.

    Approach 2: I was in downtown and I talk to this chick with tattoo's. I opened with a hi and said I like your tattoo's and what's the story behind this tatoo on her right leg. It's apparently a geisha tattoo. She talked a lot but I kinda ran out of things to talk about so I left.

    Approach 3: I talk to this chick I opened with are you one of those 1 finger or 2 finger texters. She told me she's versatile I then asked if she was local and what was her opinion about the city. I screwed this approach up bad because she thought I was looking for a home. I should of asked something else.

    Approach 4: I was at Walmart and I approached this girl with "Hi, I think you're cute so I had to come over and talk to you." I asked her question about if she lived in the city and then asked her opinion of the city and then on a scale of 1 to 10 what was her opinion of it. She didn't seem like she wanted to talk to me when I opened with I think you're cute she seemed like she lost interest and then she asked me can I help you. I knew the conversation was bad so I ended the interaction quickly.

    Approach 5: I opened with "Hi, I think you're cute so I had to come over and talk to you." She told me she wasn't interested. Sucks on to the next girl. I think she was a little irritated with me because I opened with that.

    Approach 6: I approach this Asian chick she was gorgeous. I had to catch her attention since I was coming from behind. I opened with "I think you're attractive and I wanted to say hi" We talk again about what city she was from. (By now I realized that question was bad. Not using that shit again.) She told me she's visiting friend. I ran out of things to say so I left.

    Approach 7: This was a bad approach. I said Hi, but then I asked if she had a sec she was in a hurry and said sorry but no. Maybe it was how I opened, looked or she was genuinely busy. (Should I have tried to catch up to her and talk.)

    Approach 8: I approached this Asian lady after she got off of work. I opened with Hi, I think you're attractive and I'd like to get to know you. She was kind of shocked but didn't know what to say I said I understand have a good day.

    Approach 9: Approach this Indian chick waiting for the bus to come as soon as she saw me she tried to fake like she was texting. I opened anyways with "Hi you looked interesting and then asked her how her day was going?" She gave a lot of one word responses.

    Approach 10: I approached this Hispanic chick at the train station. I said Hello but depended my voice. She copied me and then I asked how she was doing? She said good but then wanted to know my reason for approaching her. I told her I just wanted to have a conversation. She was cool with that and we talk about a lack of communication between people now days. We talked about school. She's going to school for Social Ecology and then her friend came and she was going to school for Biology. It was fun I told then I was a PC Technician and I'm looking to return to school. Her fiend didn't look at me much but she did. I ended it after I ran out of things to say. Also she's a mother.

    Approach 11: Cute Asian girl I went to school. I just said her name and asked her what she wasn't doing back in town. Turns she completed college I congratulated her and clapped my hands together (Like a fag, now on it's congratulations no gay clap) she said she had to go I don't know if it was because I she wasn't interested or because I was next in line.

    Today was an interesting day.

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    Default Re: Jali005 Field Approaches.

    Give me the most critical critique that you guys can I'm starting off just talking and seeing where it can go.

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    Default Re: Jae102 Field Approaches.

    You got to post the whole conversation so we can help you.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Jae102 Field Approaches.

    Quote Originally Posted by marvilo View Post
    You got to post the whole conversation so we can help you.
    Sorry can't remember it. I was trying to just overcome my Approach Anxiety it was really bad.

    Here's what I did notice the problem happened when I approached women in Walmart and after work and said "Hi, I think you're cute/attractive and I just wanted to say Hi. Some just instantly lost interest in me and the Asian lady just was speechless and her body language was like she was caught off guard. I don't know if I could just continued and just asked for her name or what?

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    Default Re: Jae102 Field Approaches.

    Possible reasons the direct opener is failing:

    1. You are unattractive. The PUA community frequently teaches that looks don't matter, but in the context of a direct opener, a hot girl will be creeped out if an ugly guy walks up to her and is direct. Imagine your reaction if a fat girl came to you with that opener.

    Obviously, this may not be the case. You might be hot, or at least decent. If so, then this possibility doesn't apply. However, the specific way these girls are reacting is sending me red flags, so I'll put it out there.

    2. You're not saying it the right way. Direct opener = smile, confident body language, strong eye contact, and said with energy in your voice. Lacking any of these can affect her reaction.

    3. The phrasing of your openers may need improving. Personally, I prefer to say Hi, wait for he response, ask how she's doing, wait for response, and THEN say I came over because she's cute. Seems nitpicky, but I feel like it comes off as more comfortable for her this way. Even Sasha doesn't have the direct line as the first thing he says. Its always precluded by "Hi, don't freak out, I'm not crazy. I just wanted to say that..." Then comes the direct opener.

    I think one reason this is prefereable is that even a direct opener, if phrased or executed poorly, can come off as a canned line (after all, it IS). "Hi, I think you're attractive and wanted to talk" can definently come across as planned, contrary to your intention, which is for your interest in her to seem spontaneous.

    4. Saying she's "attractive" or "cute" may seem generic if said by themselves. Try to 1. Use more powerful words, such as "stunning" or "phenomenal" (as Sasha does) and/or 2. Compliment something thats unique to her, such as her fashion.

    Again, these are only possibilities. As Marvilo said, the whole conversation isn't posted, so we can't be sure. There may be other reasons. Lets start with these.

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    Default Re: Jae102 Field Approaches.

    Hey jae on solid here..obviously but then lets go on to the main...
    When you hit a supermarket dont go telling her you like her like that.use a different opener.if you want to do game full time as in really commited you got to get initiated by hardrock and the PUA Forums.also read guides here and get a book.i would go for unlock her legs and slid in.peace out

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    Default Re: Jae102 Field Approaches.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jae102 View Post
    Finally started doing this after being a bitch for so long. I'm try to talk to at least 3 women a day. Try to have no objective just say Hi.

    Approach 1:
    I was at the adult education center talked to this Hispanic chick she wasn't pretty but it still was a a nice start to start the day.
    I opened with Hi got her name and the talk to her a little bit about school.

    Approach 2: I was in downtown and I talk to this chick with tattoo's. I opened with a hi and said I like your tattoo's and what's the story behind this tatoo on her right leg. It's apparently a geisha tattoo. She talked a lot but I kinda ran out of things to talk about so I left.

    Approach 3: I talk to this chick I opened with are you one of those 1 finger or 2 finger texters. She told me she's versatile I then asked if she was local and what was her opinion about the city. I screwed this approach up bad because she thought I was looking for a home. I should of asked something else.

    Approach 4: I was at Walmart and I approached this girl with "Hi, I think you're cute so I had to come over and talk to you." I asked her question about if she lived in the city and then asked her opinion of the city and then on a scale of 1 to 10 what was her opinion of it. She didn't seem like she wanted to talk to me when I opened with I think you're cute she seemed like she lost interest and then she asked me can I help you. I knew the conversation was bad so I ended the interaction quickly.

    Approach 5: I opened with "Hi, I think you're cute so I had to come over and talk to you." She told me she wasn't interested. Sucks on to the next girl. I think she was a little irritated with me because I opened with that.

    Approach 6: I approach this Asian chick she was gorgeous. I had to catch her attention since I was coming from behind. I opened with "I think you're attractive and I wanted to say hi" We talk again about what city she was from. (By now I realized that question was bad. Not using that shit again.) She told me she's visiting friend. I ran out of things to say so I left.

    Approach 7: This was a bad approach. I said Hi, but then I asked if she had a sec she was in a hurry and said sorry but no. Maybe it was how I opened, looked or she was genuinely busy. (Should I have tried to catch up to her and talk.)

    Approach 8: I approached this Asian lady after she got off of work. I opened with Hi, I think you're attractive and I'd like to get to know you. She was kind of shocked but didn't know what to say I said I understand have a good day.

    Approach 9: Approach this Indian chick waiting for the bus to come as soon as she saw me she tried to fake like she was texting. I opened anyways with "Hi you looked interesting and then asked her how her day was going?" She gave a lot of one word responses.

    Approach 10: I approached this Hispanic chick at the train station. I said Hello but depended my voice. She copied me and then I asked how she was doing? She said good but then wanted to know my reason for approaching her. I told her I just wanted to have a conversation. She was cool with that and we talk about a lack of communication between people now days. We talked about school. She's going to school for Social Ecology and then her friend came and she was going to school for Biology. It was fun I told then I was a PC Technician and I'm looking to return to school. Her fiend didn't look at me much but she did. I ended it after I ran out of things to say. Also she's a mother.

    Approach 11: Cute Asian girl I went to school. I just said her name and asked her what she wasn't doing back in town. Turns she completed college I congratulated her and clapped my hands together (Like a fag, now on it's congratulations no gay clap) she said she had to go I don't know if it was because I she wasn't interested or because I was next in line.

    Today was an interesting day.
    Good job man keep up the good work! The line works better if you don't use their physical appearance in it and simply said "Hi you look nice, I was just doing (activity) but I had to come over to talk to you (genuine smile)."

    Adding on the activity really helps to lower her bitch guard as she will know you are not some random guy just hitting on girls. And the smile is also crucial.

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    Default Re: Jae102 Field Approaches.

    Quote Originally Posted by Carter21 View Post
    Possible reasons the direct opener is failing:

    1. You are unattractive. The PUA community frequently teaches that looks don't matter, but in the context of a direct opener, a hot girl will be creeped out if an ugly guy walks up to her and is direct. Imagine your reaction if a fat girl came to you with that opener.

    Obviously, this may not be the case. You might be hot, or at least decent. If so, then this possibility doesn't apply. However, the specific way these girls are reacting is sending me red flags, so I'll put it out there.
    I want to thank you for replying. Yeah, I've been told when I was younger I was ugly but I've had quite a few women approach me in my life. I'm 5'11 athletic, but I have a pony-tail which I plan to get a haircut soon.

    2. You're not saying it the right way. Direct opener = smile, confident body language, strong eye contact, and said with energy in your voice. Lacking any of these can affect her reaction.
    You know I could be getting it wrong. I'm still working on my approach. I do smile but I'l see today. I know I smile, my body language may need work, eye contact may need work, and the energy I maybe lacking that.

    3. The phrasing of your openers may need improving. Personally, I prefer to say Hi, wait for he response, ask how she's doing, wait for response, and THEN say I came over because she's cute. Seems nitpicky, but I feel like it comes off as more comfortable for her this way. Even Sasha doesn't have the direct line as the first thing he says. Its always precluded by "Hi, don't freak out, I'm not crazy. I just wanted to say that..." Then comes the direct opener.

    I think one reason this is prefereable is that even a direct opener, if phrased or executed poorly, can come off as a canned line (after all, it IS). "Hi, I think you're attractive and wanted to talk" can definently come across as planned, contrary to your intention, which is for your interest in her to seem spontaneous.
    Okay I see what you're saying. YOu know I thought just being direct was good for me to just get to the point instead of beating around the bush. I'm tired of waiting to meet a girl, I want to meet one and I'm tired of being shy.

    4. Saying she's "attractive" or "cute" may seem generic if said by themselves. Try to 1. Use more powerful words, such as "stunning" or "phenomenal" (as Sasha does) and/or 2. Compliment something thats unique to her, such as her fashion.
    Yeah, I guess I'll have to keep myself more open.

    Again, these are only possibilities. As Marvilo said, the whole conversation isn't posted, so we can't be sure. There may be other reasons. Lets start with these.
    We'll I posted the gist the of the conversation.

    I approach.

    Me: Hi, I just came over because I think your cute and I wanted to say Hi.

    Her body language change to very negative.

    Me: I tell her my name and get her name while shaking hands.

    Me: I ask her if she's from here.

    Her: She says she's around.

    Me: On a scale of one to 10 what do you think of the city.

    Her: Can I help you.


    The other girl

    I approach her

    Me: I just saw you and thought you were cute so I wanted to come over and say hi.

    Her: She says sorry I'm not interested.

    The Asian lady

    Me: Hi

    Her: Hi

    Me: I found you attractive so I wanted to say Hi.

    Her: Uhhh. Her lips pucker.

    Me: I understand and just let her go.

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    Default Re: Jae102 Field Approaches.

    5/14 Approaches

    I saw this Asian girl walking towards me as I walk closer towards her she goes on the railing.

    Approach 1:
    Me: Hi.

    (She has head phones on so I wave)

    Her: She waves but doesn't take her headphones off and say hi back.


    Approach 2: I approached this blonde from behind. She was listening to music.

    Me: Hi, how your day going?


    Her: Good.

    Me: I had nothing else to say so I left. My mind went blank. Didn't talk to as much because I was such a pussy today. I avoided all these girl's today. It's like I'm gun shy.


    Quote Originally Posted by syntex101 View Post
    Good job man keep up the good work! The line works better if you don't use their physical appearance in it and simply said "Hi you look nice, I was just doing (activity) but I had to come over to talk to you (genuine smile)."

    Adding on the activity really helps to lower her bitch guard as she will know you are not some random guy just hitting on girls. And the smile is also crucial.
    Thanks will try. I can't take it when these girl dress so sexy in the summer and I try to talk but they ignore me.

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    Default Re: Jae102 Field Approaches.

    Ok, if you're 5-11 and athletic, then you're not unattractive. You don't really have to be smoking hot for a direct opener to work (although it helps), so long as you're decent-looking. But yes, there are better haircuts than ponytails.

    Regaridng point 2, to be fair, energy is not 100% necessary. James Marshall succeeds in daygame with low energy, but your chances of success are still higher *with* energy and enthusiasm than without.

    Also, props on not tolerating shyness anymore and being unafraid to go direct. That said, still try indirect every now and then (which you seem to do), just to compare your results.


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