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    Default A way to keep myself motivated(for people who just start)

    Hei,
    this will be a kind of field report from the beginning.
    My problem is to keep myself motivated, so what can you do? Writting to person who have the same goal as you!
    Well I am 21 from Germany(so I'll give my best to avoid spelling faults...).
    I have no experience with girls in terms of relationship, the only thing I did was to kiss a girl once just once. But just on the cheek. But what was interesting about that was that the two month before I started to greet every woman with a simple Hey. In that time I lost a lost of anxiety for just talking to women I didn't know. Eventually I started twice a converstion with: "I have seen you and think you are interesting.(two times good responses)"
    Then I had been one year abroad (in Asia) where I had no chance to get laid.
    Now beeing back I wanted to continue from that exact point and it didn't work! I couldn't even say hey!
    So two weeks ago I started from the beginning again, going out for one hour every day and it is getting easier now. But to keep myself motivated is quite difficult cause it would be strange for my family and friends to tell what I am doing in that time!
    So I try to write as much as possible here. I don't even expect a lot of answers but if you want to tell me something positive, feel yourself free
    <Kangpa

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    Default Re: A way to keep myself motivated(for people who just start)

    Quote Originally Posted by kangpa View Post
    So two weeks ago I started from the beginning again, going out for one hour every day and it is getting easier now.
    We've all been there bro. It's like every skill, if you don't use it for too long you start losing it. BUt the good point is that with a big of practice, it comes back quick
    'The Game is what gives a PUA his power. It's an energy field created by all living things. It surrounds us and penetrates us. It binds the world together.'

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    Default Re: A way to keep myself motivated(for people who just start)

    "You're the big bear with the fucking huge claws and she's just a little bunny, scared, shivering. You got that big claws man and you don't know how to kill the bunny?"

    Some Swingers motivation for ya.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: A way to keep myself motivated(for people who just start)

    Last Friday I have been with a friend. We went to a party, where I met some interesting girls. Actually there were just girls (later on two more guys). So I had some good conversation with a girl. So after half an hour or so she went to the toilet, and I was not sure if I should wait or start with someone else a conversation. I decided to have a conversation with another girl. So when girl no.1 came back, I was not sure if I should ignore her or stop the conversation with girl no2. So I didn't stop the conversation, but I lost completely the contact to no.1. Later I realized that I have to learn how much attention I pay to a person!
    Actually I wanted to use this kind of cube technique, but I was too afraid that of the girls would know it!
    When we went dancing I didn't dare to waltz in, I was anxious and I had not the energy(I was quite exhausted). Two things I have to work on!
    Later on a friend of mine told me that one young girl seemed interested to dance with me, but I had not seen her, cause I was to bound to myself.

    So for tomorow I want to use the first time a proper opener. It won't be the best one, but at least it is true one.
    One of my best friends just separated from his girlfriend and he met two days later a girl, with now he is flirting. So I want to know if this is okay or not.
    My goal to ask three girls tommorow!

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    Default Re: A way to keep myself motivated(for people who just start)

    Keeping yourself motivated, I would say theoretically, any girl wants you they just don't know it/haven't met you yet. It might help to watch videos that make you feel confident or in good spirits before you go out.

    I doubt many girls have heard of the cube, so I think it's safe.

    Your goal for approaching three women tomorrow is modest start. It takes practice.

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    Default Re: A way to keep myself motivated(for people who just start)

    Indeed it is modest start, but even a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step

    Day 01 – Opening my mouth for an opener (My first time using openers)

    Nr. 1
    I was really excited and my first try was as expected not good. I asked a girl maybe 19 with a longboard. So she seems not so interested but at least I delivered an opener. I was too nervous and not self-confident enough! We spoke 30 seconds but we spoke 30 seconds.
    Positive: I dared to ask
    Negative: The rest (no it was okay, I didn’t run away afterwards!
    >Note: What helped me a lot was my mobile: Before I left my room, I took a voice note for myself, where I reasoned why I should ask a girl. It helped me to focus at home and when I was too afraid to ask I just listened to it pretending it would be a phone call.

    Nr. 2
    I listened three times to my voice note then I tried to board the next frigate. She looked quite dangerous and uninviting, but this time at least I said my opener properly and I spoke with her two minutes she was quite nice but I was overstrained because I didn’t expect that she would question me about the situation, so my advice use an true opener as a “bloody leaner” then you can answer freely.

    Nr. 3
    I saw a woman who looked lost, so I asked her if she would need help, she did. We had just a short conversation.

    So that was day no.1! Tomorrow I will do the same just three women until I lost my fear of approaching.

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    Default Re: A way to keep myself motivated(for people who just start)

    I keep myself motivated by watching and listening to inspirational videos on YouTube, youtube search motivation

    -NickP

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    Default Re: A way to keep myself motivated(for people who just start)

    Finally my next post! Seriously I am a little bit slow.
    It took me a little bit time, but anyway until now I opened at least some woman (never groups --> next goal)
    Now after opening and speaking with them I have to go on and start a real conversation.
    Anyway I have to open more women in less time (means I am still not really used to it).
    So this is what I have to do next.
    Today I will meet a good friend of mine, who is quite successful with women, he knows a lot more about how to dress
    then me, I will buy some new clothes with him(budget 300 Euro). He also gave me the advice to use a dating app,
    so that's what I am doing now too.
    The next day I will just continue to open women, my main goal is to have a nice chat after the opener.
    I feel a little bit embarrassed when my opener(which I changed) is over to continue the conversation.
    I have to read some material about "having an interesting conversation with showing attraction" because that
    is one of my main problems, it is not difficult for me to have a good conversation with a girl, but I make no difference between
    male and female. Normally women regard me as a friend but that's what I want to avoid!
    Anyway I was really surprised that so many people posted, so thanks for that, it gives me a kind of strength to know
    that I am not alone

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    Default Re: A way to keep myself motivated(for people who just start)

    Quote Originally Posted by kangpa View Post
    I feel a little bit embarrassed when my opener(which I changed) is over to continue the conversation.
    I have to read some material about "having an interesting conversation with showing attraction" because that
    is one of my main problems, it is not difficult for me to have a good conversation with a girl, but I make no difference between
    male and female. Normally women regard me as a friend but that's what I want to avoid!
    Good job man.

    Regarding conversation, one thing that works is, again, practice.

    If you can find a group or organization where you will just meet new people every week, that helps a lot.

    For example, I go to a foreign language conversation group. Every week I have a conversation with at least thirty people, ten of which are people I've never met before. You just become really good at conversation, which is a great skill. And it's half male half female, so you also learn how to talk differently to each.
    'The Game is what gives a PUA his power. It's an energy field created by all living things. It surrounds us and penetrates us. It binds the world together.'

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    Default Re: A way to keep myself motivated(for people who just start)

    I keep myself motivated through friends, audio, books, and motivational videos. People that inspire me gives me motivation. Anytime I can spend around someone who is positive, upbeat, and if they have similar goals it makes me want to take over the world.


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