Every AFC probably suffered mistakes. I am no exception. I'll try to detail down every possible moments I can recall from my first date today. If you can relate and you already had gone pass it, please share it to me. This is a long read, and possibly a lot of grammatical error.
I thought I was ready. I didn't really dressed up. My first date is today, I didn't got nervous but I got impatient. We had no conversation whatsoever. I called her this lunch time for a coffee, which she had set last friday. She didn't answer the phone, but while I'm devouring my food, she missed call me. I called her again, still no answer. I sent her a message "Cup of coffee, hurry!". She knows what this mean, it's the time for our date. Of course I wasn't serious or anything, but as I saw her coming to our table, I got a little nervous, I panicked. It is clear to me that she lost a lot of the little attraction she got last week. Well it's already 3 days since I asked her, that's no mystery to me. She is so uncomfortable, she is hesitating and keep jokingly asking my friend to come with ask. I know she is just uncomfortable, or a little forced to do this. Nevertheless, we still go and I talk so BORING (I emphasized that intentionally). I can't flirt, I can't create an interesting topic, I was sent from lvl 1 AFC to lvl 0 AFC. Well we still need to go, so I talked a little, she talked a little, but she keeps talking on the phone, she constantly text, when we saw her friends, she rushed to them, and asked them to come with us. Shit. It was time to eject, but I can't stop. I told her I want coffee. If there is an arcade we would have gone there, but this is downtown edmonton, and I'm still new here. I asked her to order coffee for me because I don't know how. So she ordered, 2 Iced coffee in a snowing edmonton. A CUP OF ICED COFFEE. Shit I thought, this is getting ridiculous. She is so uncomfortable.
I said lets sit down I gonna show you something. An experiment! She wonders, but agrees. Texting, texting, texting, calling, calling. I felt disrespected, but I understand. Dating is a new thing for me, I don't know shit. So I tried to do the cube. Then while doing it, she says "I have a bad imagination" or "I can't do it", and gives little or no interesting detail about the game. I cancelled, crossed the notebook, and told her, "Things won't work out to us, we won't probably date again".
I blew it.
Then I stand up, she follows, and started walking. We had a little chit chat while walking, she started asking me things. What school are you from, also asked me how many gf did I had. I said why do you want to know, tell me about you first. She told me she didn't had a serious, committed relationship, just puppy love I guess. She asked me if I had a serious one. I said yeah but I don't want to talk about the past. Then little chit chat. That short moment of going back to our building, I got her interested, just a little bit.
Things got back to normal. Like nothing happened. She sat down near the friend she asked to come with us, a close male friend. I didn't care. Later, she tell me goodbye and left. I saw a girl friend of mine, I ask her if I can do a experiment on her (the cube). She said ok, then she got pretty deep about the definitions. I have a bad feeling about this. While I'm explaining the interpretation, she looked at me, and she began to tear up. Shit. I said sorry. I had a feeling that she liked me, but I won't hit on her, you don't hit on a friend.
While I'm doing the cube with my friend, she came back, which is rare. I'm surprised actually, but I didn't pay attention to her.
I was pretty pumped up. Later this afternoon, while I am chatting with my friends, the sister of my friend, came to us. I told her "You cannot sit at our table", while I removed my bag from a sit. That was a push pull, I guess?. I negged her mercilessly, clumsily. She accidentally touched my butt, and I told her "Wtf you can't just touch my butt!" and she giggled a little. I also don't plan on hitting on her, but shit. After a while, I demonstrated a few magic, which amazed her, but I still neg her when she request for another trick. Then she began asking what bus I take, how far is my house, where does my bus go. I considered those as ioi's. She practically asked me to perform the cube to her, a LOT of times, but I'm not in the mood to do that, still she insist. I told her, Buy me a tea and I'll do the experiment, which she didn't, cause she don't have the money I think. She still keep insisting, and asked me a lot of question which started to annoy me. She want to go home, but still came back to our table. I left them because my bus is coming.
I can't seem to create a long convo with anyone, especially if its a group, and when that happens, I just play with my cards, pretending to listen, when really I don't know what to say, or how to join them. I consider their conversation very useless and insignificant, which is why I don't bother joining them. But I want to be a great conversationalist, a great flirter (which I am NOT, can't even flirt whatsoever), a interesting person, but I can't seem to unleash that. Is there a book for that? or just experience? What is your advice to my experience and acts?