I was trying to think how I could contribute to the forum, while still learning. I figured this would be a good way for me to chronical everything in one place, allow people to interject, or just read like I am.
So from the top:
I discovered PUA about 5 years ago. Kind of. I read "How to become an Alpha Male" by John Alexander. I don't really remember much if any of it. I should probably re-read it again. I do know that I can attribute it to my first three-some. Then ending up going out with 4 or 5 girls at a time. All whom I had hooked up with, and who all knew about it. So what am I doing back here?
Well after that I settled down with a hot young number. She wasn't even old enough to drink when I found her. We lived together for 3 years, but ultimately she was too young, had experienced life enough and we were in two different places. But it was good while it lasted.
I was a mess after that. For a long time. I just wasn't good with women any more. I was doing all the typical AFC stuff, clearly with no success, and anything that happened with girls was fleeting. I was needy.
I ended up trying to game another girl, who kept shutting me down. She wasn't a party girl and ran on the fringes of the crowd I hung with. We never ran into each other.
Meanwhile I studied VinDicarlo's Pandora's Box. I had some limited success with it, but did get two very beautiful girls that I enjoyed a summer with. One was a few years older than me, and I couldn't shake her. She was insatiable. Just was heading a different direction too.
So I ended up going further off the deep end. Partying HARD. Chasing anything that moved, lowering my standards, and again ending up genuinely unhappy. I circled back to the girl who never parties. It was a year later. She was/is a 10. Personality, looks, everything. She caused me to post on here for the first time. The advice worked. I got her. We lived together for two years. She was pressuring me to get married. I quit my job, moved across country, with her. I didn't want marriage, but didn't want to loose her either. I kind of lead her on in hindsite.
The new job didn't work out. I moved across country again while looking for a new job. Lived, literally, with this girl in my grandmother's basement all summer. Almost 6 months. Got another job close by. It didn't work out either. (Believe me, I'm a 10 year long term employee from my last position, but I work in private estates for super high net worth clients, and also captain yachts. it's all about the fit with the client. i'm not some s-show employee. these people can be great to work with, or they can just suck. and it's a small industry, so its tough. i digress)
Anyway, I couldn't have this girl putting her life on hold for me. She wanted to go back to school. I had no idea when I would be settled again, so I moved her back home and broke up with her. I had an opportunity to work a boat in Miami, but it's only for a few months while I'm still looking for full time.
So I decided that I would come back here after seeing everything walking around in Miami. WOW...if you've never been here by the way, please do me a favor and do NOT come down. The less PUA here the better. (: just kidding. come. PM me. we'll go out. it's amazing.
I started studying Tao, and Sasha. I was considering dropping the coin on Sasha's boot camp, but I just don't think I need it yet. I don't have crippling aa, and I've got plenty to learn before I even PRETEND I have half a clue.
I also joined the big dating site, and got T-Mal's Ebook. It took 5 days for the first message to come in from a PHD student here. I'm pretty sure I'll see her this week. So don't get a copy of that either. Please keep up the lame profiles that drive the women to message me instead. Thanks.
I went out two weeks ago with a buddy to practice some of my new stuff. It worked ok, but I'm really bad at banter, and my head was swimming with material instead of just acting natural. The one girl who's number I got, pulled the "Who's this" after I texted her, what I thought to be some funny situational material. Oh well. She was 18.
So I've been blasting off emails on the dating site. I'm surprised by how many show "not yet read". And I'm genuinely surprised by how many get read, read my profile, and get nothing. So it's a learning process.
Anyway, I'll post todays activity in the next post, but thats the big intro. Please feel free to comment. My goal for all of this is to become better at talking to the girls I'm more interested in, so that when I meet the girl of my dreams, I can be confident in our interactions. Also, I want to be able to help my buddies who suck with women. But I haven't told any of them about PUA. My little secret.