before we get to the good stuff, I have to give some backstory.
my high school friend Sandy got back in contact with me a few months back (we were friends on facebook, but we hadn't talked for over a year) she wanted to know how my high school best friend kyle was doing. I told her about how he was deployed over in the middle east right now and she was upset that he hadn't told her. turns out they're in a long distance relationship (I clarify that this is absolutely fine by me, kyle was her high school crush and honestly they make a cute couple)
so on Wednesday sandy hits me up and wants to go do something (strictly platonic witch again is fine with me because I like having female friends) so I agree to take her to my usual club Saturday night ( "vice" for those of you who haven't read my other field reports)
on Saturday, I pick her up around 9:30. she's a little nervous because she doesn't know what to expect. we bullshit about some of the things that happened more recently and catch up with each other before arriving downtown.
we're in the club by a little after 10, smirnov ices on me. we sit at a table where I start in teasing her relentlessly about how short she is, about the fact that she looks like a f*cking kid and about the fact that she literally holds her bottle with two hands when she drinks. (like wtf who does that seriously? lol) chatter is good and the night is off to a good start (despite the fact that the club wasn't as crowded as usual)
I finish my drink in like 15 minutes, so of course I have to make fun of her for only having drank half a smirnov ice (not to mention the fact that she says she's already buzzing from half a f*cking drink)
so we run into a third cousin of mine who also went to high school with us, I suggest we head out to my car to enjoy a few sips from my half bottle of ice 101 peppermint schnapps. but of course we have to wait for sandy to finish her drink so we can walk outside (witch I tell her to chug, probably the worst idea of the whole night...) she chugs a little but still has a quarter of the bottle left... she tells me to drink it, I tell her to leave it with one of the bouncers I know.
during this time, the cousin decides not to go drink free liquor at my expense (his loss) can't ever say I'm not a generous guy. so then dumbass me takes her out to my car and gives her a shot of ice 101 (witch is 50 percent alcohol for those of you that have never experienced this cheap but still good liquor) I drank two shots and we go back to the bar.
we go over to the pool tables and of course they are taken by some of the worst billiards players I have ever seen. it was so bad I was trying not to cry just watching... lol (this chubby girl literally sinks the 8 ball unintentionally while she's still got like 3 balls left to pocket, but somehow she convinces her friends that she won and they f*cking believe her and buy her a drink as her prize for "winning" lmao) so i talk to the chubby girl to ask for the table, she hits on me directly by saying and i quote "balls are my stong suit, just not pool balls" i laugh at her and she quickly realizes I'm not interested in hogging.
then of course sandy proves to me that she is also a sucky billiards player (but at least she knows the rules and doesn't break them) so i show her some pointers and help her line up her shots. not to brag, but i really am getting to be a good billiards player. (witch is an awesome skill to have at most bars)
sandy finally finishes her smirnov and buys me one for being patient. i down it and we hit the dance floor. key thing is here,i didn't make much physical contact with her out of respect for kyle, aside from a "hip check" that almost knocked her over lol i do what i do best and completely dominate the dance floor. i kiss one of the girls i danced with, but she then tells me she has to go find her friends before she makes "regretful decisions" (nice ego blow beotch, but it didn't get me down) instead i just find other girls to dance with cause I'm having so much fun and the alcohol is finally affecting my judgement (thank god lol)
so i pull sandy aside and ask her if she wants more ice 101, she agrees and we go back for another drink (note, after this i cut off the alcohol, I'm up to my 5 drink limit since i have to drive her home in a few hours, i feel slightly buzzed... she's up to 3 drinks and is completely shitfaced lol) we go back in and find the couches during the drag show. I'm teasing her mercilessly about how she's a f*cking lightweight.
all of the sudden two familiar faces appear, from my story "my new dilemma.. meteora" bellyshirt and big black girl are upon me, both giving me hugs. (mostly because I'm talking to another girl having fun) but Sandra passes out while I'm talking to them and they leave while i wake her up.
now, here is where things get interesting. after waking her up i go off to the restroom, and when i come back she's talking to a cool looking black dude and his girl he brought with him. apparently they are in an open relationship (and i believe they may well have both been bi-sexual) so i go talk to them.
we have a pleasant conversation, but the dude asks me if I'm gay. kind of offensive to me, but I'm used to it because vice is an alternative club where all the homos go (no disrespect those of you who swing that way, gay people are very friendly and i have mad respect for anyone who goes against the grain society gives them) so i ask him why he thinks that. soon he's explaining vocal tonality to me and how he thinks I'm using too soft of a voice. he helps me reach a more masculine vocal tone. and starts telling me i don't Kino enough (from him observing me talking to sandy who i didn't want to kino much out of respect for kyle) but he actually uses the term kino, so i play dumb and ask him what it is. before long he's telling me all these pick up terms and about how sexual attraction is a primal thing. he tells me women want a strong masculine guy (wich apparently he saw my potential to be even more strong and masculine and dominant) this sort of talk drove our girls away to go do other things lol
then he really did give me some helpful pointers, witch i assume are from the rsd guys because its was some stuff I've never read about. like not telling a girl your name and if she asks you for it then things are on. as well as never following a woman anywhere. if she wants to go somewhere either lead her there or send her there and stay where you're at, she'll come back if she wants your affection.
the icing on the cake was when bellyshirt and bbg came over with 2 of their friends to talk to cool pua and i. i have to admit, this guy knew what he was doing he ran the whole group all 6 of us. he had some really clever kino too, like checking out the girls boots and incidentally touching her leg while doing so, and ass judging (her touched the small of each girls back while doing it so as to makes sure they were using good posture so he judge the ass) after about 20 minutes of this, bellyshirt, drunk dude and bbg left the set (and left one cool pua's target with him) taking us down to 3, cool pua was getting closer to other girl and i knew he needed to Isolate her, so i was a good wing by going to the bathroom so they would be isolated right there where they were sitting.
when i came back, they were still in the same situation (don't know why he didn't manage to k-close, or maybe he did and i didn't see it...) so i grabbed sandy up off a couch and told her to start sobering up. it was getting towards 2 in the morning. about this time i spot cool pua going to the mens room, i see this as my opportunity to talk to him before i get going. i told him about how tight his game looked, and he told me it was all just the liquid courage, he doesn't get out more than a few times a month because he has a fairly demanding job and two kids to take care of.
i pushed farther and told him he had to teach me his ways. he gave me the name of a website with loads of information (return of kings dot com) and he offered to hang out with me sometime and i got his number. though he was unable to get mine because he left his phone in his car. i texted him, though he still hasn't texted back... (but I'm bound to run into the dude again cause vice is one of the only bars he goes to.
i know i played dumb the whole time, when i probably could have talked about some serious theories I've been working on. but i didn't want him to see me as an equal, as the best way to learn is that of a student with an empty chalice ready to fill it with new knowledge.
if the dude takes me under his wing that would be awesome. i want to learn the perspectives of many pua's and this could be a good start for the 2015 project. hopefully i'll run into him again.