I've been reading into PUA techniques all week religiously. I've looked at openers, techniques to show dhv, build rapport, kiss close, etc. I am normally very nervous when I talk to girls that I am try to "game" on but I have no issue holding a conversation with just any girl I dont really find attractive.
Anyway, I've been wanting to address this area of my life and step out of my comfort zone. So, by my dorm there is a bar that always has college kids packed in it on weekends. I decide to go out that night to practice some of the stuff I learned to see what works and what doesnt. Definitely did not work out the way I wanted it to.
Firstly, I didnt go out till much later than I should have when my vibe was pretty weak (I prefer to do this sober so drinking isnt an option). Then I also went out with a group of like 5 other guys so that probably didnt help my case either.
We did get to the bar though, which is more like a nightclub since it's so loud to the point that you cant really converse without half the conversation being lost in the sound. That lead me to my first issue. I know I needed to break off and create social proof but how can I do that when all the openers Ik felt like they would be so random or BS if I used them so I didnt even open any sets, which is my major issue that I wanted to work on to begin with. There is a patio where its not so loud but it is SO crowded with people I didnt feel comfortable even attempting to open any sets there with the openers I knew. The only social proof I got was from some other guys from the university that I knew at different parts of the dance floor.
Whatever though I go rejoin my friends thinking okay I'll just find some girl that makes eye contact with me and I'll dance with her. So we go to the end of the room with the couches and we're all sitting down and this cute girl tries to get one of my friends to dance and he doesnt dance so I tried doing what I normally dont and went up to dance with her instead infront of the entire lounge and this is where I fucked up I would say. I grabbed her hand and twisted her around a bit but then when I let her go she notioned me to "show her what I got" and I did. Which I guess made me look like the "dancing monkey" since I could tell I no longer seemed like an AMOG at all.
Anyways at this point my legs feel like jelly cause my social anxiety is kicking into full gear so I just go back to sitting.
Later on another girl HB7 tried to hype us up since we were all looking pretty bored just sitting there. She was dancing infront of us notioning us to get up and dance with her group of friends 2 HB8, and HB1. One of the HB8 was my target but I got up and danced with the HB7 since nobody did and this time I felt like I did actually build a bit of rapport since I pulled her in close instead of releasing her after the spinning her around. It was going good but I didnt know how to entertain her group of friends at the same time and my friends didnt come up to help out with the others either so after like 5 min she like had me waiting as she talked with her HB1 friend so I just gave up and sat back down.
I'm still determined to atleast have one successful dance though so I pulled one of my friends up with me to the dance floor by the bar. I found a few girls that I would love to dance with but they were always in a 3-4 set of HB7-9 and I have no idea how to open sets on a dancefloor without looking like a fool and costing me HV points.
One situation Im still hitting my head about was this super cute HB8 that I knew from middle school and we recognized each other and she was like hugging me and grabbing my face but I could hardly hear what she was saying and she didnt hear what I was saying so I couldnt build any rapport whatsoever and was too pussy to simply grab her and start dancing. I ended up just moving away from her group so I dont look awkward.
So instead I try to wing my friend with this girl by using the "do you think my friend looks gay" opener but just as I suspected half the shit I said wasnt heard and she ended up thinking that I was gay and was interested in him so she notioned me to go check for myself since he was standing a short distance away.
All in all, it was a terrible night for me. I felt like it was counter productive in helping me build confidence and it just showed me how little ik though I felt comfortable with the material I had been reading for the past couple weeks.
Sorry for the long read guys just really disappointed with myself and could definitely use some tips on game in a loud ass bar.