Kind of a field report, but I wanted to see if anyone else has been in these shoes before.
I went out last night with one of my friends who happens to be a girl, we used to hook up a lot but are past that and just like to chill. At the bar I was feeling okay, not nervous, or out of place. Approached a 2 set, HB8 and HB9. Made small talk, and they left, it wasn't going anywhere. Then I saw my neighbor with her date. Talked to her a little bit and then found her roommate who had her two friends with her, HB8 and possibly HB9.5, very beautiful. When I shook the HB9's hand, she locked eyes. I got the doggy dinner bowl look by just smiling and introducing myself. The second I let go, she turned around and put her a$$ against me to grind...
Now this is where I baffled myself. I go out nearly every weekend to grab a lay, usually with little success, most of my lays come from inner circle and online... I was super off put by her forwardness, not uncomfortable, but almost disgusted. I kept backing up as she pushed against me, and finally she got the message. She turned around and said "what?" I told her she'd have to get a drink or two in me before I let her do that. She said something, which I thought had to do with kissing. I said something like "I like kissing better than dancing." In which, she doggy dinner bowled me again and perked up. I stared at her and half grinned, as if saying it's not happening. She leaned in, and I leaned back. She then perked up on her tip toes and planted one on me. I backed up a little more and she finally turned around.
This damn near dime piece was throwing herself at me, and I wanted nothing to do with her. I suppose I could have back pedaled and gamed a little bit to see what she was like, but I didn't even really want to be around her afterwards.
I spend all this time trying to figure out what does and doesn't work to f close girls at the bar, and I didn't need to do anything here, and that seemed to be the problem... I was curious if anyone has had something like this happen to them, or actually find as they feel more comfortable that the lay part may not even be as important anymore as the get to know you part... Am I losing my sexual drive??