Yesterday I laid my first doctor.
I had met her at a Christmas party the previous saturday. Now, context is important. This was a Christmas party for a kink group in my home town, and there were a lot of newbies there. I think we had about 17 new people who wanted to explore their kinky sides for the first time, and K was among them.
I've been in the group for awhile, and I had started my own website, ropeconnections.com, for a few reasons, but one of them was as a means to build social proof and prove that I had skills that other people don't; namely, that I have the skills of rope bondage. I can freaking teach this stuff. I have a website, I can speak knowledgeably and authoritatively on it; so yes, I do know my stuff.
And this has generated respect for me in the kink community. I'm teaching, I'm proving I know my stuff, and when the party started, the leader of our local group asked me to step in and help assist her with the orientation to the scene and how to behave at the party.
Instant, massive social proof. I was put in a leadership role in front of all the newbies there, including my three targets.
She did most of the orientation, and also referred to me as being "the guy" to talk to when it came to trying out rope bondage (more social proof). I watched the room and made eye contact with some of the hotter newbies. There were three that I was interested in, and the doctor was amongst them. I chimed in from time to time on points that my friend hadn't covered, and then later socialized a bit.
I only spoke briefly with K; she was lovely, American, just hit 30, and had read about kink stuff a lot and wanted to explore it. However my friend was targeting her, and I already had plans with two other women that night for little dates.
So I did those things, and later also took on the role of monitor, one of the guys in authority going around checking to make sure that everyone was behaving appropriately and no one was doing kinky shit they had no idea how to do (that can be dangerous)
Later, one of the other newbies (probably a 7, 22 years old, great mouth, great bosom, not overweight, dressed in a really provocative outfit that emphasized her breasts) approached me about wanting to try some rope bondage. She was very keen to try it out. I negotiated a hot scene with her while her friends watched, sounding very professional, and ascertaining that she wanted a really hot, sensual time, with no real roughness or pain.
Now, K was watching in the background while all this happened. So I disappeared with this hot, buxom woman for about 40 minutes, and later came back. Said hot buxom woman was over the moon. She hugged and kissed me and said she had a great time and was definitely keen to do some more again.
It was honestly a great time, the 22 year old had those really hot reactions to every little thing I did.
Later in the week, K messaged me. She was keen to explore rope with me, wanted to try being tied up, indicated that if I did certain things I would have to fuck her.
So she was down... but I played a little hard to get. I told her I didn't tie anyone in private unless we'd met for coffee first and gotten to know each other better. I needed more of a connection, I said. I didn't tie just anybody (demonstrating that she had to earn it).
We met for coffee, and talked for about two hours about various things. She was a doctor, general practitioner, a year out of med school. She was polyamorous, she'd had a few kinky experiences but was really keen to try a lot more. I played on that, asking her what the best thing she'd ever done was, and asking her what she liked about it. I then talked about some of the things I really enjoy, making sure that the values behind that matched up with hers, and also connecting with her on an intellectual level.
(It's my belief that women love sex much more if they feel that the person fucking them is a match for them in every way; that way they feel they've scored highly).
She eventually asked me "when and where?" and I said I was busy over the next few days... (false time limitation). She asked me if I was free tonight.
I was, as it happened.
We went back to my place; I had a playful, flirty time tying her up, exploring those kinks for a bit ( you have to give kinky women their time enjoying the kink, or they won't feel like the time with you was what they were after) and then I tossed her onto the bed and BOOM.
She was stoked. She left about 40 minutes afterward, because I had another woman coming by for cuddles (another one of the newbies I had laid earlier in the week), and I texted K this morning and told her I had a fantastic time. She agreed and said her ass was still a little sore from when I had spanked her, and that made her happy...I told her next time she'd have to leave me stealth hickeys so I had souvenirs too.
What I think really made this was all the social proof I had generated, first from creating my website, that showed off a very demonstrable skill at something few other men have, and second from the party, where I was placed in an alpha position of authority.
That and I focused on other women, making her crave what they were getting.
First doctor ever.