Before I start, early into this year, I was obsessed with PUA. Right when I felt like I was gaining the confidence to become good within a matter of months at PUA, that included me taking full initiative, school kicked me in the nuts. So, I stopped looking into PUA in order to focus on school. Well, school is now over and I've felt like my feeling of confidence that I was gaining in has slowly withered away. So, I'm trying to get back into the shuffle of things, making a few approaches here and there. So, what I'm trying to say is, where-as before when I felt like things were going good, and I felt like I would have the right thing to say in any situation, now, I've lost some of that feeling. So, I would like some good tips to point me in the right direction again!
ANYWAYS, ONTO THE field report:
Field Report 1
Last Saturday, I was in a club, and due to alcohol, yes I know I don't like gaming drunk (it was my friends birthday), but I decided due to my drunk logic, I would approach EVERY woman In the same vicinity as I was in. So, the first woman that set it off actually approached me.
She first said, "can I sit here?" (It was on the ledge of the couch I was on)
I respond, "maybeee" followed by a smile
She smiled back and then sat down, I ended up being pulled into a conversation with someone else, so I looked away - the conversation ended with the people I talked to
I recall grabbing my glass or something of the sort, taking sips of my vodka and whatever else was mixed with it, she taps me on the shoulder
"So, what's your name?"
I told her my name, she told me hers (which I forget, yes. I blame alcohol)
at this point the people beside me left, so I slid over and signalled for her to sit down beside me, she did.
I forget EXACTLY what it was we were talking about at this point, but she had told me she was from out of town (a farm town or something),
"I came from *insert some random ass farm town* with a couple of my girlfriends, that's one of them over there!"
*She points to a girl adjacent from our posistion who looks like she is going to throw up*
I respond, "A farm town eh? How much more boring is that then being in Toronto?"
She laughs, "It's not that bad"
"Do you guys even have a bar, or heard of one up until this point?"
She laughs, and says, "We have one bar! but it's all old people!"
"I remember I went to a bar in a small town once, it was all young girls with their moms"
She laughs again, "that would be so weird"
"I know it was, do you go partying in *whatever that small town was* with your mom?"
she says "Nooo!"
"Because that's kindaaa weird"
she laughs, "no I don't! gosh I would never go partying with my mom, she would ruin everything" (or something like this)
I teased her a bit, I was getting good IOIs, she had her hand on my lap from time to time during the conversation, on my arm, playing with her hair, etc.
the conversation continues and at some point I decide it's starting to die down, I recall remembering at this point, "when it starts to die down, perfect time to get a number"
so I said something like,
"You seem pretty interesting, next time you're in Toronto again lets party! What's your number?" *I pulled out my phone casually*
The Vibe unlike other times I failed getting a number didn't seem THAT different (mind you I was drunk) and she responds,
"I don't come to Toronto that often!"
So I forget what I followed up with, so I continued the conversation going to ask for a number agian, but I didn't know how to come off smoothly without seeming awkward
and before I could, her incredibly drunk friend says, "lets dannnnce!" and she places her drink down and says,
"Can you watch that for me?"
I said, "Maybeee, but if someone spills it, it's not my fault!" *smile on my face* or something to that degree
She laughs and goes on her way
BTW I know PUAs and such like to gauge the women by a number, this girl was about a 8 - 9.
SO. I figured, TWO THINGS could have happened here. She simply started talking to me as a result of her friend being in same vicinity, so she decided to talk to me so she didn't come off as awkward being there, alone. However, REGARDLESS of that, the amount I had her laughing, and the IOIs I recieved, told me I was doing SOMETHING right.
I won't delve into any more tales of toronto only because, there were TWO crash and burns, and the other girl I talked to, seemed initially interested in me, and then completely itnerested in my friend. At which point my drunken logic told me, "fark it."
Field Report 2:
Last night I'm at a club in my local city, and the night I had a couple drinks, nothing to classify me as hammered. I'm in the smokers area, I'm with a couple of friends, we're laughing joking around, etc. Two women approach us asking if we have an extra ciggerette and a lighter? My friend gives her this, and then...
"Thanks!" Says the one girl
followed by, "So are you guys from here?"
We say yes, at this point, both girls break off, my friend talks to the girl who initially asked for a ciggerette, I talk to the girl closest to me
she says, "I love it here so much!"
I respond, "Yeeeah, it's alright"
"why don't you like it?"
"There's only so much you can do, it gets kinda boring after awhile!"
"Yeah I guess, I goto a University in *I forget whereee...* though, and the clubs and bars there you have to leave so early to get in because there's only like two good ones"
"Oh ok, what are you going to University for?"
"Psychology" or something a long these lines... I'm not completely certain, but this seems to ring a bell when thinking back to the conversation
"You look like a fashion student" (She was dressed overly stylish, had a hipster vibe about her)
She was flattered, "Ohh really? I've never heard that before!" or something like that
RANDOMLY some dude comes out with a bottle of Corona, and says, "HEY GUYS, you can have this bottle of corona, it's only been opened I haven't drank out of it!" He leans over to the side of me and places it on the table behind me and leaves.
I look at her and laugh, "So do you want that bottle of Corona? That sketchy guy may or may not have put any roofies in it"
She laughs, "yeeeeeah I definitely want it!" sarcastically
I kinda forget what was said at this point, I remember we exchanged names, but I bridged the conversation back into the initial topic
"Yeah, my universities night life is pretty boring" she says
I forget what was said, it was kind of boring at this point
anyways, I overhear her friend talking about vegas, to salvage the dieing conversation, I try to bring us into this one she talks about how vegas was so fun or something to that degree
"Yeah? Are you even old enough to be going to vegas? You look like you're only 18 or 19"
The girl I was initially talking to, "No, she's only 17!"
"I knew it!"
They both laugh, "No really, she's 23"
I respond, "I remember I went to Vegas and it was a lot of spanish people handing out fliers for escorts"
they both laugh, the girls friend says, "Yeah it is! I was drunk in the street and they kept handing me out these fliers, I had a stack this big" She demonstrates with her hand how big the stack was
ANYWAYS, the girl I was initially talking to walks off and goes and talks to some other friends.
So, I FEEL I'm gaining better grounds on being able to come off as a decent conversationist. However, IF we're gauging this off of Mystery Method (which I don't like ot use, but it has some great theory involved) I'm able to start off in the comfort phase, but the attraction phase, I feel I'm lacking. ANY pointers would be GREAT!
IF you trecked through all of this, thank you for taking your time to read it!