How can you say youthink you can close her, then in the same sentence say you can't.
Belief isn't pie in the sky. It's called confidence. I'm not saying it's going to happen every time, but it has and it can happen again. If you don't think your confidence and belief in self plays a huge role in this I suggest you look at some more inner game stuff.
Other than that, agree to disagree an move on.