sry its long, but I feel we will all get more out of it if I tell the whole story.
My friendís birthday downtown San Diego, we have a group of 5 guys at bar with live band. Ive been single for 1.5 yrs after being in relationship for 9 yrs, until about 1 month ago I have had virtually no success with the ladies until the last month. Been studying PUA on and off the last yr, one thing that has really helped me is hanging out with other guys who are good at picking up girls, but PUA info has been amazing! This is my 2nd or 3rd success story:
So one of the guys in my group i used to work with, have never hung out with opens up a brunette and a blonde that looks amazingly close to gwen Stefani, the brunette that is a 9. ill call her Jennifer cuz she kinda looks like Jennifer love hewit. hes chatting to the brunette for 5-10 mins while the blonde is just standing there so i come over and introduce myself with the intent of opening Gwen Stefani and not interrupting my friend and Jennifer.
as im about to introduce myself to Gwen, Jennifer jumps in and says her name and i tell her mine and immediately turn to Gwen and ask what her name is and Jennifer interrupts and quizzes me on what her name is, i smile and tell her that she busted me and to be honest i didnt hear it clearly because the band is so loud.
she says, "but you pretended like you heard it and you never asked me to repeat myself?" (in my head im thinking oooo i think i might like this girl)
i start laughing confidently and say, "well to be honest, i came over here to meet your friend, it looked like you had a connection with my buddy and i didnt want to interrupt you two."
she, "your friend is annoying, i dont like him at all." (he is standing just out of earshot) she gives me some more shit about how i didnt listen for her name. i joke it off, tell her it was nice to meet her and try to talk to Gwen and she pulls me back after a cpl more secs I start to leave she grabs me and tells me to start over and pretend we never met. at this point the other guy is standing off to the side now, looking pissed lol. He shut down and stopped talking as soon as I got there. In his defense it was very loud.
i have to decide if i should leave her for a min to save him so much embarrassment or just keep going, i say fuck him and his hurt feelings and keep moving forward, because she is doing a really good job at attracting me to her. about 15 mins later he walks by both of us and says nice cockblock with a scowl and i laugh he keeps moving. within 20 mins i have her in another part of the bar making out we hang out at the bar for about 2 hours have amazing time. go to vip section with our own couch for about a half hour played with pussy and tits. shes loving everything.
so my first question is, was i disrespectful to my friend/acquaintence? do i owe him an apology? my thoughts: i dont think i did anything wrong. she simply wasnt into him and was into me and there was very little I coulda done to save him embarrassment. also I learn the next day he has a girlfriend.
My friends leave without saying bye, cuz im busy, bar time comes we are outside on street, me the 2 girls, and one other guy that Gwen met. Gwen gets rid of the other guy and Jennifer tells me that they have hotel room (at very nice hotel) and we get cab, go there having tons of fun, shocked at how much we have in common. also, Gwen has been hating on me a little bit all night because she cant stand watching me touch Jennifer. Turns out Gwen has a crush on Jennifer, i forget to ask if they have ever fooled around for some dumb reason. On the way there I warm Gwen up a little bit and she is starting to like me too.
Jennifer and I get wild in the hotel elevator and hallways for about a half hour while gwen leaves to hotel room. Woulda been a great time to try and get them two to kiss in retrospect. at this point i havent asked enough questions it turns out. we get to hotel room and i walk in to see a dark hotel room with 6 people in beds and on floor! (3 of them big white guys!) im like wtf!! then i turn to the right and see an adjoining room with gwen in skimpy clothes (im like jackpot!!! our own room) however, Jennifers sister is at the door yelling about how shes not answering her calls, and how she ditched her friend (Gwen) and who the fuck is this guy?! i calm the sister down, slightly win her over, convince her its ok i stay she goes back to bed (im feeling quite proud of myself at this point)
i convince them to let me smoke the last of their nugs, massaging Gwen's feet, Jennifer takes off all her clothes except pink undies and changes in front of us into phillip rivers jersey (she works out 7 days a week and has amazing body, rock hard abs and arms some extra info for those of you jacking off rt now haha) Gwen starts talking about how she wants to eat Jennifers pussy.
im fooling around with Jennifer some more, once again my failure to ask the rt questions gets me into a tricky situation. im being a little bit too loud feeling confident, (had deadbolted the adjoining room), all of a sudden the other side of the room another adjoining door opens with a big girl in it yelling WHO THE FUCK IS THIS GUY?! Im like you gotta be fucking kidding me! I had no idea there was a 3rd room. i try to calm her down, dont do a very good job, pretty much ignore and laugh at her after I realize im not making much headway (in retrospect I shoulda tried way harder to win this girl over).
my girl goes to the bathroom with door open, so i go in there, we close door and start fooling around with her on the counter, door slams open and its sister again and shes raging, "GET THE FUCK OUT! BLAH BLAH BLAH" over and over, my girl is terrible at standing up for herself, i just decide to say ok ill leave no problem, take my time, hop in bed with the Gwen and Jennifer for a min give Jennifer a long kiss goodnt in front of her sis and the other hag. they are gettin more pissed by the moment. i get up get shoes on hop in bed again for another kiss hahaha. then i sense its time to leave i walk out slowly and sis tries to close door on me and i yell "Jennifer I love you!!" and laughing super hard (hopefully she got the joke, kind of a risky joke).
im walking down hallway hear door open I look back, itís a 6'5" built guy looking at me, i say, "whats up" he doesnít say anything and i hear sis say, "cmon hes not worth it" and he goes back in. i get down to lobby realize i dont have her fuckin #! I go back up to the floor they are on and realize I can only narrow her room down to 3 rooms cuz I was drunk and not payin attn. so I decide to just leave and walk to buddies without knockin on any rooms. TERRIBLE FUCKIN ENDING TO A SUPER FUN NT! Well better than getting my ass kicked I guess, lol.
Also, earlier in the nt, about a half hour in she took out her phone and without a word handed it to me. i was feeling over confident and stupid and didnt tell her to call me or text me immediately so i had her #, so she has mine but id be shocked if she calls or texts. tell friend story, he tells me go find her on facebook, 1st name is slightly unique and i know age (24). find her quickly using friends acct (i dont have facebook acct) so now what to do. Thank you internet!
My plan: create face book acct in a couple days (been meaning to anyway) and send her a message, however now im thinking this will be a little too weak. (stalkerish)
what are some things i did wrong? What did I do right? i know some answers to this question and will share my perspective later in thread (way too long of a post already) but would love to hear others opinions of course. one thing i did wrong was get too drunk!! oops
Any tips on how to handle people like the sister or big friend?
what should I say in the facebook message and how long should i wait?