Hey what's up everyone?
Before I get started with my story, let me give everyone a little background about my situation. I have been in a long term relationship with the love of my life for a little over 4 years, and one day everything just changed. She wasn't the same person anymore, and no longer wanted to be with me. After we broke up a had a lot of self esteem issues, and became very self conscious. The break up happened about 2 months ago, and i recently got over the low self esteem issues about a week or so ago.
Anyways, I was heart broken, and my boss could totally tell. He recommended "The Game" by Neil Strauss, which I'm sure most of you got into this world through. I've read a lot about what to do, and have seen many videos on how to get women, but with all this theory I had no application!
About three nights ago me and my room mates head out to a bowling alley, round 1. Me and my wing man, who entered the PUA world with me, came in with no real game plan, but had our intentions set on practicing that night.
Walking into the bowling alley, I was anxious, nervous, and everyone could tell. My physical appearance seemed tense, and I had anxiety written all over me.
For the first approach my wing, Achilles, told em to hit up a 3 set. I had everything in my head of what to say, but my body froze up and I chickened out. He and I walked over to the bar to purchase some liquid courage, and after a few brews our friends had joined us. We saw a 2 set of HB 8's, but quickly saw them rejoined by a group of 2 guys. This easy 2 set of beautiful women turned into a 4 set of 2 guys and 2 girls.
I sipped on my beer, and out of the corner of my eye i see my wing finish his beer, get up, and he exclaimed to me, "Watch this." He approached the 4 set with the jealous girlfriend opener, asked the girls, then the guys for their opinions. He opened the entire group, and everyone was genuinely interested in the conversation. I saw that the girls were really into talking to him, and their boys looked a little angry that he cut in. I nutted up, got up, went up to the group and asked, "Hey what's going on buddy, who are these guys?" I politely introduced myself to the women, then the men.
He went on to converse with the girl next to him, so I got the attention of girl 2, and took it away from her. I entertained the guys, asked them what he was talking about. As soon as they said picture under bed, I knew where to pick up from and kept the conversation going. I got the guys to be talking to me, since they saw that their 2 friends were occupied, and just to be polite, was continuing the conversation of the pictures under the bed with me. We finished that set because of the time constraint we set... we had to get back to our friends. Through out the rest of the sit at the bar I noticed the girls kept eyeballing me and my wing, even though they had 2 guys who were taking them out that night. When they left, the main girl my friend was talking to kept forcing eye contact with him, so he made eye contact back and said goodbye to her while she was leaving with her friends.
Now for my first approach, since he had already approached. We walked to the arcade and he pointed out a 1 set for me. "go go, it's all yours" *nudge nudge*. I took it, counted... 1... 2... 3... turned, looked, made eye contact... "Excuse me, do you mind if I get your opinion on something?" she immediately responded with a head shake, and said "no." This bugged me, but only for the moment it happened. I didn't let it ruin my night. Now that I opened, and got rejected I was NOT afraid of anything else happening. The rest of the night turned into a piece of CAKE.
My room mate then opened a set of 2 girls eating pizza. "That pizza is awfully huge for 2 people?" My room mate said to the group of 2. She asked him, "are you here because of a bet?" She was questioning his approach. "No, I was just hanging out with my friends and I'm a little bored so I decided to walk around and meet some new people." BOOM, now she doesn't feel like he was trying to get at her.
I waited about a minute... ticking down the time... "3...2...1... here's my cue"
I walk in. "Hey bro, that's where you are. I'm about to go out for a smoke soon. Who are these people you are with?"
him: "Oh just a couple of friends that i just made."
me: "oh yeah, are they cool?"
him: "yeah they're alright"
As soon as he said that i went ahead and introduced myself and asked a little bit about their lives. They even offered us some of their pizza! After a little bit of small talk we made our way out for our cigarette, which was our time constraint. As we came back in we saw that they were also with 2 guys! Our group of friends said that they never stopped eyeballing us the entire night.
the next approach was all mine, a random 2 set sat at a table next to us, one that was behind me. My friends saw them sitting down and immediately told me to hit them up... again I counted in my head...1... 2... 3... got out of my chair and opened with the generic, but VERY EFFECTIVE picture under the bed opener.
"Hey guys, I NEED your opinion on something." etc etc, generic small talk. I make things interesting by saying different things about the pictures, telling background about the "relationship" that my friend and this girl have. Remember everyone, it's NOT lying, it's flirting! By the end of that talk I started running out of ideas and was beginning to hesitate... but luckily behind my shoulder I see my wing coming in. Again we made small talk, got their interest in us, and closed with our time constraint.
Near the end of the night when the arcade was closing me and my wing headed over to the arcade. We noticed 3 girls trying to take pictures with the photobooth, but the machines were off. we offered to take their pictures for them if they had a camera, and started small talk from their. We convinced them to play ski-ball with us, but that ended up being shut off. We ended up closing that set early, but the point is we had their attention and interest!
finally at the END of the night, we were trying to get something going with the bartender that was serving us. We ordered a pitcher of beer, sat down and started sippin on our cups. My wing gets up and comes back saying "DAMN I FEEL SO PIMP"
He made his way over to the bartender and asked her if she wanted to help us finish our beer because we probably werent going to finish it. After she finished cleaning up, she came by and politely told us that she couldnt drink with us. Regardless of the fact that she didnt drink with us, we could see that she kept looking over at us the entire time, and even though she rejected us, it was very polite and sincere.
By the end of the night we opened about 5-6 sets, saw how this all works. Although we didnt have any successful closes, the point is that we had built genuine interest in the women we were talking to, they wanted to engage in conversation with us again, and most importantly we didn't creep them away with what we were talking about!
The day after we went out I had made my first successful kiss close... WITH A GIRL I HAD JUST MET THAT DAY! Mind you, I was shaking and shivering at the beginning of the previous night!
That one sarging experience changed the whole world for me, the way that things work in my head, stacked my confidence, and made me a more socially open person! If me and my boy can do it, in 1 night, you can too!