Hi there. I'm a super newbie! I have read lots of things but not put them into practice.
I decided to just go for it the other night. I usually try and talk to chicks on the dancefloor: I ask some girl if she had heard any good chat up lines, then later I asked a different girl dressed up as a cat if she was either a quiet yet mischievous cat or a feisty cat. I can’t think of anything to follow up so these both just ended and they continued to dance. I used to be terrified of the thought of saying anything at all, so I believe it to be progress of some sort.
Later, I saw this girl in a red dress (an 8) sitting down alone on seats near the dancefloor. I had never gone up to a woman who was sitting down before. I tried to think of techniques instead of the “Hi, How are you, where you from; where do you work...”(now I’ve run out of things to ask) style thing I’m used to.
I come over, smile, give eye contact and say “I thought I’d talk to you as you looked lonely”
I ask her if she’s ever played the Lying game, she says no.
“Basically I ask you 5 questions and you have to lie on each one, you have to try to get to the end,” (She seems vaguely excited but I press on.) I ask her name and where she’s from, where that is in? (she could be telling the truth who knows.) I get to the trick question by asking her “how many questions have we had so far?” she gestures 3. “Oh unlucky, you lose you answered with the truth!”
(I had read this game on the web before, I’m not sure how it’s supposed to get a seduction response or into further conversation).
I had noticed there was some Indian guy that was pestering her a little earlier, I joked that I could try and set them up together, then she got confused. (It didn’t really make sense, I guess it was funny in my head) I explain tonight I’m here with my friends, and we’re celebrating my friend coming back from Africa after teaching English for a year.
I then ask her why she was sitting down and she reveals that she was tired or something. I then say how tired I feel and how I’m going to have to do my best sober impression at work. She asked me where I worked. I said “what’s this town famous for?” She said the beach. I said Yes, I slap her a high five. She asked me if I worked as a lifeguard. I said “no, but I bet you’re imagining me in those sexy red shorts?” I told her I worked as an ice-cream person, (the truth) I didn’t know what to say about the subject, so I just said it was an amazing job where we used a whippy machine. I then asked her what she did, I said ‘I reckon something based on fashion,” judging by the way she was dressed, but instead she worked for a bank. I said “I’d better not give you any of my money then I know what you bankers are like” and she laughed.
I felt an awkward silence and we just sat there for at least 10 seconds not talking. I felt about how I’ve seen other people have flirty conversations where they’re bantering and laughing.
I ask her if she’s played 4 questions game. (this is a Style routine I think) I said “it’s a great way to get to know someone you’ve just met and find out some interesting about your personality, but are you brave enough to play it?” She says yes.
I ask her to imagine that she’s in a white room, how does she feel? She says she’s wondering why she’s here.
I then ask her what her favourite colour is and how it makes her feel? She says Purple, but won’t tell me what she likes/feels about it
I then ask her favourite cat and what she likes about it? She says a cat and it being furry (I find it hard for people to explain the feeling about colour/animal , I have to push for the second part of each question and it makes me feel harsh)
I then ask her to imagine being next to the most beautiful lake and what would you do in the situation? She says she wouldn’t go into it as it’s cold.
I’ll tell her the result...the white room being what she thinks about death, I explain that she isn’t too worried about it, but she’s a bit curious about it. I tell her the colour means what she thinks of herself, I couldn’t get anything from her answer, maybe I should have thought of some positive attributes about the colour purple? The animal question about her liking cats and the furriness, I said that’s what people think of you, I joked “I’m not sure about this one”! The lake questions I revealed was what she thought of sex, her comment about it being too cold, I said that meant she was initially apprehensive. (Perhaps I should have said that it means you need to find the right person before you commit to intimacy while very slyly pointing to me)
I asked her if she had heard any good chat up lines. I said I was a wannabe Casanova and wanted to learn the tricks of the trade. I tell her that the worse I heard was ‘If you were the McDonalds you’d be the McGorgeous; I couldn’t believe it when I heard it.”
After another long silence, I felt like I wasn’t progressing and felt awkward just sitting there. I find it extremely difficult to get her to truly invest in a conversation, I wanted that flow you get from one to the other, the excitement of a good conversation. After I had spoke, she didn't convey much interest so I ended up just jumping to topic to topic like you see above. I say ‘nice to meet you,’ shake her hand and go.