This will be my second actual field report. A lot of things could have been better, I’m posting mostly because I need to post about my failures more than I do about my successes, if I discuss them openly I force myself to handle them better
I got ready with some moderate Peacock, nice hoodie, some jeans I’ve bleached so they have white and blue streaks, beret, a few good rings, and my leather jacket over my hoodie (took my motorcycle out and it was somewhat cold)
I met up at a nearby bar with another local wingman I’ve been talking to on here, Chet25. I met chet for the first time as he grabbed a drink and we started to chat a bit. The first bar was dead, so we split somewhere nearby that gets busy pretty early, one of my favorite stops.
Went to the other bar, talked to half a dozen guys and 3-4 girls, this bar has ~ 50 different taps so If someone is ordering I will open by asking them what they’ve decided on or any suggestions, etc. Usually a starting place. Nothing was really setting.
Chet and I were talking and noted a 4 set that kept looking over at us and were devising a strategy to say hello (First failure, shoulda just walked over, but we didn’t we hesitated, bad) when instead a 45 year old petite Italian lady walked over (she was…. Maybe a 6) and complimented me on my style (chet and I are both 26). I laughed with her a bit, put my arm around her told her she’s our friend now. We were nice, she pretty quickly latched on to us. She asked me to buy her a drink, I refused, she eventually walked back with her own drink plus one for me, but she was a pain in the butt and we had to shake her. I started ignoring her because she was being frustrating, Chet later told me she told him she wanted to go home with him (LOL). At any rate, we got rid of her. We talked to a few girls that came up by the bar and a couple nearby guys, but nothing solid.
Chet and I decided it was time to bounce, so we agreed to go to a few places downtown.
I arrived a bit before chet, walked in to this small bar with a bad playing, on my own I grabbed a drink and chatted up some of the guys playing pool. There were only 3 approachable girls here and all were with partners. Ok no big deal.
A few minuts later Chet messages me that he got pulled over, turns out he got a $220 ticket for window tint…. Kinda killed his evening and he decided to bail (don’t blame him)
MEANWHILE – my “ex” walked in to the bar with her new boy (I put “ex” in quotes because she was only one of 3 girls I was dating, but I still really liked her at the time).
(Background on the ex thing – this was the girl I picked up at zombicon in http://www.puaforums.com/pick-up-fie...t-tropics.html, we had a lot of fun together for a month, but she wanted a 1 on 1 commitment right away and it takes me a while to make sure I really really like someone first. So she eventually cut it off. She officially ended it, only about 2 weeks before, but she has still been messaging me with stupid stuff like “hey hope you’re doing ok” or the “happy thanksgiving” crap about every 4 days)
She’s in there, walked right behind me like has to push me aside, and found a spot at the bar. I mentioned her to the new guys I was talking to but I basically ignored her, the main guy I was talking to said she was constantly looking over at me. I got them to finish their drinks and bail with me to my favorite downtown bar with more pool tables (only a few minuts after she got there). I left without acknowledging her.
We got to my favorite bar (old faithful as tropics referred to it one, also one of the only bars that my “ex” ever saw me at). We walked in and I got a round for my new friends, and went over to find a pool table. A girl said she liked my hat as we walked over, I smiled and tipped it to her but proceeded with my friends to look for a table (unsuccessfully) (S – T – U – P – I – D, she was cute and opened me and I didn’t capitalize on it).
I told my new friend I was afraid the girl was going to show up there, saw a girl that looked similar but turned out to be a false alarm. The cupid shuffle came on, I wasn’t talking to anyone else so I went to the dance floor and pretended I didn’t know what I was doing (asking the girls to show me the steps, etc, kinda works, kept bumping into them laughing).
Song ended, my friend tells me I was right on, my ex shows up with her new boy.
Just to recap, I go to obscure bar, she shows up so 5 minuts later I leave and let her have the bar, and go to my favorite bar where she has seen me many times. 5 minuts later she shows up, at the most likely spot downtown where you would possibly find me. Hmmm?
I gave her a nice smile, said hello, and walked outside to the patio with my friends. There was a group of girls behind me (95% sure they were lesbians, which turned out true, but needed to open someone) with the, hey I need a girls opinion on something – so my ex just bla bla bla.
My friends ended up splitting randomly and suddenly, the lesbian conversation lulled, and I didn’t have any other approachable sets outside.
I had some social proof talking to different people and dancing, and finding a new crew to roll with after I lost my wing (due to completely legitimate circuimstances), but ultimately I should have been in more sets, especially with more girls. There were a ton of girls I didn’t open and I could have. I looked good, they were looking at me, but I froze. I especially should have followed up with the girl who opened me on my hat (I know! Girls don’t compliment your clothing at random, its always an opener)
I got caught up and frustrated with my ex following me. I really think I should have amoged the poor guy (no ill will towards her new boyfriend, good for them that they want a nice one on one relationship today but leave my bar alone), next time ima go introduce myself, hug her, shake his hand, and become his best friend.
Overall, this whole night should have went a lot better. I’m disappointed in myself, mostly because I know what I need to do and I knew what I was doing wrong at the time but I didn’t fix it (namely, open open open)
Oh well, next report will be better
PS Chet25 – you have a simple calm style to you I can totally vibe with, can’t wait to game with you again I think we can work well together