FORWARD - Warming up is important. No matter how many times Ive gone Direct and had results, I always have Approach Anxiety. I never get over it. Sure, you may have taken a bootcamp before or had training, but that confidence fades over time and you're back to Square One. When you're solo, you won't have those buddies throwing you into Direct. You gotta do it on your own. And that is why it is important to warm up, especially if you HAVEN'T talked to people all day, are in a shitty mood, and aren't used to approaching hot chicks, let alone throwing out compliments.
That cute asian Hired Gun waitress I fb close today (20 years old) still hasn't added me on fb. So she may be a flake. I hope not.
FR For Daygame with a cool guy. I shall call him "Steve".
- Cool guy that helped me wing sets.
- We meet at Pacific Center. Pacific Center in Downtown Vancouver is my default location for Daygaming. Every experience there has been good. It's a great training location.
- Steve and I meet at the foodcourt. We catch up on how we've been doing and talk about our experiences with Game and people we've met. He's not into asian girls. He's into white girls. He does well out at the clubs and has done some pulls. We share tips on flirting.
- I finish my drink, push out my chair, and tell him we're going to go start. We're both anxious but it's gotta get done. We walk around and start talking. I've never Daygamed with another person. Im not sure what to expect.
- We "warm up". It's after 4. I start by greeting people with "Good Morning" and extending a handshake. Sure it feels weird, but that's why I gotta do it. This is about getting out of our comfort zone.
- Warming up is a matter of building momentum through small tasks. This is like Qualifying a woman with hoops. Once you get comfortable with something, you challenge yourself with something harder.
And that's what we do, walk around, and chat people up.
After I do it a bunch of times, I get him doing the same.
Now we're touching people to ask for directions.
Handshakes and stopping people are fundamentals. It should be automatic.
I realize I can warm up with anyone, except hot chicks. Im not chatting up hot chicks. It's also time for me to start moving on to compliments.
So we start stopping people to compliment whatever stands out to us. Im doing it spontaneously. Nothing about Vancouver girls stands out to me, so Im stopping people to compliment anything that stands out.
Upon sighting a cute asian girl with a white jacket, I approach her to compliment it and ask where she bought it from. My story always the same. I have a friend who'd love that jacket so Im looking to buy one from her.
I start stopping incredibly hot women. As in I see a smoking hot gorgeous model and go over to her to chat her up.
"Excuse me, I saw you over there and I had to come over here. I love that jacket. Where did you buy it from? I know someone whom is looking for the same kind of jacket and I'd like to bring one back to her as a gift."
It's pretty much scripted. I don't say it all at once. I give them time to talk before following up with my explanation.
The point isn't to get numbers. It's to ingrain this sh1t and get talking to hot chicks. If we're going to transition, we're going to transition normally.
Steve is following my lead. We're now stopping people as soon as we see them. He's going to up to groups of people. And he's hooking.
He's not coming in too strong. And if he ejects, it's not cause he got blown out. It's cause he didn't know how to "Transition".
I give him tips from my own experience.
You transition with:
"So" + Any question.
"So where are you going dressed like that?"
"So where are you from?"
"That reminds me of" + Subject change.
And I give examples of how you can transition to completely ridiculous unrelated subjects.
I also realize he's not going for handshakes. I tell him we're going to go into stores. He says the girls are paid to be nice to you. exactly, I say. These are your opportunities to get those handshakes down.
We go into Guess and I tell him to watch me.
I open 3 girls.
"Excuse me, do you work here?" And I'm extending my hand for them to take it, without even offering my name or indicating I want a handshake.
Later, I explain to Steve what to do if they fail to qualify or don't take your handshake.
"You know, I was just being polite."
"Don't be shy"
These two come to mind.
You can use any excuse to get a handshake.
Wishing them a good day + handshake.
Saying, "Not to be Rude" + extending handshake.
In Guess, I find girl that works there. I go through the basic stuff and lead her to a part of the store. Right now I want to test her boundaries and see what I can get away with.
I forget a lot of what happened as I was asking her for sizes. I do remember that I did this:
I got her to look at me, then I threw a compliment. I told her she had the most adorable button nose Ive seen all day. I then added it's too bad Im not attracted to asian girls. I then promptly changed the subject back to sizes before she even had a chance to react and I acted as if it never happened. She laughed hard, but I could tell she was uncomfortable. She excused herself. I know this sh1t works, so I gotta keep working at it.
We went into Blenz. I recall chatting up one of the baristas. I opened her up by asking for her opinion on strangers giving people handshakes. I used this as an opportunity to demo transitions to Steve, so I emphasized any part where I went "SO" or "THAT REMINDS ME OF...".
After a few topic transitions, I qualified her with "So why are you friendlier than all these other Vancouver girls?" At the time I didn't realize it, but in retrospect, she blew wide open and was really friendly. Steve and I excused ourselves and left.
He told me he was impressed by the "plowing" and how she opened right up to me.
We ran out of time so we made plans to meet again. I told him to work on his handshakes and get that down.
He also told me that a lot of what we were doing today with warming up also applied to the nightclubs. For instance, asking girls what they thought of the venue. He said he likes to accuse them of being high maintenance.