I have been reading these forums for quite some time now and I have learned a lot from the members here.
A little background about me, was quite a natural alpha when I was at college/university (though I didn't really realise it at the time) and I landed my self an amazing girl. Long story short, 9 years later, I was fatter, bald, dumped 28yo AFC. After that I resolved to better myself and I was basically trying to get back what I had had with somebody else. I lost all the weight, got in great shape. Still don't think I am great looking as not much I can do about the baldness except for shave it right down but I am certainly massively improved. Anyway, after a year of all that change (didn't know about PUA then, but had read an article about the beta male) I ended up going out with and then living with a stripper for a year and a half. Which sounds great, but then reality is a bitch and I had to end that for a load of reasons, main one being I didn't like the way she treated me and I thought 'you know, fark this I can do better'. So at this point I am single again and just remembering reading about this 'the game thing'. Cue a few months of sorting my life out, getting into a new place, doing a lot of reading on here (than you all!!!) buying new clothes and generally getting myself set.
I thought now was a good time to post as I have just gone out for my first proper attempt at sarging, I did have a sort of trial run back on xmas eve with my housemate with the objective just being to open some sets and get used to thinking like a PUA. My housemate is also single decent looking chap to a perfect wingman to have on hand. That went well so i resolved to step it up properly on Friday. Now.. to be honest I did lack the self control to not get a bit drunk mainly due to running into friends when I was out and teh whole thing just going a bit mental which does seem to happen to me an awful lot. Still I kept up with trying to apply my game and I opened several sets.
Had one interesting/strange encounter when this girl sat down a way from me caught my eye and gestured me over, I admit I was too hesitant in my response, I knew I was doing it as well, but I am sure you are all aware of the nagging insecurities that can catch you even when you are feeling your best. Anyyay, she caught my eye again a couple of minutes later and gestured this time so I went for it, opened with a mediocre opener of 'hi, I am houseaddict, what's your name?' never mind though seemed to go ok from there and she said she was wondering if I would come over and I had a bit of a self depreciating joke about it. After this her friend jumps in between us and states that 'She's a lesbian you know, that's her wife there', turns out this was indeed the case. Still I thought there is no time like the present to DHV by having some fun chatting to them and it is all practise So the girl who jumped in was a bit of a Bitch Shield for the other one, I did manage to neutralise her quite well but for the life of me can't remember how I did it! (definitely a reason to not drink much). The girl who originally made eye contact with me did tell me that I was 'a great looking guy' which is why she had brought me over (if somebody could explain what the hell this is about to me I would be interested to hear) that gave me a nice boost and I did have fantastic night after that.
Spoke to quite a few sets after that, after talking to maybe 10 - 12 women across 2 bars I started talking to this one HB 7.5 girl who I got back to my house with her mate for an after party. I will try and recount what happened and where I think I made mistakes, would love to hear any suggestions you have.
So, at first when I turn to this girl there is a bit of an argument going on with my mate (my mate, the cock blocking fool lunatic that he is. Bloody liability to have around on this kind of mission I can assure you all of that!.) basically making a tit of himself . This came about because my lunatic friend was trying to get my housemate in with her and this girls friend had said 'I think he is a bit too old for her' and then my idiot friend had had a go at her about being ageist and this is where I stepped in and it was not an ideal starting position.
I said 'Well, you know you're right we are all older that is fair comment. Just ignore anything he says he is a muppet'
After that I went on to comment on how 'an older guy might not be the worst choice' Mistake this I think, later on when I was back at my place talking to her she said she found me a little creepy at first but that I had grown on her quickly. I have thought about it and I think it really was my semi defensive comment about age. I should have just skipped right past it like it's not an issue.
I managed to build enough attraction with her to get her to leave with us, as well as asking for a cigarette cheekily (compliance) and we went to another bar because the one we were in was closing. We hit another place and had one in there, continuted to build comfort and got her and her friend to agree to come back to my place for an after party. This was great because these two girls are 22 year old students and our place is really really nice, clean, tidy and made a good impression. Unfortunately my cockblocking mate and his friend showed up so it was difficult to isolate her, she actually initiated touching me and I responded to that. I did manage to get her up to my room but iw asn't making the best choices by this point and messed about on my decks while chatting sh1t about my love of house music. Hopefully that's a DHV and not just me blowing a good opportunity for f-close. After chatting some more (I am a fool, a fool I tell you) we went back to the party. They stayed and partied with us and left early afternoon, I got her number as she left and she said 'text me'. So still on I reckon.
Few hours later I dropped her a text to say 'hi it's house addict from last nights shenannigans, here's my number catch you later
Straight out of gunsandglory's texting thread, so thank you for that thread mate. I haven't heard back yet but I am not expecting to until maybe tomorrow and I am not sweating it. This year is gonna be great and if this opportunity does or doesn't pan out, there will be more.