For my age, I am a complete amateur and picking up women. I don't have any problem attracting them and can even establish rapport. However, when it comes to actually getting her to "let me in," on more than one occasion things come to a stop. There is always something that gets in the way. For example, I went to a nightclub the other night and there wasn't very many people there, since it was a weeknight. There were 3 women dancing together, so I headed up to them and just then the song ended. Two of them didn't see me and left to the bar. The 3rd saw me and immediately reached her hands out to me to dance. Fortunately, she was the hottest of the 3. When, I get right up to her, she suddenly stepped back and said, "wait a minute, I KNOW you!.' I had no idea who she was and it turned out that she was an underling where I work, but I had no clue who she was, but I managed to make things right about it. Anyway, we danced about 2 or 3 songs and were practically fornicating on the dance floor. She had me kiss the back of her neck and moved my hands to feel her EVERYWHERE, while she rubbed and tugged at my various parts. After a while we took a break and I led her to an adjacent bar where we started building rapport. ... more than once she said that she was freaked out, because she didn't want a relationship with anyone where she worked (I also had my doubts, but was extremely horny and would have closed). I countered that we weren't going to have a relationship, just fun, etc., which seemed to relax her, so we continued kissing, etc. Finally, she seemed to force herself away from the situation and left to the bathroom. So, assuming I was dumped, I went and started dancing with another woman who was about the same level of hotness (not a large variety that night). Then the 1st woman comes back and starts dancing with the both of us and makes a sandwich out of the new girl by putting her arms around her and pulling be by the belt so we are both grinding groins. 1st girl heads out the door, saying she has to get back to her kid at home. I wasn't interested in the 2nd girl, who seemed like she was gonna take too much time to get her where I wanted, so I decided to leave. As I was leaving I passed my target, who was talking to some friends, and lightly patted her shoulder and gave what I think is a subtle wave as I got into my car and left, she turned and looked at me with a surprised look, but I'm not sure if it she was surprised that I had 'followed' her to the parking lot and this seemed creepy, or if she was surprised that I was actually leaving, or what. WHAT should I have done differently? And how can I keep from repeating the same mistakes. I've had women actually start walking back to my place with me, etc. and then change their minds at the last minute. Once I brought a woman to orgasm by rubbing her, clothes on, and then she became "all moral" and would not reciprocate. What am I doing wrong?! The starts are not too shabby, the end conclusion leaves much to be desired. Also, I'm mostly in it for one night stands, NSA, sex on the 1st encounter situations, with not much contact afterwards, since I'm actually married, and am not looking for a relationship, just adventurous sex. Please help!