Screening the Women

I dated a girl back when I was an afc. I basically made every AFC mistake in the book and not surprisingly she lost interest. Now that I've been learning from the PUA community I have been correcting my problems and coming off as much higher value to people. Anyway, this semester me and this girl are in a couple classes together. I ignored her for a few weeks and then she started sending me all these IOIs. Finally I talked to her again, and she's obviously very interested again.

I'm trying to come up with a good way to give her the impression that I am screening her (i.e. "what are your three best qualities other than your looks?"), but the problem is that I already know a lot about her from before, so if I just ask something direct it will seem strange.

Basically I'm trying to convey that I have a lot of options, trying to make her chase me, trying to make her work to "win me over". I feel like I need to establish these things if there is any hope of the relationship working smoothly this time around.

You DO need to bust on her for it, and THEN freeze her out. Act like she doesn't affect you ONE WAY OR ANOTHER. At first she'll probably not care, but after a while, she will probably wonder why you don't care when you keep busting on her. The point is, she HAS TO KNOW that you don't care whether she likes you or not, so DON'T show any ioi's. NONE. Just keep your frame bigger and stronger than hers is. YOU are the catch, NOT her.

I have a theory about what's going on with her and why she seems so hot/cold all the time. Part of it was probably because I created a lot of uncomfortable situations it the past and after a while she started to avoid further awkwardness. But I think the big thing is that she expects me to take the lead with everything, and never to make her lead or ask her what she wants. It's not natural for me to think this way, but I'm going to try it.

Last week when I broke the ice again, I just walked up to her in our drawing class and told her that I had a "plan". She seemed excited/amused by the idea and went along with it. My "plan" was that we were going to switch drawings half-way through the class to confuse the professor, who was going around and making comments/suggestions. He didn't think it was very funny but we got a kick out of it. Also, she started complimenting me on my art abilities.

Anyhow, a couple of days ago I saw her outside of class and I beckoned her over and told her, "Keep in mind... that it's your turn to come up with a plan." And she said "Oh, no. I hate you! (in a playful tone)".

The next class is on monday. At this point I'm ready to just take it to the limit. I'll get there early to see if she sits next to me. If she does, it's on. I've got a bunch of routines in mind to exhibit a cocky-funny attitude and stronger leadership characteristics, and hopefully some kino (that was one of the biggest problems before.. I was too afraid to do much kino). If she doesn't sit next to me I'll walk by and say, "You didn't come up with a plan, did you?" and go from there.

I'm ready to just take this where ever it's going to go and get it resolved. It's gone on too long and I've suffered way too much heartache over it. I'm trying to just treat her like an experiment at this point, see if my theory works and if not I can finally just label it over.

Wow, didn't mean to make such a long post.

what needs to be done is this, take her to a party of some sort... mingle with other women in front of her... and be C&F with the other girls and make sure your girl sees you talking to these women and making them laugh... maybe run the 3 blind mice routine with these other women while neging her... go from set after set rolling off and coming back... you'll start to get her attention then....