There is this girl at work that Iíve known for nearly a year now. In the past there has been a lot of flirting between us (both face to face and via email), but as she had a long term boyfriend who now lives with her I didnít pursue things. Plus, as there was someone else at work that I liked even more, my mind was taken off this one. Therefore, things fizzled out and the flirting and conversations between this girl and I became far less frequent, and there was less flirting in the conversations. Then, in the last month, her boyfriend actually got a job in the same company as us surprisingly (on a different floor), so I actively cut down the flirting with her. As an aside, I have actually met her boyfriend through another friend of mine (who is good friends with her and her bf).
However, yesterday several of us (including her boy friend) went out for drinks after work. Even before we got to the pub that evening she was walking with me and talking to me (while her boyfriend was already at the pub before we left with some other colleagues). Then at the pub while we were all standing around outside with our drinks, she was very chatty with me and even gave me a couple of playful hits during the conversation (Iím sure people around us and her boyfriend must have seen this). She seemed more interested in talking to me than her boyfriend and anyone else. In fact, in the entire time she was out (around an hour before her and her bf left), she must have been talking to me for 80-90% of that time. Though, because of her bf being there I made sure I didnít actively flirt with her in the conversation, that my body language wasnít too open (standing sideways to her with my head turned round to her), and that I didnít use any kino on her (I normally would use a little on her). Near the end of our conversation her bf joined us and while he was just talking normally with us, he was actually giving me some strong eye contact and was staring me out a couple of times.
Now, Iím not asking whether I should pursue this as I know that would be entering dangerous territory, and Iíd like to think I am not one of those sleazes that would actively ruin a relationship. What I am wandering is why would she do that, and how do I play it from here? She is not a ďslutĒ and doesnít really flirt with other guys in the office, so Iím confused as to why she would do that? Donít get me wrong, itís not like she never flirted with me in the past and suddenly is now, itís that other peopleís and her boyfriendís presence almost encouraged the flirting, bizarrely.