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    Tyranid2k is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default She gave plenty of signs - did I fail? Unsure...

    Hi,
    please evaluate the following:

    Through an onlinedating site I met a nice women. She had no pic uploaded (I had) but the profile was cool so I took the chance. After a couple of messages I was like "wow". Then she offered me to share Facebook profiles. Well, it doesn't get much better than this...we wrote facebook messages about once per day until we finally met 2 weeks later. Up to this point it was just a nice contact, but in our date she completely swept me off my feet.

    To my surprise she greeted me with a kiss on the cheek telling me I was smelling good, she physically teased me a couple of times, she was smiling at me like all night, she was interested in what I was doing in work etc... However I was somewhat passive, even when we had a walk after dinner I couldnt overcome my shyness to take her hand or something. Obviously I also didnt kiss her when we said goodbye even though I saw all the signs and knew she wouldnt reject it. I only acted "correctly" once, when she told me in the middle of the conversation that she felt warm and touched her cheek, I also did and confirmed (in fact it was true lol). Besides the fact that I'm an idiot, do you think that my behaviour scared her off or should I assume that she really likes me and maybe even finds my shyness "interesting"? While she agreed on seeing me again (before the failed goodbye where I briefly hugged her), I just feel that she expected more and might think that I'm asexual/nerd/not interested.

    After that night I wrote her on facebook again and thanked her for the nice evening. Reply took 2 days.I know she is busy with exams and I saw that she didnt login to the onlinedating site either. However, the day she replied me, she did login there too. So...what's the deal? did I fail or will I get a 2nd chance on the 2nd date? Or would she just meet with me again on a "friend" basis (no romantic intention)

    thanks for reading

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    Default Re: She gave plenty of signs - did I fail? Unsure...

    I loved your evaluation of yourself ('Besides the fact I'm an idiot'). But seriously, if she wants to have another date there's nothing you have to worry about. Just do the things you know you should next time.

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    Tyranid2k is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: She gave plenty of signs - did I fail? Unsure...

    Thanks for your input. Well then I guess I'll have to wait until she has finished her exams.

    One more thing, considering the description, how far do you think I can/should go next time?

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    Default Re: She gave plenty of signs - did I fail? Unsure...

    She does sound like she's into you so if you didn't do it last time, try it next time you get a date with her. Try to kiss her on the lips when saying goodbye. Kino, kino, kino and build rapport!

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    Tyranid2k is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: She gave plenty of signs - did I fail? Unsure...

    Update: after a few days I texted her asking how the first exam went.She replied, but it was kind of obvious that she was thinking I was trying too hard to get involved in her "daily life" (I wouldnt count 2 fb mess. and 1 text in 1 week as trying too hard though).

    Anyway I was kind of pissed myself so I decided to completely abort contact for 2 weeks until she finished her exams and then give it a try for the second date. To my surprise she texted me a day later asking stuff about school. She is now also logging in on the datingsite on a daily basis again so she obviously searches for new contacts.

    What I think:
    -stressed
    -bored
    -high maintenance

    Questions:
    -should I keep it low, answer her questions and not initiate a further conversation / call to action? (meaning no questions myself)
    -should my messages still be on an "interested" level or should I write on a rather neutral/cold level? tease?
    -can a few (nice and MAYBE a little too involved) text messages completely destroy the obvious interest she showed on the date?
    -should I also login to the dating site again to show her that I didnt "commit" in any way? Could this be interpreted "also not interested anymore"?
    -in short: what should I do

    Well I'm obviously confused and actually don't want to play these games, but somehow they are all alike...thanks for your advice

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    Default Re: She gave plenty of signs - did I fail? Unsure...

    Call her, ask her out. If she refuses, ask for another date. Repeat 3 times (about 5-7 days in between each time) and if she rejects all, then you're done. More fish in the sea. If she goes out with you again, then this time, get your game on! Shouldn't be too hard with all those signals she gave last time.

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    Default Re: She gave plenty of signs - did I fail? Unsure...

    thanks dude, I'll do that. wish me luck nice weekend to all


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