So I'm not sure if I'm definitely in the LBJF zone or if there is still something I can do to save it.. Started talking to this girl from work about 3 months ago, but known her for 6 prior to that. Added her on fb, then something happened at work so I sent her a PM to see if she was ok & she was quite receptive. Chatted for a while. One night I was out, she was supposed to be too so I PM'd her my number & she started texting me straight away & for a while that night..
Unknown to me she had a kinda friends with benefits (that she was head over heels for) thing going on at the time we met & he ended up not wanting what she did so it ended. She was pretty cut up & I was out one night, so was she & we met up for a drink but she kept messaging me after she left & eventually said she wanted me to come round give her cuddles - & well me being me, I went.
Since then I get like minimum 10 texts a day, everyday. I see her every other day. We hang out, get food, watch flicks. She will lay with her head on me, play with my hand, my hair, kiss me on the head sometimes & there is enough banter & playing/messing about for me to wonder if she is interested? I'm retarded when it comes to girls.. There has been no kissing or anything though.. & not all contact & touching is initiated by me either - I mean there are days I will say to myself "I'm not messaging her" & without fail, I will get one from her..
The things that make me think I'm FZ'd is that well she calls me her friend or technically her "fwend" in messages.. Says she loves me.. Calls me babe, gorgeous, tells me I'm a sweetheart etc.. She also chats about this other guy she is also talking to from work, who's not really receptive to her (this is a big warning bell to me).. & well honestly she is 21yo & I'm not really with it being almost 29 - is this maybe just how younger chicks are?? & it's not as though she's not had bf's in the past, I know she's been d1cked over & she left home when she was 16yo so seen a bit more than most 21yos.
Makes me nervous - the friends with benefits dude she was seeing when we met was her best friend prior to anything sexual happening - I just don't know. I'm trying to make sure she sees me as a man, like a sexual creature & not just a friend but I don't wanna lose a friend - but if there is an opportunity there I think I'd like to take it. I always walk her to her car & always get a kiss on the cheek & a proper cuddle when she leaves. I'm not interested in gaming her or playing her - I don't really do one nighters..
Any help is really appreciated.