First of all glad to be here as a new member of this exciting community.
After reading The Game I got interested in pickup. At first I just read it for entertainment value but now I'm starting to notice all the usefullness and actually started thinking about my life and relationships with girls.
And I'm actually not quite happy about it. I'm 24 years old and only had 1! sexual partner. I've been a busy man so I've never really given much thought about it, and quite frankly am happy with my life, career, friends and I do a lot of stuff. Just the only thing that's lacking is girls.
I'm not that bad looking, not a supermodel either but let's say I'm above average, am in shape, have 2 Master degrees, a good paying job and know a lot of people. So you could say I'm blessed to be capable of showing some demonstration of high value (can someone explain to me to put this as a link like you all seem to do, thanks . Still I'm having troubles getting layed!
And I think I know why and it's quite the classic case: I'm quite an introverted guy. I tend to get nervous around them, or at social gatherings. My mechanism to cope with this is to get overly cool and distant, crack a few jokes and just act all chilled out. I guess this gives some girls that I could potentially lay the idea I don't give a crap about them.
I have 2 major issues: I overthink and overanalyse a lot, to the point where I say: screw it, if I say something now after all this time it won't be spontanious and just plain weird so I blew my chance. Secondly, if I by any chance end up in a conversation with a girl, (which in most cases the girl started) I cant keep it going, don't know what to talk about, how to make her laugh etc.
Now I know some of you might instantly say I have to see myself as higher value than the girl, and I tried to do it some times, but I guess this gives them that feeling again that I'm too cool, or I'm not in the mood of talking.
Now that you have a brief summary of my situation, I would like to ask a few questions. I want to start doing something about my main problem, and that's my shyness. By now I can pretty much get over my nervousness but I just don't know what to say; Have you guys got any conversation starters or backup plans to keep conversations going? Some tips and techniques? Some Usefull E-books? I am going to search around this forum obviously but I'm very much interested in your opinions and recommendations. I want to really get deep into this subject first, so I can feel confident with women right from the start.
Sorry for any language mistakes since English isn't my native language. Thanks for reading and I look forward to your replies. Big thanks and glad to be here.