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  1. #1
    MyScreennameRocks is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default I couldn't have messed this up.

    So i got a message on okcupid from a girl who's an HB9. I replied the next day. The exchange went like this:

    Her: Hi cutie pie! Apparently we are an
    86% match. How is your week going?


    Me: Hmmm we're also a 92% friends-6%
    greater odds that will work. Maybe I
    should just friendzone you right
    now, so we don't start dating, then
    break up and wind up at each
    other's throats later?
    My week's going great, I'm off today
    and it's nice and sunny, I love it.
    Tell me me a random, interesting
    fact about you that I won't learn by
    reading your profile.

    That was two days ago. I haven't heard back from her, and seeing as how she's been online several times since, I doubt I will.

    I was trying to be a little detached, yet humorous, while not acting like "Omg wow a hot girl msgd me."

    wtf did I do wrong?

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    RedCase is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I couldn't have messed this up.

    It was probably just a little much for her all up front. Though if understood correctly it's pretty funny, it just might not have been what she wanted to hear. You can't read minds; if it was what you really wanted to say and you enjoyed saying it as a reflection of your real personality, you did the right thing and maybe you pushed off a girl that wouldn't have worked well with you anyway.

    Or maybe she's just biding her time. Either way, good luck and keep at it.

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    Default Re: I couldn't have messed this up.

    You overdid it. Look at the size of her message compared to yours. You should have just sent the second half of the message, it's way more positive and simple. Instead you implant the image of the two of you "at each other's throats" right off the bat. You have to be careful with sarcasm, it doesn't always translate well in text form.

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    Default Re: I couldn't have messed this up.

    Online dating is a bit more complicated, especially at a dating website where people's compatability is in an actual scored based on a questionare. By telling her she should be friend zoned she got discouraged. Play hard to get but realize that should be saved more so for an actual face to face meeting.
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

    The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.
    ― Flannery O'Connor

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    MyScreennameRocks is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I couldn't have messed this up.

    I don't wanna let this one get away. She's tall, blonde, athletic body with D's and easily better than anything I've ever dated/had sex with.

    If you guys could give me a way to salvage this I would greatly appreciate it.

    I was thinking something along the lines of, "don't worry, I was just joking. I am positive you and I will get along great".

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    Default Re: I couldn't have messed this up.

    Legato is right. If you just put in the last half of your message, I think that would sound much more genuine and real.
    "My week's going great, I'm off today
    and it's nice and sunny, I love it.
    Tell me me a random, interesting
    fact about you that I won't learn by
    reading your profile."

    When I read your reply to her, I remember reading that somewhere. It's like you copied and pasted it from a pick up book. (I know because I've done the same thing, LOL) Sometimes we get so deep into pick up that we forget just to be ourselves...

    As far as what can you do to salvage this one? Look at online dating like a learning tool. It's more important to learn the lesson than it is to get the girl. Once you learn the lesson, you can get any girl. And don't worry, there are literally MILLIONS of hot women available RIGHT NOW. Go message 30 others and this one will fade into the background.

    And remember, only go for the ones you are really attracted to. Keep up the good work!

    ~Steve

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    RedCase is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I couldn't have messed this up.

    "I don't wanna let this one get away"? You already lost if you're thinking like that. At this point, probably not a good chance. You may as well just experiment with it and have fun with it. See if you can salvage it, but don't expect a magic line that's going to make it right. Just be you and hope for the best. And keep looking. There are other hot girls with big jugs. Don't worry.

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    MyScreennameRocks is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I couldn't have messed this up.

    Okay update. I messaged her with:

    "Oops I just realized my message
    might've been taken the wrong way!
    lol Sometimes humor doesn't
    translate well into text/type.
    I was joking about the friendzone
    thing. I am 100 percent positive you
    and I will get along great.
    Hope you have a great weekend!"

    S
    he finally replied with:

    "lol, no worries. I feel like we would
    get along quite well. My week has
    been crazy. I randomly woke up and
    now I cant sleep...lol. How had your
    week been going?"

    Looks like all is not lost.


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