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    Markymarc206 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Not sure where to go from here?

    Hey everyone, I am new to this site and like everyone else looking for a bit of advice.

    Anyways, I've been into this girl for a little over a year now and we talk daily. We started out as just friends and I would say through the year are "friendship" has progressed. We haven't had sex, the most we've done was just cuddle in bed.

    Got up the courage about two weeks ago and told her how I felt and it went pretty good, she told me that she thought about dating me and we talked the rest of that night about it. We went to bed and the next morning I decided to ask her out over breakfast and she just started saying that she isn't right for me because she nags to much, and wasn't sure if I could handle it. She was acting totally different than the night before. Basically throwing out excuses.

    She sent me a text later that day saying that she isn't ready for a relationship with me "right now" and she doesn't want to ruin our friendship.

    What I am confused about is, why would she act like she is so into me, tell me stuff that she hasn't before, admit that she wants to date me. Then turn around almost like she is scared of something.

    By the way, she is in the military and she did just deploy for 8 months. Maybe she'll be ready then, I don't know. What do you guys think?

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    Default Re: Not sure where to go from here?

    Hey Markymarc206,

    You, my friend, are in the dreaded friend zone or "let's just be friends." The main reason for this is that there has been too much connection and not enough masculinity.

    It's also not a good idea to confess your love to a woman. The reason for this is that emotions tend to be associated with female energy. So when you confess your feelings it actually works against you by eating away at your masculinity.

    So there is a double whammy here.

    Whilst she's deployed it worth focusing on developing your game. There are tons of resources on this forum. Here's a great link:The Newbie Guide

    All the best
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    Default Re: Not sure where to go from here?

    rs5096's post is completely true. Also, you wrote that 'she told you she thought about dating you'. That places her in charge and makes her the one picking her mate. That role should be yours. You pick HER. That mistake came from confessing her you liked her while she had no feelings for you yet. It placed her on top. Furthermore, you're defenitely in the friend zone if you've known her for a year. There is plenty of info on that on these forums and elsewhere. Look it up.

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    Default Re: Not sure where to go from here?

    Thanks for the advice, I thought I might be there. It was clearly in front of me the whole time. I am going to have to read the game, and the rules of the game. I will also check out the newbie guide.


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