Re: possibly figured out my problem with picking up women
It's not an "I don't care" attitue toward everythng. It's an "I don't care" attitude in regard to what other people think (about you).
You want them to know you care, about them, enough to show them there is an opportunity. You don't want them to have the ability to control your movements. Many men fail this.
Yes, women chase men who are not inerested in them. Usually, they are acting on a perceived advance and/or trying to prove to themselves they are in control.
How do you have balance? Be willing to walk away. If you can invest all and walk away, there is nothing that can be held above you.
Try this: approach a woman and do something nice for her while flirting with her. Do eveything you would do in trying to pick her up, but add a really kind gesture or a small gift. No matter how she responds, be friendly. Then, walk away. No number exchange, no kiss.
I have failed more than most men have tried.
Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.