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    kingkickass101 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default possibly figured out my problem with picking up women

    So I had a weird dream and woke up to write this down at 5 AM. Basically I've figured out, or atleast I think I have, what my major obsticle with women is. I know that if you ignore them/convey that you don't care they tend to stick around. In many cases this alone will get them attracted to you. But if I'm attracted to a girl it tends to get difficult for me to do this. Also I feel that I should convey to them that I am attracted but am unable to do so without coming accross as needy.
    So I think my question is how to do these two things or find a balance between the two; having the 'i don't care' attitude, but still let the gir know I'm interested.

    Am I missing something?
    I've had a lot of girls I'm not interested in want me. And the ones I am interested in, might want me at first, but as soon as I show interest they lose interest.

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    Default Re: possibly figured out my problem with picking up women

    It's not an "I don't care" attitue toward everythng. It's an "I don't care" attitude in regard to what other people think (about you).

    You want them to know you care, about them, enough to show them there is an opportunity. You don't want them to have the ability to control your movements. Many men fail this.

    Yes, women chase men who are not inerested in them. Usually, they are acting on a perceived advance and/or trying to prove to themselves they are in control.

    How do you have balance? Be willing to walk away. If you can invest all and walk away, there is nothing that can be held above you.

    Try this: approach a woman and do something nice for her while flirting with her. Do eveything you would do in trying to pick her up, but add a really kind gesture or a small gift. No matter how she responds, be friendly. Then, walk away. No number exchange, no kiss.
    I have failed more than most men have tried.

    Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.

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    kingkickass101 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: possibly figured out my problem with picking up women

    Its been a while since I was on here, thanks for the advice. It makes sense but I see that my problem is with girls I'm attracted to. I show interest, let them know it, but it seems it always falls through afterwords. I can never get them to show the same interest as me.
    Even after walking away, its like I don't know if I should walk away because they aren't going to follow. This has left me confused...

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    Default Re: possibly figured out my problem with picking up women

    When you walk away and you don't care if they follow or not... that's what you want to achieve.


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