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    Gone61 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default GF for 3 years, ever since break-up i have struggled with girls..

    Hey!
    I am 21 years old and i have never had problems with girls until when my GF and I broke up. before i got my GF i was never used to "hit" on girls, it was just natural, and often more the opposite(girls found me sort of). anyway, i got a GF when i was 17 and she was really good looking aswell. While we were together i felt like other girls kind of wanted me more?, and kind of made my GF jealous at times( which i enjoyed). Anyway, my problem is that after i broke up with my GF(we were together for 3 years)I have lost all my confidence and i feel like i cant "act normal" around women anymore. I know that i am fairly goodlooking, and get a lot of "eyecontact" but my eyes just move away right away and it so frustrating!! Is there anyway i can practice on or improve my skills of eyecontact and just acting smooth around women?

    Appreciate any help,
    thanks

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    Default Re: GF for 3 years, ever since break-up i have struggled with girls..

    Opposite happened to me. I was a dorkster until I had my first serious relationship. She turned out to be crazy and I dumped her, but after that, I was much better with women because she made me feel like such a valuable male, the way she begged to stay together. Major confidence booster. So maybe the breakup made you feel less valuable? Who broke up with who? Anyway, you might have to start from scratch and go to clubs and do the approach anxiety breaker exercise where you talk to random women and just say whatever. Start drunk if you have to but gradually, you gotta do it sober and alert. If you used to be smooth, then it will come back with this exercise.

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    Default Re: GF for 3 years, ever since break-up i have struggled with girls..

    Hi,

    This is quite normal for breakups as sparta said it really depends on who broke up with who, and what confidence you went in the relationship with but most importantly what woman you were with.

    There are two types of girls in this world.

    1. Those that make their man feel like the best thing in the world.
    2. Those that put down their men because they actually have a need to do it ( never understood this type).

    Having said that you need to go back a bit, stop and understand that she put you down and she's a B... bimbo. you need to see you for yourself and boost your ego, the best way to do this I find, is to get girls that are close to you and tell them your feeling down. They can quickly be a short term ego boost.

    Furthermore, I also agree with Sparta that you need to go out and slowly build your confidence, do not approach the woman to pick them up, see them as potential friends, do not try moves or whatever just learn to approach and make friends with them, when they realise you are just being friendly they will lower their shield ( this is not a rule so be careful).

    So remember the steps Reflect> rebuild > Get yourself out there.

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    Gone61 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: GF for 3 years, ever since break-up i have struggled with girls..

    I was moving away to another city to study so we kind of agreed that we couldnt stay together. But the thing is I dont even miss her, I just wanna get back my "groove". Its like I tend to "shy out" if u can call it that.

    I will defenetly try some of your suggestions out!

    Btw are girls more shy-like when they get older?, like they expect guys to do all the work?


    thanks for your replies guys

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    Default Re: GF for 3 years, ever since break-up i have struggled with girls..

    My advice, Start your new single life like a pro.

    All the MPUA's always start with solid research! Get the foundations sorted and you will create tools that will set you up for life with amazing skills with women.

    Step one - Buy "The Game" By Neil Strauss.

    Step Two - Read it cover to cover, TWICE! At least.

    Step Three - Take notes, learn the books stories, metaphors and skills.

    Step Four - Come back here and learn how to put it all together.

    If you do anything else, then good luck but if you ask any of the forum experts I'm sure they will agree with me.

    ~Astro
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    Default Re: GF for 3 years, ever since break-up i have struggled with girls..

    I don't know about the age thing. There is nothing remotely shy about a girl who is 36 and not married. But in any case, whether or not they expect you to do all the work depends on the girl, but for you to be prepared, you should be ready to do all the work.


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